Fandango Provocative Question #27

Fandango’s Question this week;

“If you could choose one — and only one — particular malady, condition, or disease for which a safe and effective treatment was available, what one condition would you choose to treat and why is that your choice?”

My response;

I have read many responses from people on this question. Many have chosen illnesses which affected them or their loved ones which is quite natural. We will want what is causing pain and discomfort to us or our family to be gone. And if a cure is discovered for it to completely eradicate it, what could be better!

But there are so many diseases in the world today which are the cause of mortality and morbidity. The first and the major one is cancer. It is a disease which strikes terror in the heart of a person when they hear of the possibility of having it. There are so many faces of this disease, some of them treatable and some even curable. The number and types of malignant disease is growing daily and so are the number of people effected by it. Some doctors have come up with cure for a type of cancer while billions of dollars are being spent in research every year for this type of disease. I would say if people discovered a cure/ treatment for cancer all forms it would save many lives.

On the other hand, on a completely personal note, I would love for someone to come up with a cure for obesity….. Anyone???

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Fandango Provocative Question #26

The question;

“Do you believe that there is a perfectly reasonable explanation for these sightings, like unannounced or unauthorized drone flights or space junk falling back into the atmosphere, or do you think that the objects these pilots saw were actual UFOs?”

My answer;

There is an explanation, reasonable and logical. The thing is that mostly no one knows it, except those who have first hand encounters with these “Objects“. They could be alien ships, or simply new tech which is yet not known to the common man. These are a constant source of intriguing the human mind. Countless stories, tv programs and movies have been made on this concept. There are people who can swear to the authenticity of what they saw was not man made or was of this earth. And there are a bigger number of people who can show us the evidence to the contrary. Who would you believe?

Were there aliens in ancient times as well?

Another UFO sighting!

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Fandango Provocative Question #25

Today I am borrowing my provocative question from Ursula at An Upturned Soul. In a recent post she indicated that one sign of “existential intelligence” is that you “regularly wonder what happens to us after death as well as where we were before we were born.”

I’m not sure I even understand what “existential intelligence” is, but I do have a position on where we were before we were born (nowhere, we didn’t exist) and what happens to us after death (poof, we’re gone and no longer exist). I guess that’s not very existential of me. Oh well.

But I thought it would be fascinating to find out what all of you think.

So today’s provocative question is all about the before and after:

“Where do you believe you were you before you were born and what do you believe will happen to you after you die?”

My answer;

I believe that before we were born, our souls existed but we were given bodies at birth. And when we die, we return to our soul form. That is till the day of judgement. Then we will be given bodily forms so that we can enjoy either the pleasures of eternal life in heaven or the eternal agony in hell.

If there was no hereafter, there would have been no aim to this life.

If the life ended in death and there is no punishment or reward for bad or good deeds then, what is the purpose of life? Why is this universe created?

These are the questions that can only be answered if we look at the life from a theological point of view.

So since I have this belief or faith you can call it, I only wonder where I am heading after death. I hope for paradise or heaven and try to do good. Being good or doing good deeds for the reward is not a bad thing, though to be good for the sake of being good is its own reward too!

So where is the proof?

I guess we will only find out when we die, that whose point of view was right. But maybe it will be too late then.

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Fandango Provocative Question #24

“Have you ever been so afraid of failing at something that you decided not to try it at all? What’s one thing would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”

I have and I did overcome that fear. That is the short answer.

Fear of failure is a most dominant factor in impeding our learning process. We are programmed as kids to succeed at everything we attempt. Failing is not considered an option. We have been taught that if we are unable to completely master something, we are not good or worthy and that has limited us in our learning capacity.

Today I read a post by Rory where addressed this very issue and that due to extremely negative attitude from his father he felt that he was not living up to the expectations of his family, he was made to feel very bad and worthless. We need to break this mindset. Give opportunities and make things easier for your kids but do not make them feel like a failure if they are not excelling at everything.

I was extremely lucky to have a father who not only encouraged me in every thing that I attempted in my life but also would stand by my decisions. One of those was that I refused to learn to drive when I came of the age. The reason was an un-rational fear of accidents. The reason was this that when a mere fourteen year old I was attempting to ride my brother’s bike and I rode into a wall. Nobody was hurt, just the bike got a bit dented but it left me with a fear of crashing. So as I said that my father stood by my decision and didn’t force me to learn driving.

What changed my mind later was the fact that you cannot survive in today’s world if you can’t drive. I learned later, when my kids were going to start school. But I still, after so many years get a few moments of panic when I sit in the driving seat. I would prefer to be driven but I did learn to drive! And drove my father around when he visited me!

One thing where if the fear of failure was removed, and I had enough spare money , would be to learn skydiving. Because failing here might mean instant death!

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Fandango Provocative Question #23

“How do you manage or deal with stress? Is there a specific strategy or approach that you’ve found to be particularly effective?”

We are human, so feeling stress is natural for us. The stress can be ;

1. Physical;

Physical stress is an outcome of over exerting ourselves. We may have done more than what our body is used to or we have deliberately adopted a regimen to push the physical limits of our body. In such a scenario, a relaxing bath or hot shower and the taking the load off your feet is a great strategy.

2. Mental or Emotional;

Mental stress is a result of trying to address problems which apparently are difficult to solve. We have stress when we face financial problems or employment issues. Kids and family members are often in situations which generate stress too.

Dealing with mental or emotional stress needs a clear headed approach. Sitting back and analyzing the situation always helps to isolate the issue. We need to look into the chaos that is in our brain, and find the trigger. Once we have isolated that we have to decide what we can do about it. Talking to someone we can share our problems always helps. If one cannot talk to anyone then talk to yourself. I often do this. I ask myself questions and find the answers. Like” what can be done about this problem”or “the strategy I am following is right or not” When we ask rational questions, we can identify the core issues and then it becomes easier to decide what to do about it. Staying calm and trying to find the root of the problem can lessen the stress dramatically.

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Fandango Provocative Question #23



Fandango Provocative Question #20

Fandango is asking about the validity of Nietzsche’s notion, so here is this week’s provocative question:

“Does hardship really make a person stronger? If you think so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If you don’t buy that hardship makes a person stronger, what do you think does make a person stronger?”

If you choose to participate, write a post with your response to the question. Once you are done, tag your post with #FPQ and create a pingback to this post if you are on WordPress. Or you can simply include a link to your post in the comments.

And most important, have fun.

I have to qualify my answer.

The right type of hardship at the right time can build up the character of a person. But too much or/ and too consistent hardship can break a person completely.

If in raising our children, we expose them to the harsh realities of life , gradually, they can grow up to have a balanced view of life. They won’t have the entitlement syndrome and would value the good things in life. If they have to earn their privileges, instead of these being handed to them on a plate, they will learn to be appreciative of all that their families do for them. So in this context, giving a comparatively hard upbringing can give good results.

If these children are exposed to abuse and child molestation, they will have broken personalities. So this rule cannot hold true for everyone, in every circumstances.

As for adults, basically the same principle applies. That some hardships can make us stronger like learning to cope with a loss or financial problems can make us more resilient but physical hardships and illness can sap all the strength and leave us vulnerable.

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Fandango Provocative Question #19

“Do you believe in fate and/or predestination? If so, what or who is the source? If you do believe in predestination, is there anything anyone can do to change their predestined fate?”

I believe that we all have a role to play in this universe. It is the reason for us being born. What that is, we sometimes know and sometimes we are oblivious to it. You can call it fate or destiny. But human beings are born with free will. They have their minds equipped with reasoning capabilities and the ability to use knowledge to make decisions. Our decisions lead us to the direction we choose, good or bad. We are responsible for our actions and the choices we make. It cannot be blamed on destiny, fate or preordination.

And bonus: “If you believe God is the source, and God has already determined the future for each of us, why should people bother to pray?”

God has created us, given us the power of free will, the ability to judge what is right and what is wrong. Our course in life has not been determined and neither is the fate set in advance. When we pray we ask for a change in our current situation, and God in His infinite mercy gives us what is best for us. Sometimes we ask for things which don’t have good consequences for us in the long run, hence the adage; “Be Care full of what you wish for” So praying helps because even if our wishes are not granted it brings peace to our heart.

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Fandango Provocative Question #18

So, my question this week is about whether or not you think it’s possible to separate the art from the artist.

“When you learn about highly regarded artists being accused of inappropriate sexual behavior, especially with minors, can you separate the artists from their art, or would you refuse to listen to, watch, or read the artists’ works?”

If you choose to participate, write a post with your response to the question. Once you are done, tag your post with #FPQ and create a pingback to this post if you are on WordPress. Or you can simply include a link to your post in the comments.

And most important, have fun.

My response;

I have read responses of a few bloggers to this question and like majority of them, I agree that it is very difficult to admire a person for their art is you despise them for their moral failings and character.

We cannot separate the art from the artist, specially if we are living in the same time era as them. There have been incidents of well known writers, poets and painters who have had reprehensible habits, in the past era. There was a general sort of feeling that the artist is permitted some sort of license to behave as they wanted without accountability because of their temperaments. So some of the great artists of the past have chequered past but they are forgiven because they lived in the past and are dead now. Nobody can question them or put them on trial for their indiscretions.

Having put this out in the open, we still have to come to grips with this dilemma of what to do with respect to the art created by these people who are being accused of improper behavior and sexual conduct.

As a personal preference, I would not want to associate my self with any of the art produced by these people.

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Fandango Provocative Question #18


Fandango Provocative Question #15

This week’s provocative question is based upon a quote by Bertrand Russell, the British philosopher, logician, mathematician, historian, writer, essayist, social critic, political activist, and Nobel laureate. Whew, that’s a lot of cred. Anyway, Russell, who died in 1970, suggested that…

“The fundamental cause of the trouble is that, in the modern world, the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubts.”

Do you concur with Mr. Russell’s perspective? Why or why not?

Absolutely right. What seems sad to me is the fact that this statement is almost fifty years old and things are not the same, they have deteriorated much beyond this. Almost all the people (well, mostly all) who are in a position where others can and do listen to them, are very sure of themselves. But are they saying something intelligent, or wise or even rational? No, not at all.

As I see it, a foolish person doesn’t think ahead to see what will be the consequences of what they say or do. So they go ahead without fear and haven’t a thought to spare for the reaction of their deeds or words. A wise person will think, weigh and rethink what they are going to say or do. The results of their actions are important to them so they will hesitate to take any. And here lies the problem.

If you are interested in answering Fandango’s Provocative Question, you can do so at his blog, Fandango of This, That and the Other.

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Fandango Provocative Question #14

Fandango has asked another of his provocative questions:

“Do you believe that anyone can really experience anything objectively? Why or why not?”

Do you remember Data, from Star Trek, The next generation? He might have been able to experience everything and anything objectively, because he was not human.

But we, The humans, see feel and experience all things subjectively. Why?

Because everything The we see, hear, feel, touch or taste is processed by our minds. This processing involves all the previously stored knowledge about that sensory stimuli in our minds. After the processing, we conclude what that stimulation is. So every input is assessed by what we already know about that particular sensation. And due to that fact we can’t be objective. We are always subjective in our analysis of any experience.

A picture shown to many people can elicit different responses. A food tasted can have different reactions. And so on and so forth. I think that is the reason, psychiatrist show the abstract drawing to people, inviting them to recognize the object in the drawing, to form an opinion about the thought process and mental health of that person.

And this is the beauty of life for human beings. We can see what we want in a given set of circumstances. The will and imagination are the wings which give us flight.

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FPQ #14