Fandango’s Provocative Question #109

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

I don’t know about you, but I typically spend about four to seven (occasionally even more) hours a day on my blog, either writing, proofreading, editing, and publishing my own posts or reading and commenting on the posts written by other bloggers.That’s a fairly significant chunk of my waking hours and I have found myself wondering if I’m unusual in that regard. I also wonder what I would do with those hours if I didn’t spend them on my blog.

So my provocative question today is simply this:

How many hours, on average, do you spend per day (or per week) on blogging-related activities?


I think in a nutshell, I’d say I blog the whole day. But….

Not continuously!

My usual routine is that I catch up with my comments, and reader when I get up in the morning. After that, during the day I keep an eye on my WP reader and notifications. I respond to comments off and on.

Later in the day when I’m free, I write and preschedule my post for the next day.

Then I spend time with my family and just before retiring to bed, I take a look at my blog, answer comments and read and comment on the blogs that I follow.

In my estimation, this takes up to 4-5 hours of my waking time.

And, what do you think you might do with your time if you didn’t spend it on those blogging-related activities?

I think I’d slowly go bonkers with boredom if I didn’t have my blog to occupy me.

I still have time to spend time with my family, chat with my friends and when there were no restrictions on going out, I’d go out with family or friends for recreation.

Blogging has not only developed into a very good hobby for me but is also keeping me mentally active, which is very important if one wants to avoid early dementia.

And the community here is awesome. It’s like meeting friends every day.

My conclusion;

I am happy at the time I spend blogging and it pays back handsomely.




Fandango Provocative Question # 108 – Valentine’s Day?

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Valentine’s Day is just four days from today. This coming Sunday is a day that people in love all around the globe — well, okay, in the United States, for sure — celebrate love and romance. So my perhaps not so provocative question this week is all about Valentine’s Day, how you feel about it and how you plan to celebrate the day.

Here’s my question….

How do you feel about Valentine’s Day?

Simple answer;

Love sells and Valentine’s Day is a big marketing opportunity. It’s all about people spending money and big corporations making money by playing on the sentiments of people.

Do you consider it to be a special day, one where you express your deep love and appreciation for your significant other? Or is it just a commercialized “Hallmark Holiday” where you feel pressured to spend money on cards, flowers, candy, jewelry, and/or expensive dinners in order to stay on the good side of the one you love?

Valentine’s Day is totally commercialized, emotionally blackmailing people into buying expensive, and mostly useless gifts to express their love for that someone special in their lives. Lucky for us, who don’t live in the western world, this concept was introduced quite recently. We started seeing the adverts for Valentine’s Day celebrations about a decade ago and also the urging from different companies to buy stuff for the one we love. I’m glad to say that except for the new generation, most of the oldies haven’t taken to this idea.

Either way, what, if anything, are your plans for Valentine’s Day this year?

Well after all that I’ve said in my previous answers, I wouldn’t mind getting a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers from my husband. But I won’t be heartbroken if he doesn’t even remember that it’s Valentine’s Day! I won’t be giving him a present as I feel that it’s the women that should be the ones pampered on this day! A totally sexist and selfish approach!






Fandango’s Provocative Question #107

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Each week I will pose what I think is a provocative question for your consideration.

So my provocative question this week is about blogging hiatuses.

Have you ever taken a hiatus (break) from blogging? If so, how long did your hiatus last and why did you take it? How difficult was it to return to blogging after your hiatus? Did your stats suffer and did you lose readers as a consequence of your absence?


For the last five years, I have been traveling a lot. I would travel to America and then back home once or twice a year. When I started my blog, before traveling, I would schedule my posts for a couple of days in advance because it would take me 24- 36 hours, traveling, from home to home. And due to the time difference, the jet lag would be quite severe.

But I never took a hiatus from blogging, just a short leave, telling my readers that I may not be able to respond to their comments or to read their posts for a few days. But such is the charm and pull of the Blogging world that I would return to it as soon as I could.

Even now, I have a small surgical procedure scheduled for Friday, but I am planning to do the same.

I think since I can pre-schedule my posts for up to a week in advance, it is easy for me to manage even when I am busy. Another convenience is that I blog from my phone so I can do it from anywhere, anytime.

So my answer to Fandango’s question is that I haven’t taken any hiatus from blogging as yet or plan to. And I have no idea what effect it would have on my stats or on the number of followers.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #106

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Blogging is a medium of words. All of us who blog are wordsmiths. We use words almost exclusively to express ourselves, to tell our stories, to weave our tales, to write our poems, to help others to understand and possibly even appreciate our perspectives.

In the real world, words can take on different meanings depending on context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and other countless factors. But in blogging, such visual cues are, for the most part, absent. Thus, the challenge of conveying your intended tone and the underlying meaning of what you write can be daunting. It gets down to the age-old writer’s dilemma. Is the content what matters, or how the content is portrayed or presented?

So, as we are all writers who use words to paint pictures, my provocative question is simply this:

In the context of blogging and writing, what do you think is more important: what you say or how you say it?


I think this question is very pertinent to the bloggers. What we write is equally important as how we word it. Unless the language is very simple and the expression totally bald, it can be misconstrued by the reader in many instances.

For this very reason, I use simple language, stating what I want to say as clearly as possible. It is correct that I mostly write poetry and in a poem sometimes the meaning is lost in phrases. But I do try to be as concise as possible.

It does take a good writer to reach the heart and engage the mind of their readers all the time and I am not one of those. I have started writing my blog just above 2 years ago and am still learning to communicate well. But as most good writers advise, use as few words as possible and make the meaning clear.

I myself have experienced this issue that even after reading a post or poem many times, I wasn’t able to get a clear sense of what the writer is saying.

So my 2 cents worth of advice is to be as simple and clear as possible so that we can convey our thoughts and opinions without them being misunderstood.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #103 – Jealousy

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Today’s question is this:

Is jealousy purely a negative and potentially destructive emotion, or does jealousy have any value as a motivator to drive people to improve themselves?


As commonly understood, the meaning of jealousy is envy, suspicion, and fear of losing someone or something.

Mostly nothing good comes out of being jealous of others. Envy, often described as the green-eyed monster watches what others have with a desire to possess it. It erodes the soul and destroys the relationships between people.

In rare instances, people can be motivated to do better because they are jealous of the success or achievements of someone they look up to. Though this is a negative stimulus, it can bring positive results.

Another positive implication of jealousy is when we guard something we love from others with an intent to keep it safe. Like a mother guards her child jealously from harm, or that I guard my privacy jealously from probers.

Anyway the common consensus is that one should stay away from this negative emotion.




Fandango Provocative Question # 102- Fear?

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FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. My provocative question this week, with the end of 2020 just ahead of us and as we anticipate the upcoming year, is simply this…

What do you fear the most?


We all fear something or someone.

What I fear personally is being dependent on someone else for my physical or financial needs.

It may come to that at the end of my life, but I am trying my best to escape this fate. To this end, I have adopted a healthy lifestyle and look after my health so that others don’t have to.

Another thing that I fear is something happening to my family. It is a very real fear and I hope and pray for their health and safety all the time.

I also fear making a fool of myself!

But I think I’ve done it so often that I should be used to it now.

Then there are the little fears like cockroaches, lizards, snakes, and other crawlies. I will avoid them or maybe scream or screech in horror. I could jump on the table or a chair to avoid them too.

Roosevelt said;

” We have nothing to fear but fear itself

So maybe it’s all in our head and we don’t have to fear anything!




Fandango Provocative Question # 100

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FPQWow! This is my 100th Fandango’s Provocative Question post.

This week’s provocative question was suggested by Savio Paz over at Goin’ the extra…aaamile. Savio wrote, “Among all the good things we love about ourselves, there is side to us that we never talk about, a side we never want going public. It isn’t special to certain individuals, but we all have it — Our Dark Side.”

How do we make peace with ourselves, knowing that, being the basically good people we are, we also have a side to us which we know isn’t the best — our “dark side”? Can we overcome these parts of our lives that we may not be proud of? Or do we simply accept them, learn to live with them, and move on?


Now that is a frightening thought, I have a dark side?

Well jokes aside, I know I have a lot of flaws in my personality. I do try to improve myself and am grateful to my family, especially my daughters who often point out my failings. 😂😅

I am fond of talking and often am guilty of not giving the other person a chance to talk. I am not a good listener either.

I am working on improving my listening skills. Holding my tongue and letting others talk and listening to understand and not just reply are a few things I am working on.

I am opinionated and I think I am right about things, and anyone not agreeing with me is in the wrong.

This is another area where much work is required. Blogging has helped me to open up to new ideas and tolerance towards divergent views.

I can be sarcastic and can make thoughtless remarks to people around me.

My daughter has reminded me to think of three things before saying something.

Is it kind?

Is it true?

Does it need to be said?

I am trying to stick to this formula before I utter my ( so-called) witty remarks.

I love eating…… is that also included in my dark side?

I am trying to rectify this flaw but this aspect of my personality jumps up from the dark and takes over my nicer side. It leaves me only when I have eaten too much.

I think that as long as we are alive we can and should improve ourselves. Learning to make peace with a personality flaw may mean that we accept it and not make it better. So I would try to improve myself as much as I can.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #99

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

This week’s provocative question was suggested by Pete over at Mr. Bump, and it’s a goodie. Pete wants to know…

What do you think are the three most pressing issues facing us today?


I think that the three most pressing problems that the people the world over are facing these days are;

• Economic disparity;

As time is passing, the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer. The fact the top 1% of the population owns 44% of the total wealth of the world speaks volumes about the economic disparity. The pandemic has shown us how fragile is the line between having a home and homelessness.

• Racism and division;

East or west, developed or developing country, each is beset with this evil. It’s a divide between Us and Them! Racial discrimination always existed but now it has grown to become a major problem in most regions of the world. The politicians are thriving on flaming the flames of this fire.

• Food shortages and food wastage;

There is a shortage of food in poor and developing countries and a lot of food is being wasted in first-world countries. This should not be allowed to happen and food should never be allowed to be wasted. I saw a documentary about how the farmers discarded misshapen or small strawberries because they didn’t look good in a package. When you see children starving in poor countries Your heart will break.




Fandango’s Provocative Question #98

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Last week I asked for some suggestions for potential provocative questions and a few of you came through with some good ones. This one comes from Paula Light over at Light Motifs II.

Her question revolves around interpersonal relationships. She asks…

When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?


I think it depends solely upon your relationship with that person.

With my husband, I usually confront the issue right away. It is good for maintaining peace at home to talk out the issue and work at a solution.

If it’s a friend, the approach will depend on how old and strong is our friendship. With my old friends, I can point out things that bother me about their attitude and so can they. With a casual acquaintance, I just swallow it and don’t react at all.

The tricky part is when it is one of my children. With them, I am careful and broach the topic if I feel they are in a frame of mind to listen and respond positively. Otherwise, I will wait for an appropriate time.

Peace of mind is important and people can spoil it for us by doing or saying things without thinking them through. But sometimes holding the tongue can be more peaceful. One has to choose one’s battles!




Fandango’s Provocative Question #97

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Here’s this week’s provocative question:

Is it more important to you to be able to help yourself, help your family, help your friends, help your society, or help the world?


I think whatever we may feel emotionally, the first priority is to help oneself. When I will be able to look after myself, I can then extend a helping hand to my family and friends. The term of helping here would mean helping physically, emotionally, and financially.

As far as helping society and the world around us, that takes priority over ourselves and our family. The reason is that we don’t have to extend help for physical or emotional support to the society but rather help in form of doing things consciously to improve the living condition of all humanity.

We can be environmentally careful, avoid discrimination, and be law-abiding without putting a strain on ourselves. And this I feel is a duty for all human beings, all over the world.