Fandango Provocative Question(s) # 116

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  • Best sandwich?
  • For breakfast, peanut butter and bananas
  • For a meal falafel with hummus
  • What’s one thing you own that you really should throw out?
  • Some of the shoes from my vast shoe collection.
  • What is the scariest animal?
  • A cockroach
  • Apples or oranges?
  • Both, oranges in winter and apples all year long.
  • Have you ever asked someone for their autograph?
  • I might have as a school girl because I had an autograph book. Probably from my favorite teacher and friends.
  • What do you think happens when we die?
  • Our souls go to a state of sleep till the judgment day.
  • Favorite action movie?
  • Too many to choose from.
  • Favorite smell?
  • I love floral scents. I also love the smell of chocolate.
  • Least favorite smell?
  • Some of the strong cheese
  • Exercise: worth it?
  • Definitely
  • Flat or sparkling?
  • Flat
  • Most used app on your phone?
  • WordPress
  • You get one song to listen to for the rest of your life: what is it?
  • The alphabet song
  • What number am I thinking of?
  • 5
  • Describe the rest of your life in 5 words?
  • Trying to be better person

Fandango’s Provocative Question #17 Revisited


This week’s provocative question came to mind when my son asked me a question. He wanted to know where we lived when I sold my motorcycle, and I couldn’t remember whether it was in New Jersey or Pennsylvania. I tried and tried, but came up empty. I couldn’t even recall the last time I rode it.

So, I decided to ask a question about human memory, which has been shown to be incredibly unreliable. With that in mind, here is this week’s provocative question:

“How do you know which of your memories are genuine and which have been altered over time or even made up?”


I have checked and it seems that I missed this question when it was originally asked.

I have a very dodgy memory.

There are some periods in my past where I don’t have much recollection of day-to-day life. The reason was the onset of my thyroid disease. It’s one of the side effects of hypothyroidism that there is severe memory loss.

If my kids say that this incident happened during those years, I accept it. Though I don’t recall anything like that happening. But I trust them and I am confident that they aren’t gaslighting me. If two out of three are verifying it then it is a sure thing.

As far as memory recollection goes, I think we all have a different version of the same incident. We all look at it from our point of view. So one incident could have affected all the people involved in different ways and would live in the minds of them with different implications.

It never pays to argue about the memories of a given event with someone. They will accuse you of trying to gaslight them.

The end conclusion is that though memories can be manipulated, it is better to let them be as they are. I do trust my recollection of the things that are clear in my mind. Other than that I don’t worry much!




Fandango’s Provocative Question #115 -Necessary Evil?

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

This week’s provocative question is about evil. The word evil is defined as something profoundly immoral and wicked. Recently I heard someone use the phrase, “a necessary evil.” When I Googled that phrase, I saw that it refers to an evil that someone believes must be done or accepted because it is necessary to achieve a better outcome — especially because possible alternative courses of action or inaction are expected to be worse.

So the question is simply this:

Is there really such a thing as a necessary evil, or is it just a way for us to rationalize or justify doing something bad?


What is necessary? And evil?

I can think of a few examples where you can call it a necessary evil;


I think politicians can be really categorized as a necessary evil! Most decent people shy away from politics. And yet someone has to do this job. So it’s a necessary evil, when we tolerate these corrupt ( not all but most) people!

Certain medical procedures;

Preventive procedures, curative surgeries, stomach banding, and bypass surgery, they are are painful and troublesome surgeries but prevent even more dire conditions.

Disciplining, especially children;

It’s something all parents have to do. Tantrum-throwing toddlers are left to cry because it will teach them the importance of self-control. Grounding teenagers for not following a curfew or other minor violations is another example. It hurts the parents as much as the children, but as they say, it’s a necessary evil.


Staying in touch with friends or family far from us through social media has become the necessity of these times. But going on Facebook or Instagram can be frustrating and sometimes downright depressing.


It’s the hot topic of the day. We get vaccinated against contagious diseases so that we don’t fall ill but there are side effects of these vaccines that we have to tolerate because we want to prevent getting sick.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #113

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

What I do mean is a question that is likely to get you to think, to be creative, and to provoke a response. Hopefully a positive response.

This week’s provocative question is simple.

Have you gotten vaccinated for COVID-19 yet? If not, are you planning to? If you have, or are planning to, how do you think your life will change afterwards? If you’re not planning to get vaccinated, why not?


I haven’t got vaccinated yet as I am not yet 60, so either I will have to wait till I turn 60 in November this year, or till people under 60 will start getting vaccinated in my country.

There were some concerns regarding the vaccine itself when the whole process started. We are getting our vaccines from China( SinoPharm) and not everyone was convinced that it is good. But after some people got vaccinated, most people are now willing to go for it.

How will my life change?

Not much. I’ll still wear a mask outside my home and would be careful while going out. I might get together with friends who have also been vaccinated.

The long-term results of these vaccines haven’t been studied yet as not enough data is available. So we clearly don’t know how long will the immunity last. But I would still get it when I am offered the chance. It is better than not getting vaccinated.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #112

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

This week’s provocative question is going to be an easy one…if you watched Oprah Winfrey’s interview with Harry and Meghan the other night.The question is simply this:

What did you think?


I didn’t watch the interview. But since it was aired, I have heard and read a lot about it.

As I just recently finished watching season 4 of the crown, I already have a very low opinion of the British Royal family.

Havingsaidshouldeverythingtrue.enoughfollowDiana’s life when it all happened and the depiction is pretty close to reality.

Now hearing all about what happened with Harry and Meghan, the royal family is behaving true to form. They are a snobbish bunch of aristocrats who don’t think that commoners are their equal. They treated Meghan much like they treated Diana. No help was offered even when they both needed it. They snubbed both Harry and his wife because they want to live a life independently of the royal family.

I think it’s high time that Britain did away with these dinosaurs. Today’s society has no place for the monarchy.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #109

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

I don’t know about you, but I typically spend about four to seven (occasionally even more) hours a day on my blog, either writing, proofreading, editing, and publishing my own posts or reading and commenting on the posts written by other bloggers.That’s a fairly significant chunk of my waking hours and I have found myself wondering if I’m unusual in that regard. I also wonder what I would do with those hours if I didn’t spend them on my blog.

So my provocative question today is simply this:

How many hours, on average, do you spend per day (or per week) on blogging-related activities?


I think in a nutshell, I’d say I blog the whole day. But….

Not continuously!

My usual routine is that I catch up with my comments, and reader when I get up in the morning. After that, during the day I keep an eye on my WP reader and notifications. I respond to comments off and on.

Later in the day when I’m free, I write and preschedule my post for the next day.

Then I spend time with my family and just before retiring to bed, I take a look at my blog, answer comments and read and comment on the blogs that I follow.

In my estimation, this takes up to 4-5 hours of my waking time.

And, what do you think you might do with your time if you didn’t spend it on those blogging-related activities?

I think I’d slowly go bonkers with boredom if I didn’t have my blog to occupy me.

I still have time to spend time with my family, chat with my friends and when there were no restrictions on going out, I’d go out with family or friends for recreation.

Blogging has not only developed into a very good hobby for me but is also keeping me mentally active, which is very important if one wants to avoid early dementia.

And the community here is awesome. It’s like meeting friends every day.

My conclusion;

I am happy at the time I spend blogging and it pays back handsomely.




Fandango Provocative Question # 108 – Valentine’s Day?

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Valentine’s Day is just four days from today. This coming Sunday is a day that people in love all around the globe — well, okay, in the United States, for sure — celebrate love and romance. So my perhaps not so provocative question this week is all about Valentine’s Day, how you feel about it and how you plan to celebrate the day.

Here’s my question….

How do you feel about Valentine’s Day?

Simple answer;

Love sells and Valentine’s Day is a big marketing opportunity. It’s all about people spending money and big corporations making money by playing on the sentiments of people.

Do you consider it to be a special day, one where you express your deep love and appreciation for your significant other? Or is it just a commercialized “Hallmark Holiday” where you feel pressured to spend money on cards, flowers, candy, jewelry, and/or expensive dinners in order to stay on the good side of the one you love?

Valentine’s Day is totally commercialized, emotionally blackmailing people into buying expensive, and mostly useless gifts to express their love for that someone special in their lives. Lucky for us, who don’t live in the western world, this concept was introduced quite recently. We started seeing the adverts for Valentine’s Day celebrations about a decade ago and also the urging from different companies to buy stuff for the one we love. I’m glad to say that except for the new generation, most of the oldies haven’t taken to this idea.

Either way, what, if anything, are your plans for Valentine’s Day this year?

Well after all that I’ve said in my previous answers, I wouldn’t mind getting a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers from my husband. But I won’t be heartbroken if he doesn’t even remember that it’s Valentine’s Day! I won’t be giving him a present as I feel that it’s the women that should be the ones pampered on this day! A totally sexist and selfish approach!






Fandango’s Provocative Question #107

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Each week I will pose what I think is a provocative question for your consideration.

So my provocative question this week is about blogging hiatuses.

Have you ever taken a hiatus (break) from blogging? If so, how long did your hiatus last and why did you take it? How difficult was it to return to blogging after your hiatus? Did your stats suffer and did you lose readers as a consequence of your absence?


For the last five years, I have been traveling a lot. I would travel to America and then back home once or twice a year. When I started my blog, before traveling, I would schedule my posts for a couple of days in advance because it would take me 24- 36 hours, traveling, from home to home. And due to the time difference, the jet lag would be quite severe.

But I never took a hiatus from blogging, just a short leave, telling my readers that I may not be able to respond to their comments or to read their posts for a few days. But such is the charm and pull of the Blogging world that I would return to it as soon as I could.

Even now, I have a small surgical procedure scheduled for Friday, but I am planning to do the same.

I think since I can pre-schedule my posts for up to a week in advance, it is easy for me to manage even when I am busy. Another convenience is that I blog from my phone so I can do it from anywhere, anytime.

So my answer to Fandango’s question is that I haven’t taken any hiatus from blogging as yet or plan to. And I have no idea what effect it would have on my stats or on the number of followers.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #106

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Blogging is a medium of words. All of us who blog are wordsmiths. We use words almost exclusively to express ourselves, to tell our stories, to weave our tales, to write our poems, to help others to understand and possibly even appreciate our perspectives.

In the real world, words can take on different meanings depending on context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and other countless factors. But in blogging, such visual cues are, for the most part, absent. Thus, the challenge of conveying your intended tone and the underlying meaning of what you write can be daunting. It gets down to the age-old writer’s dilemma. Is the content what matters, or how the content is portrayed or presented?

So, as we are all writers who use words to paint pictures, my provocative question is simply this:

In the context of blogging and writing, what do you think is more important: what you say or how you say it?


I think this question is very pertinent to the bloggers. What we write is equally important as how we word it. Unless the language is very simple and the expression totally bald, it can be misconstrued by the reader in many instances.

For this very reason, I use simple language, stating what I want to say as clearly as possible. It is correct that I mostly write poetry and in a poem sometimes the meaning is lost in phrases. But I do try to be as concise as possible.

It does take a good writer to reach the heart and engage the mind of their readers all the time and I am not one of those. I have started writing my blog just above 2 years ago and am still learning to communicate well. But as most good writers advise, use as few words as possible and make the meaning clear.

I myself have experienced this issue that even after reading a post or poem many times, I wasn’t able to get a clear sense of what the writer is saying.

So my 2 cents worth of advice is to be as simple and clear as possible so that we can convey our thoughts and opinions without them being misunderstood.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #103 – Jealousy

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Today’s question is this:

Is jealousy purely a negative and potentially destructive emotion, or does jealousy have any value as a motivator to drive people to improve themselves?


As commonly understood, the meaning of jealousy is envy, suspicion, and fear of losing someone or something.

Mostly nothing good comes out of being jealous of others. Envy, often described as the green-eyed monster watches what others have with a desire to possess it. It erodes the soul and destroys the relationships between people.

In rare instances, people can be motivated to do better because they are jealous of the success or achievements of someone they look up to. Though this is a negative stimulus, it can bring positive results.

Another positive implication of jealousy is when we guard something we love from others with an intent to keep it safe. Like a mother guards her child jealously from harm, or that I guard my privacy jealously from probers.

Anyway the common consensus is that one should stay away from this negative emotion.