Reblog of a post from 2018; Mental Health and Holiday Season!

Sharing this post as a part of Fandango Friday Flashback

Beckie is the host of Working on Us.

She says;

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

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Self care quotes, mental health quotes

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

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The holiday season can be stressful. Practicing self care and following these ways to deal with holiday anxiety and to deal with holiday stress and even holiday depression can make a significant difference.

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In this week’s “Working on Us”, I’d like for us to focus on Mental Health and Holiday Stress.  It’s not uncommon that a number of us are dealing with depression, (SAD), Seasonal Affective Disorders, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, and just plain… Not being in the holiday spirit.  

Some of us are dealing with feelings of despair, loneliness, and/or isolation.  Guess what?  You’re not alone with feeling what your feeling at all.  And, as we all say… “It’s okay to not feel okay.”

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macaulay culkin happy holidays GIF by Home Alone

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For those of us who are having a tough time, why don’t we try to send a little holiday cheer to make one another smile and laugh?

  • Write about a favorite holiday memory?
  • What was one of the funniest things that took place during the holiday season?
  • Share with us, your favorite holiday movie?
  • Share with us, your favorite holiday song?
  • Share with us, a funny holiday meme?
  • What was the funniest gift you ever received?

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Rules:

  • Write your own post and create a pingback to the original post here.
  • There are no right or wrong answers.  Write in any format you see fit.  (Answer’s, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, poem, short prose…anything, and/or narrative).
  • You can do one or all prompts.
  • Please reblog the original post in order to spread more awareness.
  • ( If you the blogger have a suggestion/question you want to ask in the future weeks, please submit them in the comment section of this post).
  • Plus, as an added bonus, whoever responds to the following prompts will automatically be reblogged to promote your blog site and spread more awareness!

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My favorite holiday memories;

This holiday memory dated back to my childhood. That means it’s around fifty years old.

In holidays we visited my aunt who lived in a seaside city. We were very excited as we were going by train. It was the most wonderful journey for children of our age, that is; 10, 8 and 7 and we enjoyed it to the fullest. We spend a night on the train and had a lot of fun.

Once at my aunt’s place, we visited the ocean for the first time in our lives. And you can imagine how excited we were. The boat rides, the beach visits all were so memorable!

My favorite holiday movie;

Is not a holiday movie at all. I love all animated movies and anyone of them would be my favorite during holiday season.

Kung Fu Panda – 3

https://youtu.be/fkorWPoi6E0

Frozen

https://youtu.be/KgaTy0CKDQw

Holiday meme;

Song;

Pharrell Williams-Happy

https://youtu.be/ZbZSe6N_BXs

Hope you all will enjoy!

Happy holidays.

#Keepitalive

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Working on us Week # 27- Mental Health and Holiday Season!

Beckie is the host of Working on Us.

She says;

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

~💚~

Self care quotes, mental health quotes

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

~💚~

The holiday season can be stressful. Practicing self care and following these ways to deal with holiday anxiety and to deal with holiday stress and even holiday depression can make a significant difference.

~💚~

In this week’s “Working on Us”, I’d like for us to focus on Mental Health and Holiday Stress.  It’s not uncommon that a number of us are dealing with depression, (SAD), Seasonal Affective Disorders, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, and just plain… Not being in the holiday spirit.  

Some of us are dealing with feelings of despair, loneliness, and/or isolation.  Guess what?  You’re not alone with feeling what your feeling at all.  And, as we all say… “It’s okay to not feel okay.”

I myself, have been dealing with these feelings.  Heck, I haven’t even set up the little Christmas tree I purchased last year.  

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macaulay culkin happy holidays GIF by Home Alone

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For those of us who are having a tough time, why don’t we try to send a little holiday cheer to make one another smile and laugh?

  • Write about a favorite holiday memory?
  • What was one of the funniest things that took place during the holiday season?
  • Share with us, your favorite holiday movie?
  • Share with us, your favorite holiday song?
  • Share with us, a funny holiday meme?
  • What was the funniest gift you ever received?

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Rules:

  • Write your own post and create a pingback to the original post here.
  • There are no right or wrong answers.  Write in any format you see fit.  (Answer’s, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, poem, short prose…anything, and/or narrative).
  • You can do one or all prompts.
  • You have from December 18th through December 27th to submit your entries,  (Friday).

  • Please reblog the original post in order to spread more awareness.
  • ( If you the blogger have a suggestion/question you want to ask in the future weeks, please submit them in the comment section of this post).
  • Plus, as an added bonus, whoever responds to the following prompts will automatically be reblogged to promote your blog site and spread more awareness!

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My favorite holiday memories;

This holiday memory dated back to my childhood. That means it’s around fifty years old.

In holidays we visited my aunt who lived in a seaside city. We were very excited as we were going by train. It was the most wonderful journey for children of our age, that is; 10, 8 and 7 and we enjoyed it to the fullest. We spend a night on the train and had a lot of fun.

Once at my aunt’s place, we visited the ocean for the first time in our lives. And you can imagine how excited we were. The boat rides, the beach visits all were so memorable!

My favorite holiday movie;

Is not a holiday movie at all. I love all animated movies and anyone of them would be my favorite during holiday season.

Kung Fu Panda – 3

https://youtu.be/fkorWPoi6E0

Frozen

https://youtu.be/KgaTy0CKDQw

Holiday meme;

Song;

Pharrell Williams-Happy

https://youtu.be/ZbZSe6N_BXs

Hope you all will enjoy!

Happy holidays.

#Keepitalive

#Workingonus

A reblog- December 18, 2019 “Working on Us” Week #27 Mental Health Blogging Community-Mental Health Series, Topic: Mental Health and Holiday Season — Beckie’s Mental Mess

 

Sharing Beckie’s post on Working On Us!

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. ~💚~ Before I begin Week #27, I’d like to share with you all the participants that had responded to Week #26, Topic: Codependency and Psychological Effects. ~💚~ Michelle, of “Michelle Writer Blog” https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/53286977/posts/2511001003 Melanie C., of “Sparks […]

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Working on us # 26- Codependency and it’s psychological effects

Beckie is the host of Working On Us

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

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This week on, “Working on Us”,  We’re going to explore the psychological effects of codependency.  The definition of codependency is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction. 

Note: The definition refers to “Partner”, this is not necessarily the case.  Family members and friends alike can be affected by codependency too.

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After reading this long list of signs of co-dependency, I have realized that I suffered from this condition for most of my adult life. I always thought that it was my personality type but now I realize that it was due to the trauma of losing my mom at a young age.

I was trying to please the grown-ups in my life, would take any critical opinion as a personal insult, would sacrifice my own needs for those of others and generally behave like a doormat. I also suffered from low self-esteem and was afraid of offending others by stating my views and opinions about anything. This went on for a long time even after I was married and not living under the oppressive circumstances that prevailed while living with my stepmother. The reason I think was that I had conditioned my thinking to be codependent.

I eventually broke out of this mold I had created for myself. It was a gradual transition, not an overnight change. I think what brought me out of this way of thinking and existing was that I grew in confidence. I realized my self-worth through the encouragement of my husband and family. I was made to feel that I mattered, my opinion mattered and that I was knowledgeable. These were empowering feelings and resulted in gradually cracking the walls that I had built around my emotions and needs.

Codependency is a very dangerous thing as the person themselves chooses this way of thinking and acting. They often undermine their own interests and are punishing themselves for the crimes they never committed. Taking responsibility for the mistakes of others and trying to please everyone are few of the onerous responsibilities they burden themselves with.

I hope that anyone who has this condition, should realize that they cannot carry the weight of pleasing everyone on their shoulders, and try to break out of this way of thinking.

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Facts about Codependency #codependency #NewHealthTips

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The route I’m choosing this week is to write a narrative if you or someone you know is codependent.  The reason behind me choosing the narrative is because there are so many facets and directions this particular topic covers.

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Healing codependency | codependency recovery | relationship problems | codepende... - #codepende #codependency #healing #problems #Recovery #Relationship

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See, I told you… Codependency is a long list of several different dimensions in which to go. When submitting your narrative please try to keep it to a 1500 word cap. I’d greatly appreciate it.

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Rules:

  • Write your own post and create a pingback to the original post here.
  • There are no right or wrong answers.  Write in any format you see fit.  (Answer’s, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, poem, short prose…anything, and/or narrative).
  • You can do one or all prompts.
  • You have from December 4th through December 10th to submit your entries.

  • Please reblog the original post in order to spread more awareness.
  • ( If you the blogger have a suggestion/question you want to ask in the future weeks, please submit them in the comment section of this post).
  • Let’s see if we can get some men involved in this week’s prompts, your viewpoint/feelings are validated here too!
  • Plus, as an added bonus, whoever responds to the following prompts will automatically be reblogged to promote your blog site and spread more awareness!

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you don’t owe anyone a second (or third or forth) chance to keep hurting you. if they loved + valued you, they would act like it... I promise. ~ xx M #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #codependency #quote #divorce #narcissism #abuserecovery

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Working on us- On being Grateful

Beckie is the host of Working On Us.

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

Are you dreading holiday stress and dealing with difficult family members this holiday season? The holidays are stressful for many of us. Self-care can help! 7 Ways to Practice Holiday Self Care from Sharon Martin, LCSW, counselor in San Jose.

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November 27th’s. Topic: Thankful & Grateful

 

That’s right, we are going to keep it lite this week. This is a week you can write anything your little heart desires, you just have to write about something you are thankful and grateful for.

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I am truly grateful for all that I am blessed with.

That was the easy part. An all-encompassing statement that includes everything.

But when it comes to counting the blessings we are thankful for, we really cannot do it. Starting from our own self, and continuing to what’s around us, we can take days to just list the things we are grateful for. It would require pages and pages to put into writing what we should give thanks for, consciously and subconsciously every day.

So today I will tell you what I am grateful for regarding my blogging world.

I wrote a post in answer to Dr. Tanya’s questions about blogging. In it, I cited my reasons for being grateful for my blog. So not to repeat myself, I would like to simplify;

I am grateful for my blogging friends!

I consider you all not only as my friends but my family. We have never met each other. We sometimes even don’t know what the other looks like, but we are such great friends.

Why?

I was asking myself this question yesterday. I think the friendships that I have in the blogging world are more deep and sincere than most of my “real life” friendships. The reason is that we just know each other’s souls and spirit. We are not distracted by appearances or habits. We just get to know each other’s minds and thoughts and that is what matters in friendship. We support each other through difficult times and share in the joy as well.

When need be, we vent out our frustrations and grievances on our blogs. We listen to each other. We critique and offer advice and sometimes even correct grammar and spelling/ typos too. This sure is something we all should give thanks to.

So a very grateful thanks to all my blogging friends. You guys are the best.

#Keepitalive

#WorkingOnUs

#Gratitude

Working on us # 24- Managing Your Mental health during Holidays

Beckie is hosting this series to create awareness about mental health,

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Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

Topic: Managing Good Mental Health During The Holiday Season:

Question Prompt:

1. Do you have a stable relationship with your family and/or friends during the hustle and bustle of the holiday season?  If your answer is (YES), please give us an example of what the holidays are like with family and/or friends?  If you answered (NO), Please explain to us why not?

2. Do the holidays trigger certain memories of people, places, and things?

3. Do you have a favorite holiday, if so which one and why?  (Note: This does not have to be based on the current holidays coming up either).

4. If you stress out during the holidays, what is the best way that you handle stressors?

5. Do holidays tend to make you melancholy?  If so why? and how do you go about dealing with the depression that takes place?

6. This is a question that anyone can answer if they feel so inclined… Do you think that the holidays are shoved down our throats every year a little quicker with each passing year?  (Meaning, Halloween finished October 31st, and Christmas stuff was on the shelves October 15th), Does this trigger an emotion in you too early?

7. Does your family/friends show understanding and compassion during a moment that might be hard to handle on your own?

8. Do you even bother celebrating the holidays with family/friends?  If you answered this question (NO), what is it that you do during the holiday?  (If you answer, I try to sleep through it… It’s a fair answer).

9. Do you avoid holiday music and TV specials during this time?

Prompt #2

If you don’t feel comfortable answering these questions, you can write a narrative of your favorite holiday memory and the worse, but please explain why?

Rules:

• Write your own post and create a pingback to the original post here.

• There are no right or wrong answers.  Write in any format you see fit.  (Answer’s, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, poem, short prose…anything, and/or narrative).

• You can do one or all prompts.

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I really admire how Beckie is promoting mental health awareness and has opened up a discussion on many taboo subjects.

Holidays are always tough for most people, for those who are and those who aren’t suffering from any mental illness.

Holidays mean getting together of family.

Family members are often at odds with each other.

Family members who haven’t met each other for a long time.

And lastly, family members who have expectations from others, which are not likely to be met.

This is a recipe for stress if not outright disaster.

In the past, I would always invite my family and my husband’s family on holidays to have dinner together. But though I have an okay relationship with my brother and his family, the siblings of my husband were not so congenial. The dinner itself would be stressful but the gathering of so many people would invariably result in ruffled feathers of one or more people. There would be perceived slights to which either the older generation or their children would react. This went on until my father and my husband’s parents were alive. They expected us to host this dinner annually. After their passing away I gradually tapered off this tradition and now we just get together with our kids, with no pressure on them to come if they are busy elsewhere. Life has become so much easier this way!

The problem with family is that we expect too much. And too many people means too many egos. So I have fixed this problem by making the meal totally informal and just close family invited.

As for the commercialization of holidays and celebrations, this is such a sore point for me, as I am sure it is for a lot of us. They literally shove the days down our throats and want to make money by selling us stuff that we neither want nor need.

Someone, please make them stop!!!

I hope that in this narrative, I have answered most of the questions of prompt # 1.

Thanks, Beckie for another good topic.

#Keepitalive

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Working on Us- Week# 23- Medication

Beckie is the host of this series on mental health– Working On Us

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

Image result for pixabay medications

 

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

Question Prompt:

  1. When you first were diagnosed with your mental illness/disorder, did it take a while to get used to your medications that were prescribed to you?  If you answer the question, (YES), How did you feel initially?
  2. Depending on how long you have been on medication, how many times do you think it has been adjusted to make you feel stable?
  3. Have you ever had a bad reaction to medication?
  4. Have you ever suffered withdrawals from a certain type of medication, and if so… What type was it?
  5. Do you work closely with your doctor in regards to your medication intake?  (In other words, do you have a good relationship with your doctor?)
  6. Since your diagnosis, have you ever tried to not take medication and see if you can handle your symptoms of mental illness/disorders on your own?  If so, how did that work out for you?
  7. Tell us briefly how medication has affected your life?

Picture Prompt:

What do you see and how does it make you feel when you see this picture?

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Image result for pixabay medications

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 My response to the picture prompt;

Life hangs in limbo

A balance needs to be struck

These medications slow my mind

Makes it drowsy and it feels as if I am

Trudging through thick molasses when I try to think

Stopping the medications is not an option that I should consider

Learning to live with their various side-effects is where my well being lies

It is okay to feel a bit overwhelmed when starting the treatment because this is the way

To gain back the control that I need and want over my thoughts and reactions

It’s true that these prescriptions are digging a deep hole in my pocket

But nothing is more precious that my mental health, I know

So I bravely tackle both issues with steadfastness needed

Sticking with my regimen of medicines religiously

And not minding what it costs as long as I

Benefit and my health keeps on improving

My life is getting better because

I believe that it will

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I have had episodes of depression like many people. I have never used any medications for it, but have friends and family members who are under medications for treating depression, anxiety and other mental issues, I have seen how it effects them and their thinking. Being steadfast in continuing the medications and believing in the therapy, brings positive results.

#Keepitalive

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November 13, 2019 “Working on Us” Week #23 Mental Health Blogging Community-Mental Health Series, Topic: Medications — Beckie’s Mental Mess

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. ~💚~ Before I begin Week #23, I’d like to share with you all the participants that had responded to Week #22, Topic: Rejection and Overcoming Rejection. Some stories that have been shared were very personal and I […]

via November 13, 2019 “Working on Us” Week #23 Mental Health Blogging Community-Mental Health Series, Topic: Medications — Beckie’s Mental Mess

Working on Us- Week # 22- Fear of rejection

Beckie of Beckie’s Mental Mess is the creator of this challenge.

Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

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Week #22 Topic: Rejection and Overcoming Rejection

Why Do We Fear Rejection?

There are many facets to the fear of rejection. Here are some of the main reasons why you might fear being disliked and shunned:

  • You fear to be alone and isolated from others
  • You’re scared of having your worst fears confirmed, i.e. that you’re unlovable, stupid, ugly, worthless, a failure, etc.
  • You fear to have old trauma triggered, i.e. feelings of abandonment from childhood
  • You’re scared of the end product, i.e. plunging into depression, anxiety, self-loathing, etc.

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Questions Prompts:

  1. Have you ever been rejected by family/friends because of your mental illness/disorder?
  2. Has anyone mistreated you to the point you felt like you were nothing?
  3. Have you ever confronted the person/persons that have made you feel this way?
  4. If the answer to #3 is “Yes”, was anything resolved?
  5. Has rejection changed you in any way? ie… Self-Esteem, Depression, and/or changed your opinion the way you feel towards the human race as a whole?
  6. Or, has rejection done the opposite and made your stronger and more resilient?

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If you choose not to answer the questions and rather write a narrative about a certain situation, please feel free to.  For that matter, you can choose any way you want to handle this topic.  If you want to write a poem, short prose, etc… Please feel free to express yourself the way you would like to.

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Fear of Rejection

 

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

 

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My narrative;

I am sharing things from my own childhood, where I faced the fear of being alone.

One thing I must make clear that this post is not about self-pity. It is about overcoming obstacles thrown in our way by circumstances and life itself.

As I have mentioned before I lost my mother at the age of six. I had two brothers, one older and one younger to me. My father remarried after a couple of years. Things were going well but then my youngest brother was born. His birth heralded a change in my stepmom’s behavior. She became very possessive and jealous about us sharing our father’s love with our stepbrother. As he grew up, her insecurities grew too. She would be comparing what we got as in clothes etc. with what her son got. It was very petty-minded of her. Gradually life became very tough for us three siblings.

She tried to create a rift between us and our father. Though she was unsuccessful, she managed to create an atmosphere of resentment and tension in our home. Her jealousy drove her to the extent that she would lie about things or exaggerate them out of proportion to make us look bad. Luckily, we three siblings had a bond of love and a stronger bond of a common enemy to hold us together. We were always there for each other in our growing years. But as my brothers grew up they found activities and life outside the home to be more attractive and free from stress and hence they were not around that much when I hit teenage. I was a shy girl and didn’t have many friends.

At this time in my life, I faced a sense of isolation and fear of being alone in life. I felt that I was unwanted and useless and would often give in to bouts of self-pity and crying. It is a long saga, which continued till I got married and moved out of my father’s home. I don’t blame my father because we never told him what was going on. He was suffering from CAD (coronary artery disease) and any stress was bad for him. So, we suffered in silence.

But from this situation, I discovered my inner strength. Little by little, I started to feel good in myself. I always had my father’s love to support me, so I started to disregard the arrows of criticism and dislike aimed at me. My past formed me. Now I have achieved the mental state that I always wanted. Where I am not bothered about what others think of me or about my actions. I feel that having faced a tough time growing up, I have developed a resistance to being bullied. It has helped me overcome my fears of rejection as I know my own worth now.

The lesson learned is that people may want to subdue you, they may want you to feel unwanted or may try to isolate you, but you can overcome this by believing in yourself. By knowing your good qualities and by loving yourself.

 

#Keepitalive

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Working On Us- Week #21 – Addiction and Obsession

Beckie is spreading awareness through this series of posts, Working On Us.

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Hello, All! Welcome back to “Working on Us” – A series that represents people with mental health illnesses/disorders. 

Help Break The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

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Rules:

• Write your own post and create a pingback to the original post here.

• There are no right or wrong answers.  Write in any format you see fit.  (Answer’s, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, poem, short prose…anything, and/or narrative).

• You can do one or all prompts.

• You have from October 30th. through November 5th. to submit your entries.

• Please reblog the original post in order to spread more awareness.

• ( If you the blogger has a suggestion/question you want to ask in the future weeks, please submit them in the comment section of this post).

• Let’s see if we can get some men involved in this week’s prompts, your viewpoint/feelings are validated here too!

• Plus, as an added bonus, whoever responds to the following prompts will automatically be reblogged to promote your blog site and spread more awareness!

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Remember to create a pingback to this original post after you write your own post.  Also, remember that this is not a prompt-based post.  Please write a narrative.  I really look forward to your responses.  Or, maybe I should say “We” all look forward to one another’s responses.

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What is my addiction or obsession?

I have to admit that I have an addictive personality. Anything that seems good or appeals to me, becomes my addiction. I was addicted to playing games on my phone and it became such an obsession that I couldn’t let pass half an hour before I would open my game(s) and had to play. It would not matter if I was sitting with family or friends, I would play. It earned me a lot of chaff from them all but since I was addicted, I would ignore their justified protests and would take it all lightly. Some might say that this is not a serious thing, most people play games on their electronic devices. But if it becomes your focus for the day, the first thought that comes to you when you wake up, I would say it is an obsession or addiction.

My other and very long addiction is food.

We all have to eat to survive, but when food becomes an escape from all the problems of life, it becomes an addiction. I eat when happy as a celebration, I would eat when under stress as a way of coping and I would eat when I was angry or sad. I had justification for all my binging and felt that I had no choice.

Thankfully, and probably due to the fact that I have basic medical knowledge, I never went that far into the territory where I became morbidly obese, but it was touch and go. I used to realize on a regular basis that my weight is getting way over my desired weight and would then make efforts to reduce it. I think that the weight I have lost over my entire life is more than what I weigh now! But joking aside, I could never make sensible choices and would then go off the track after being on the diet successfully for a few months.

How do I try to overcome my addiction;

With my phone games, it was simple. The games I used to play on my phone, spending lots of hours and money on, were not updated to run with the newer and advanced model of the phone I got. I was left with the option of either carrying the old phone with me just to play the games on or to delete the games. I took the second option. And didn’t download any other game which seemed too much fun! You see I know my weakness.

Now sadly I cannot say that I have overcome my food addiction. But I got a scare which has made me realize that the way I am going can lead to big trouble. On a routine check-up, it turned out that all my blood stats were way higher than they should be. Especially, my blood glucose levels. This was a wake-up call indeed. I am following my doctor’s prescription to the letter and have made major changes in how I view food. Now I eat only when hungry. I have cut out my most favorite food group, carbs from my diet. And I walk after every meal and before going to bed.

I am proud to say that my levels have come back to normal and I have lost some weight as well.

I am a recovering food addict! I still have fears that something or the best other can put me back into the zone where I would start eating like there is no tomorrow.

But I have hope!

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#Keepitalive

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