It’s been quite a ride, I went from a naive 23-year-old to a 58-year-old grandmother of three.
Married life means a lot of adjustments and compromises. If a person thinks that by getting married they are going to get their happily ever after, they are in for a disappointment.
Marriage is a lot of hard work and it takes years to establish a family. I am lucky that I found a wonderful man and it was not that difficult to make it work.
But two people, however similar they may be, are still two different personalities. And to find harmony and sameness within a relationship takes a lot of give and take.
My journey was not very easy but love, understanding, and a will to make it work, made things manageable. I am today so proud of my three children who all are doing well in their own lives. And of course my three lovely grandchildren too.
Do you think the music you personally listen to [as in your favourited artists over just generalised commercial listening] suit and reflect your true personality?
I never thought about it that way. I just go with the feel of the song. If I like it it goes on my play list.
But there are some songs that do speak to the inner me. And yes they can be called as truly reflecting my personality.
What’s your average ‘online screen time’ equate to per day in hours?
I am blogging all day long. Not consistently but sporadically. So I think around 5-6 hours. I blog from my phone and would pick it to check my blog after every few minutes.
Are you currently happy with your Government’s management of your country? [If you wish to simply answer yes or no you can, equally if you wish to elaborate in more depth you can do that too]
Nopes! Is there anyone who is?
How many actual ‘real people’ as opposed to virtual people do you actually give a damn about and what happens to them?
I care about my family, friends and mine and my husband’s extended family. So all in all they are around hundred people. And I am deeply concerned about my blogging family too. So I’d say a couple of hundred people.
Quick!! No body’s watching!! What crazy thing would you do if nobody was watching which you can’t do normally because it embarasses you or is perhaps a little too naughty?
Do a little jig as I walk with my favorite song playing in my earbuds! Shhh….. don’t tell anyone.
If you HAD to leave the country in a hurry and in a disguise – what have you done??
Wrote lot if anti- Trump posts on my blog!
What are some of the most adventurous or craziest/strangest or weirdest things you would like to do before you die?
I think since I somehow missed on the adventure gene, I will probably like to write a book ( that would become an instant bestseller) before I die!
What is your opinion or do you have any thoughts on the whole virtual reality industry and the way it will soon become more of an acceptable way of life in the replacement of holidays, adventures and or the workplace?
Never did think about virtual reality seriously. Maybe if I’m faced with the option, I would think about it seriously.
What do people always get wrong about you when first starting to get to know you?
Maybe that I am a snobby person, whereas I am just shy. 😅
What’s the strangest dream/nightmare you have ever had?
I never remember my dreams or nightmares long enough to write about them. But one thing I do remember from my teen years that I used to dream that my mom was still alive, just living somewhere else. I guess too many stories around that theme caused these dreams.
What’s the most trouble you have ever been in?
Me! In trouble!!!
What’s the worst date you’ve been on and why?
A dinner date with my husband where the discussion about politics got a bit too heated. But we really forgot all about it the next day!
Fandango is the host of Fandango Provocative Question
Welcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.
This week’s provocative question may sound like a simple one, but as you contemplate your response, it may be more nuanced than it at first appears. Because to answer it, you first have to define what “satisfaction” means to you.
Are you satisfied with your life at the moment. If so, what is it that brings you the greatest satisfaction? If not, what might you do to achieve satisfaction in your life?
This is the short answer.
In detail, I am satisfied with my life because I know that I am doing the best I can for myself, my family, and those I call my friends.
I would call this as being in peace with myself.
My father in law was a very wise man and he taught me to value these things in life;
• Mental peace;
That I be at peace with whatever is inside me. My emotions, my desires, and my ambitions.
• Physical peace;
That I look after my body, eat healthy, and get plenty of exercises. Get proper treatments for any illness I am suffering from and look after my mental health.
• Social peace;
That I am at peace with the world around me. No strife with law, no dispute with those living around me, and no ongoing battle with people on any social platform.
And when I have achieved these three categories of peace, I could if I wanted to look for, go for extras.
A posh house
A new car
Designer clothes etc
Lots of followers on my blog
So, yes I am at peace and am satisfied with my life, though I will keep on trying to improve on all three categories. And as for the extras, they are of little value and can be safely relegated to the back burner.
Mostly we do. Unless we can just see it plain as the day. But then that too is evidence. So I think in all aspects of the material world we do need evidence to believe if something is true or not.
The only exception is the spiritual beliefs. Here we go by what our heart knows to be the truth without having solid evidence.
How much control does a person have over their life?
I don’t think we have a lot of control over our lives. We are born in a family without given a choice. The circumstances of our upbringing are also pre-determined. As adults, we make choices and have some control over our lives but we still are affected by what’s going around us. So a safe bet would be 50-50 split.
What is gravity and how does it work?
Gravity is when Mother Earth calls you for a hug.
Or when your hair defy it by standing on your head and other body parts which could have done better by staying in their respective positions, sag down.
Can a person be happy if they have never experienced sadness? How about vice versa?
I think we can. But would we appreciate it that much if we didn’t know the other side of the spectrum!
Would we realize that being happy is a blessing not conferred on everyone? I think we won’t value happiness that much if we didn’t know sadness.
Please feel free to share a song, a poem, a quote, or an image or photo to show what you were grateful for during this past week.
This little guy just stayed long enough for me to take its picture.
How important to you is it for you to have a level of resonation or relatability to the blog and bloggers you read from weekly or does it not matter and you read purely for the escapism, learning or entertainment factor and so on?
Mostly the blogs I follow have to have a degree of relatabilityotherwiseIdon’tfollow them. The thoughts and the content has to gel with me beforeI make visiting them a dailyfeature.
There are a few which are either hilarious or entertaining which also are on my reading list. Short stories, poems or funny anecdotes all to lightenup my day.
Do you like to balance your reading or focus on specific genres only?
I think my reading is prettybalanced. But Idon’t go out of my way to include blogs which are totallyopposite to my way of thinking. That would be just too much to swallow. But if a blogger that I follow has an opinion which is opposed to mine, I will not only read it but also try to look at things from their perspective.
Finally do you need to ‘get your blogger to get your blogger?’ or do you get the blogger anyway whatever?
This question seems to be a puzzle!
I get what a person is writing but do Icompletely get them?
Some I do becauseI’ve been following them for most of the time I have been blogging and there are some that are new and Idon’t know them that well.
Reading and perusing a blog gives the ideal opportunity to know the personbehind that writing.
Sense and sensibility is a famous book by Jane Austin. It explores the relationship between common sense and being overly sensitive to circumstances and people around you.
The theme of the story always intrigued me. I want to know that are these qualities mutually exclusive or a person can have a bit of both?
Let’s take sense, or to be exact, common sense first.
As someone said common sense is not common at all. In fact, few people are endowed with it. It is the balance which helps us decide which course of action we should take in our day to day life. How should we behave, how should we react and what choices we should make. No denying the fact that having common sense is a very useful asset. Being able to objectively weigh the pros and cons of a situation and make a decision based on that is a very valuable quality. If during these decision-making periods we lay our emotions out of the equation, we have more chances of making rational decisions and won’t have to regret our actions later.
Now if we are emotional and overly sensitive, or have “too much sensibility” then we are liable to make our decisions emotionally. Being ruled by the heart instead of the head. Being too sensitive, or having too much sensibility can make emotional upheaval a part of one’s life. One is liable to get upset easily, get hurt by things people say or do, and overall the life is pretty much beset by highs and lows. But being sensitive also means that a person will have more empathy. They will be able to understand the problems of others and identify with their pain.
But where does the balance lies?
I think the perfect balance of this equation lies in being pragmatic. Take life and emotions both realistically and when making any decisions, weigh the pros and cons in a mature way. Let your emotions or even instincts play a role in your decision making but not the major role.
Let’s say that head should make the decision in consultation with the heart!
Or sometimes, we can go with this saying;
“Close your eyes and open your mind”
I am using this photo from Glen as a part of my post.
Glen is hosting a challenge “Lynn’s Tuesday Picture Prompt.
…the ‘it’s a crime’ version. I’m going to ask all crime and philosophies about crime in this week’s share.
Have you ever ‘dined and dashed” (i.e. eaten the meal and then run out the restaurant door without paying)?
I would never even think of doing something like that. First of all, I don’t have the guts to do it.
Secondly even as a young person I lacked the sense of adventure to do something like this. And it does take guts and a sense of adventure to do something like this!
Have you ever been in a car accident and either left the scene of the accident (providing it was a fender bender and not serious) or denied culpability for causing it when you did, (if it were minor or serious)?
Thankfully, never. Though once the other person lammed it after he had rammed his car into mine on rain-slicked road. The only time I did a runner was when I flipped a bird at a man driving recklessly and on the wrong side of the road and he got so angry that he turned around and started following my car. I panicked and drove straight home and locked the gate. Thankfully he didn’t catch me on the road. I never did that again.
(Oldie which has been asked many times before) Have you ever found a wallet or purse or some money (over $20) in the street and just taken it, thinking ‘finders keepers, losers weepers? Or would you be ‘good’ and hand it in?
You can guess my answer to this one too. I don’t pick up anything that I find lying around. Money or wallet. Once I found someone’s credit card on the street and since the issuing bank was a few steps away, I handed it in.
What was the last thing you stole or shoplifted? If you never ever considered doing that, tell us your secret! 🙂
I guess I am a boring person.
I loved the posts Melanie shared on her blog about being kind.
This week I have a personal goal to share that I am very proud of.
After a looooong time, I have fitted into a jean which is a regular size, as opposed to a plus size jean. I am pretty chuffed about it.
I found these guys having a party one day. No thoughts of social distancing!