Fathers can be our heroes or they could teach us how not to be.
My question today is;
Is your father your hero or was he someone who taught you not to be like him?
I have mentioned in my previous posts that my father was the most wonderful man I’ve ever known. He was a very kindhearted man who was concerned about everyone around him. The qualities that I loved about him were his honesty, his humbleness, and his love for his family.
He was my hero in the truest sense of the word. He instilled many great values in his children and I try to follow in his footsteps.
Was your father your hero as well?
Pleaseshare your thoughts in the comments section.
Do you love reading? How many books you read per week, or per month?
I love reading. And as a child and young adult, I was never without a book in progress. After having children of my own, this spree had to be discontinued. But as they grew up, I started reading again.
Nowadays, I have a buddy schedule and find reading books have taken a backseat. I have lots of books downloaded and ready to be read but I need to find the time. I’ve promised myself that I’ll soon resume this good habit.
These days I’m lucky to finish one book in one month! Nothing to be proud of.
In your opinion, is the first impression we form about other people always correct?
In my opinion, not only the first impression is mostly false but the sometimes the second one too.
We see/meet someone who is angry and we label them as such, without trying to know why they were behaving in that manner. Sometimes we get a second chance and then it appears that there were reasons for that behavior, and the person in question is in fact a reasonable person.
When we make snap judgments, we really don’t know all the facts and are mostly wrong. If we look at this picture from other angle, we can also at times appear to be what we are not in reality.
As each humanpersonality is multifaceted, ascribing them one label is not fair. So I refrain from making snap judgments and try to give people more than one chance.
This is my opinion. What is yours?
Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write a post on your blog and link it to this post so that I can find it.
Looking back, do you think you’ve had an easy life or was it hard?
I have often heard people say that life is hard or that life is not fair.
I have a theory that we all tread a different path in life. Even siblings born and raised in the same home have different journeys. What we go through during this journey is what we need.
I’d say my early life was difficult, hard. Losing my mom at a young age, having a stepmother with whom I couldn’t communicate with were things that left a gap in my early years. But this also gave me the ability to face life on my own. It built up my self-confidence and also strengthened my faith.
In short, my childhood was hard but it prepared me for my adult life. My adult life is good but not easy. I have faced many challenges but due to my training, I have survived them very well.
This is my story.
Please share your thoughts in the comments section.
Have you kept anything from your younger days or childhood?
It all depends upon how much one is attached emotionally to keepsakes. It also depends on the opportunity one has to save stuff from years ago.
In my case, I have a lack of both. My father was in government service and we used to get transferred after every 2-3 years. Every transfer meant letting go of surplus things. We used to call it “load shedding”
So by the time I got married, I didn’t have anything saved from my childhood days.
I also have little sentimental attachment to things. Instead of keeping something that I’ve had for a long time, I prefer to give it away so that others can use or enjoy it. I doubt if I have anything older than a few years that I owe personally.
So this is my answer.
What about you? Do you have things that you’re attached to emotionally?
Please share your thoughts in the comments section or in a separate post.
A very happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, grandmothers, daughters and mother figures.
My question this week is what are your best memories of Mother’s Day?
I never got to celebrate my mom. She died when she was 26, and I was 6. This not only left a big gap in my life but also left me a bit unprepared to fulfill the duties of a mother when I became one.
Well Time is a great teacher and I learned to be the best I could be as a mom. I am so proud that both my daughters and daughter-in-law are great mothers. They are wise, loving and are raising their kids so well. I must say that the mothers nowadays have access to great resources via the internet but the effort is all theirs.
I have some beautiful memories of when my kids surprised me on Mother’s Day. I remember six years ago when I had had my second knee replacement surgery and was not very mobile, as it was just a few weeks after my surgery my kids went and got me a pair of diamond earrings. They were very beautiful! But more so because they were a very special gift from all three of them. I treasure them very much.
This is the card I got today!
These are my memories. I’d love if you could share some of your best Mother’s Day moments.
We all think differently and admire different qualities in ourselves and others.
What really inspires me the most in another human being is sincerity. Unfortunately, I don’t meet many sincere people in real life. So when I meet someone sincere and honest, I try to learn from them as much as I can.
Sincerity can be visible in a personality in many forms. Some of them are;
A kind and caring personality
Being honest in word and deeds
There is no disconnect between their actions and thoughts
They are genuine people.
As human qualitiesgo, these traits are the best there are.
Have I been able to cultivate these admirable qualities in my personality? I am constantly trying. And with effort, I have had some success in emulating them. I try to be honest and avoid giving false impressions regarding my capabilities to others. I care about how my actions or words can affect others around me.
Still, it’s a work in progress!
Please do share what traits inspire you in others?
Are you easily embarrassed and what embarrassesyou?
I was much prone to getting all embarrassed and hot under the collar when I was younger. As I may have mentioned before that I tend to commit a lot of faux pas, so it carried from there that I ended up in quite a few embarrassing situations.
Like I would utter a remark that was best left unsaid, or comment in a way that it came out all wrong. I was also quite ignorant of social norms and would do things out of sync with others. In these situations, I would get very embarrassed on the inside, while trying to appear cool on the outside.
But as I have grown older and wiser ( hopefully) I have learned not to pay that much attention to what others are thinking about me or my actions. My only criteria is to see if I meant harm or was the situation created unadrevtidly. If I am at fault, I will beg forgiveness but if it’s just a social blunder, I’ll shrug my shoulders and move on. After all my embarrassment can solve nothing.
Listening is an acquired art. Not everyone is a good listener. I am not. I have too many ideas stirring through my gray matter to keep quiet. This is not good. People value good listeners. People who can give their full attention to the other person and listen wholeheartedly to what they are saying. I’d say that a good listener is worth their weight in gold. That’s why if you find someone who can listen to your ideas, problems, or woes, you feel as if you have unburdened your heart.
I have this unfortunate habit of trying to give advice or to try and fix the issue. All the other person wants is that I should listen. (In Sunday Poser week # 4, I had written that I want to become a good listener, I guess it’s still a work in progress) I am still trying to inculcate this habit.
What about you?
Are you a good listener?
Please share your thoughts in the comments section.