Fandango’s Provocative Question #80- Who am I?

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

I saw this question on a site that offers up a bunch of “deep, philosophical” questions and this one intrigued me. It’s about evolution, but not in the context of Darwin’s evolution of the species. It’s more about evolution of the individual and about who you are and how you change over time. Here’s this week’s question, which is essentially about you. I hope you’ll have fun with it.

Is the concept of “you” continuous or does the past “you” continually fade into the present and future “you”? Considering that your body, your mind, and your memories are changing over time, what part of “you” sticks around?

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Wow!

This is a deep and philosophical question.

I think that who I am basically, in my core would not change beyond recognition with time. However, there are bound to be changes in me, my personality as I grow and learn.

I was a sensitive child and I grew up into a sensitive adult. That hasn’t changed. But I have with effort toned down my extremely sensitive nature because of the experiences that I have had growing up. But my basic nature I think has remained the same.

What time and age have done is that they have gradually changed how I react to different situations in life. The whole purpose of growing up is to learn. And as we learn, we change our attitudes and reactions.

But the basic nature of a person rarely changes completely. It is modified and adapted but doesn’t usually takes an 180 degree turn.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #78

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Welcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

So here’s my provocative question this week.

Do you believe that students should be required to return to school for the new school year? If you are a parent, are you at all concerned about sending your children to school? Or are you relieved to get the little rugrats out of your hair?

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While I do understand the problem many parents are facing when they have to go to work and their children/child has to stay at home, the reopening of schools is not the answer.

The number of people falling sick every day, the death rate, and the inability of the researchers to come up with an effective cure or a preventive vaccine should put an end to this debate.

It is not humane or kind or even sensible to send millions of children to school where they can and will be exposed to this virus and would in turn bring it home to their families.

The argument that very few kids fall sick due to this disease, is a false one. Even if children don’t fall seriously ill with Covid-19, they can carry the infection and spread it to each other, their teacher, and families.

Reopening the schools will set in motion a tsunami of infections and the fallout would be very severe.

I am sharing Lauren’s post here. She explains it much better than I could.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #77

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Each week I will pose what I think is a provocative question for your consideration.

This week’s provocative question is about justice.E567C17C-6A1B-448C-929E-4650B83AE7CF

My provocative question for this week is this:

Do you believe, with respect to the judicial system (or systems) in place where you live, that justice is, indeed, blind? Why do you feel that way?

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In a utopian world, justice would be blind, impartial, and unbiased. But this is not utopia.

I can talk about third world countries like Pakistan, where though things are improving slowly, justice is very much tilted towards those with money, power, and connections. A rich person or one who holds power or is well connected can expect the wrath of justice to be diluted and weak. Whereas a poor person will find themselves at the mercy of the swift sword of speedy justice.

But a first world country like the USA is not much better. During my stay here I have seen a lot of tilt towards those who are in power or are rich. Take the recent impeachment trial of POTUS!

So it is safe to say that lady justice has her blindfold askew and is peeking through it unashamedly.

Will there be a time when people can expect justice to be impartial?

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #76

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

This week’s provocative question may sound like a simple one, but as you contemplate your response, it may be more nuanced than it at first appears. Because to answer it, you first have to define what “satisfaction” means to you.8D94CF49-BB69-42FF-94B0-6B3132676D48

Are you satisfied with your life at the moment. If so, what is it that brings you the greatest satisfaction? If not, what might you do to achieve satisfaction in your life?

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I am!

This is the short answer.

In detail, I am satisfied with my life because I know that I am doing the best I can for myself, my family, and those I call my friends.

I would call this as being in peace with myself.

My father in law was a very wise man and he taught me to value these things in life;

Mental peace;

That I be at peace with whatever is inside me. My emotions, my desires, and my ambitions.

Physical peace;

That I look after my body, eat healthy, and get plenty of exercises. Get proper treatments for any illness I am suffering from and look after my mental health.

Social peace;

That I am at peace with the world around me. No strife with law, no dispute with those living around me, and no ongoing battle with people on any social platform.

And when I have achieved these three categories of peace, I could if I wanted to look for, go for extras.

A posh house

A new car

Designer clothes etc

Popularity

Lots of followers on my blog

Etc……

So, yes I am at peace and am satisfied with my life, though I will keep on trying to improve on all three categories. And as for the extras, they are of little value and can be safely relegated to the back burner.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #74- What, when and why

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Which pre-pandemic activities are you ready to resume (or have you already resumed)? Which, if any, pre-virus activities are you likely to continue to avoid?

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Since the lockdown started in Seattle, I am living with my elder daughter and grandson. What I do, when I do it, and how I do it has an impact on their lives too. So though I would love to go out, to get a nice haircut, or a hair color at a salon, I have to weigh my options against the risk of inadvertently exposing them to the Covid-19. I am also obliged to follow the house rules of my daughter and she thinks I need to be extra careful due to my underlying health issues.

So though I would like to resume a few of the post lockdown activities, I don’t. The only outings I’ve had are my two daily walks and a few times to UPS store to post Amazon returns.

For me, there is really no hurry to jump back into social life.

There is ample time to do that when things settle down. Right now I am grateful for the services like instacart who deliver to our doorstep, whatever we order. Then there is Amazon which is practically delivering anything you want. They are my go-to app for anything from Levi’s jeans to body shop products. And if I don’t want or like any of the things I order, they are too willing to take them back with a full and usually instant refund.

So I am staying at home. Being safe and keeping others safe too!

I think it is where my comfort level lies.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #73

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

You’ve heard of extra sensory perception, right? You know, ESP. There are three forms of ESP.

  1. Telepathy — the transfer of information from one person to another without the use of sensory communication.
  2. Clairvoyance — the acquisition of information about places, people, or events without the use of normal sensory contact.
  3. Precognition — the acquisition of information about a future event that could not be anticipated through any known processes of inference.

So my question to you this week is:

Do you believe there is such a thing as ESP? Or is what some suggest to be ESP merely that there are people who are highly intuitive and are very good at reading people’s very subtle signals?

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So I think that most people who appear to have these ESP powers are actually in possession of very acute observation. They see and deduce, often coming to the right conclusion.

But then there are some unexplained things which can only be explained if we agree that there are things and abilities that we haven’t fully understood yet.

My own thoughts are that we should keep an open mind. There are things that we haven’t found or researched completely and they may very well be perfectly logical explanations for these phenomena.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #72- Something Exciting!

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

For this week’s provocative question I’m going to try to shift your focus from the depressing to the exciting by asking you this simple question:

What is the one thing in life that you are most excited about right now? Why?

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As Fandango has said himself that these are depressing times. With the pandemic on one side and social unrest on the other, it is difficult to get excited about things.

But being the resilient and optimistic person that I am, I try to find the silver lining in the proverbial cloud.

I feel excited about my personal achievement of losing weight steadily. I now weigh less than I have weighed in the last ten years. For me, who has had to struggle with extra weight all my adult life, reaching this weight is a great milestone. I do plan on losing more and am happy if the scale keeps on moving backward, even if slowly and gradually.

Another exciting thing to look forward to is going home to my hubby when things are better here in Seattle. This going home will be a big change as my daughter’s Doctorate degree is finally nearing its end. She will also be moving back! So we will leave the US of A and go home to Pakistan. As I said a big change. Hopefully, my daughter and grandson will adjust quickly.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #71

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

You’re probably familiar with the old expression, “You’re only as old as you feel.” Or maybe you’ve been told by someone at some point to “act your age.” Or perhaps you, yourself, when asked your age, have said, “Age is just a number.”

Well, that brings me to this week’s provocative question(s). 

How old are you* and how old do you feel — older or younger than your actual chronological age? Do you generally act your age? And what does “acting your age” mean to you?

*If you’re uncomfortable revealing your actual age, maybe you can just say something like, “I’m in my twenties.” Or fifties. Or “I’m a senior citizen.”

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I turned 58 last November.

So that’s one part of the question answered.

When I was younger, I used to think that forty was a ripe old age. In school, I would imagine my self being 39 when the 21st century would start and it used to look ancient to me.

Boy, how my outlook has changed.

Before I turned 50, I was not in good health. Both my knees were in a bad state and taking over the counter pain meds for them was playing havoc with my gastric and renal health. At that time I felt old and sick.

And then magic happened. I turned 50 and my doctor agreed to perform the knee replacement surgery on my right knee. I started walking, cut down on my pain meds drastically, and started feeling much better. Three years later I got the other knee replaced and slowly worked to restore my health.

To say that I feel much younger now than I did at 50 would be true. I feel much younger than my age now, fitter, and happier.

Good health and self-care can do that. The fact that I was diagnosed with type II diabetes last October has given me the added incentive to lose weight and eat healthy.

Do I act my age?

Perhaps not.

Sometimes I am this mature 58+ years old woman who is sensible. And sometimes I just act like a happy twenty-something, going with the flow. I think that it’s a privilege we earn when we reach a certain age. To behave as we like and not be bothered by the conventions or opinions.

Acting according to your age is perhaps mandatory for younger people. For people like me, it’s not necessary at all.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #70

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

When I was doing the A to Z Blogging Challenge last month, I posted old sayings or adages daily and in alphabetical order, A through Z. One of the old adages I came across, but did not use was this: “Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes.”

The suggestion to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes means that, before judging someone, you must understand his or her experiences, challenges, thought processes, etc. In effect, it is a reminder to practice empathy.

And that brings me to this week’s provocative question.

If you could choose anyone, past or present, and walk that proverbial mile in his or her shoes, who would you choose, and why would you choose that person?

This is a very difficult choice.

In order to understand someone, we do need to see their life from their perspective. And to choose to live their life for a while, that is, walk in their shoes, your desire to do so needs to be strong. Why?

Because if you love them, you are taking a chance that you may learn something that may disillusion you towards them.

I would like to walk in the shoes of my mother. She was 26 when she died and I wasn’t even 6. So I would love to know her, her thoughts, her joys, and her sorrows! I may find that she wasn’t the person I thought her to be. But that is a risk anyone who is choosing this path, would face.

Will I actually do it if it were an option?

I would, because the desire to know her is very strong, despite the risk of finding some unfavorable things about her.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #69 – Superheroes… anyone?

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Assume you are a real-life superhero. What is your super power? What is the largest obstacle to using your super power?

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What a fascinating idea!

A real-life superhero.

I think I would want to have the superpower of conflict resolution. I would have the power to influence people’s minds and remove the thoughts of going to war on trivial issues. I would influence them to go towards peaceful solutions to the problems.

My super power would be used mostly to prevent wars and conflicts on a worldwide scale. But if I have time I could also use it to resolve issues among ordinary people too. But then I would be busy 24/7!

The problem with using this awesome power would be when I encounter people who don’t have any brains! Now if that part of the skull is just full of hot air and idiotism, how would I make them see reason?

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