I admire all the people who have the courage to share their stories with others. It takes a lot of courage to share with the rest of the world, the issues and problems one is going through.
Be it mental health, physical problems, or issues of abuse that people have suffered in past or going through now. Anything personal when shared can be painful and needs the courage to do so.
Baring the wounds and letting others into your innermost secrets is not easy and not something everyone can do. People who are brave enough to do so are not looking for sympathy but understanding. They share to let others know that they aren’t alone and others too are suffering like them. It creates a bond and a sense of community. It makes the collective stronger than the individual.
Kudos to all the brave bloggers out there.
Keep on sharing, and keep on building this community spirit.
For those brave people suffering from chronic pain
Have you experienced chronic pain?
It feels as if it’s the only thing in your life
You cannot think or feel anything beyond pain
What is funny or sweet, it all lose their meaning
When your body is demanding constant attention
Words of sympathy, gestures of empathy
Often go unnoticed or unappreciated
For the mind is constantly struggling with pain
Anyone who knows a sufferer of chronic pain
Should be very understanding and forgiving
For when we ourselves are faced with this challenge
We truly know what they are really going through
These last 3-4 months have thought me a valuable lesson. Pain is one of the feelings that can only be appreciated by the sufferers and others can only guess at the mental state of the one experiencing it. Be kind, be understanding and most of all generous for if they speak harsh words, they don’t mean it.
Mich, of Michnavs wrote this very moving post on Friday. Please do check it out!
Her theme was that people who endure heartbreak, violence and tragedies sometimes keep silent; because it is more heroic to do so. And we, the bystander can very easily say that they should share, talk about it or do something about the situation but it’s not always the best optionorit can be more damaging for all concerned.
Consider a domestic abused mom who has to jeopardize the welfare of herself and her children if she speaks up or takes action against her spouse. There is always too much riding on this decision to report the abusive husband and if she doesn’t or cannot do this, we should also stand by her and give her the support she needs till she finally can have the courage to speak. Our society condemns these women because they don’t leave their homes immediately.
Our role as caring and supportive people should always be to understand the mental anguish and trauma of people/women facing abusive or other tragic situations and to be there for them in whatever decisions they take. We have to understand that a person in the circumstances can and does know better what they should do than a bystander.