Category: life Advice

Having lived a life where I have tackled many life issues, I feel that I should share my life experiences

Fandango Provocative Question #15

This week’s provocative question is based upon a quote by Bertrand Russell, the British philosopher, logician, mathematician, historian, writer, essayist, social critic, political activist, and Nobel laureate. Whew, that’s a lot of cred. Anyway, Russell, who died in 1970, suggested that…

“The fundamental cause of the trouble is that, in the modern world, the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubts.”

Do you concur with Mr. Russell’s perspective? Why or why not?

Absolutely right. What seems sad to me is the fact that this statement is almost fifty years old and things are not the same, they have deteriorated much beyond this. Almost all the people (well, mostly all) who are in a position where others can and do listen to them, are very sure of themselves. But are they saying something intelligent, or wise or even rational? No, not at all.

As I see it, a foolish person doesn’t think ahead to see what will be the consequences of what they say or do. So they go ahead without fear and haven’t a thought to spare for the reaction of their deeds or words. A wise person will think, weigh and rethink what they are going to say or do. The results of their actions are important to them so they will hesitate to take any. And here lies the problem.

If you are interested in answering Fandango’s Provocative Question, you can do so at his blog, Fandango of This, That and the Other.

Written in response to;

FPQ # 15

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In other words; Random

Have you ever wondered that life is such a mixture of hits and misses

These events seems random to us but this has a purpose behind it all

The destiny weaves a complex fabric with all the chances imbedded in

One thread linked to the rest in a pattern decided before it all began

So when you see randomness in your life, understand that it is a well laid plan

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In other words; Random

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BrewNSpew Café February 18/2019

Word/expression of the week – finicky – (adjective) – fussy about one’s needs or requirements. Showing or requiring great attention to detail. Synonyms – overcritical, difficult, awkward, exacting, demanding, perfectionist.

Thank you, but no thank you!

The title finicky is awarded mostly to people who are particular about what they want in life. Be it their personal space, their food or apparel or the way others should behave, as per their point of view.

I have known a few of these people. Most are old people, who for some reason become fixed in their ideas. They will reject the food specially prepared for them because it is a micro millimeter away from their perception of how it should look and taste. The same principles are usually applied to their other requirements in life. This problem can be a form of OCD or can be just a desire to be a non-conformist. Or it could be a desire to seem important.

The most significant aspect of this finicky attitude that these people overlook is the amount of extra work they create for themselves or their care givers. They are hard to please and become un-popular among their immediate circle. Then there is the resentment that they generate. The question that begs to be asked is, is it worth it?

If you are one of the finicky one, please ask this question from yourself. And try to lower your standards of perfection for others and yourself too. So next time you reject something on the basis that it doesn’t meet your requirements a hundred percent, look at the effort that went into making or procuring it and pause a few moments before you reject it with a , thank you but no thank you!

Written in response to;

Finicky

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Indifference

We can always blame the serpent for

Leading us astray, committing the sin

The original sin that lead to the downfall

The ejection from the Paradise of the humans

But I believe that the mistake lies in all of us

Showing indifference and apathy to everything

The misery around us has caused our hearts

To be lost to all sense of shame and remorse

And very blatantly we put the onus on others

Never looking to ourselves for seeking the cause

It is worth to alter the way we react to issues

And hence change the environment of censure

There is no hope without realizing the mistakes

And trying to correct the attitude of blaming

Someone else while the only change that is needed

Is to change myself, me and all the faults that are mine!

Written in response to the following;

Your daily word prompt;

Indifference

FOWC;

Paradise

RDP;

Lost

Word of the day challenge;

Worth

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Juggling

How many balls can you juggle at one time?

And how many hats can you wear at the same time?

Are these questions silly?

The actual question is how many pies you are baking right now?

What I really mean to say that you have finger in how many pies?

Okay, let me put it that way, how many irons you have in the fire?

Is it true that you falling between the stools?

The question should be, are you chasing two rabbits and catching none?

Maybe you are spreading yourself too thin?

Or is that you are attempting to ride two horses at the same time?

My initial inquiry was are you good at multitasking?

If you are, how good are you at it?

Are all the tasks you are doing simultaneously, get done well or you just wrap them up to be done with them?

My kind of multitasking!

This has turned out to be a fun post on the topic of multitasking, but seriously, do you find that doing more than one job at a time puts strain on you? I can multitask up to a couple of things at a time but if I try to do more, it usually ends up in everything going down the drain, figuratively and sometimes even literally.

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BrewNSpew Café February 11/2019

Word/expression of the week – off-kilter – (adjective and adverb) – not in perfect balance, not in the usual, expected, or correct condition or state. Unconventional or eccentric. Synonyms – bizarre, cranky, crazy, curious, funny, kinky, outlandish, quaint, screwy, wacky, weird.

Do you ever feel that life is off-kilter?

The balance and harmony that was there

Has been offset by adding too much of this and that

Here and there, making the whole equation lopsided

Leaning towards the material, we often ignore the spiritual

In nurturing our bodies we many a time forget to feed

The starving soul, which can only be nurtured by us

Deep thinking and reflection is needed, some time

Set aside to address the issues that are disturbing

Our peace of mind has to be carved from the

Humdrum of our busy life otherwise the soul

Shrivels and hides in a cocoon weaved by

Our indifference and apathy to its fate

And I do think that life is off-kilter

Written in response to;

Off-Kilter

BrewNSpew Café

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Fight your inner demons!

There are sometimes little prompting in our ears. Are they the little angels guiding us or the tiny devils trying to lead us astray? Living is all about deciding our path at the crossroads of the journey. When we are making the decision of going down a particular path, it is where we pause and listen to the inner voice that is guiding us, usually towards the best decision that should be taken. But not always! Sometimes there are other forces at work leading us on a wrong path!

Being in control of our inner feelings is not always possible. All people have a Good and a Bad ( or not so good )side to their natures. The predominant nature in our psyche has the stronger hold over our thinking and actions.

The two natures are at war constantly with each other for domination over our minds. And it depends upon us as to which side we let out. In our weaker moment the monster comes through easily. The monster (not a literal sense), is that of aggravation of our temper, selfishness, rudeness and other demons that are usually under the control of of better nature. We can plead fatigue, overwork or even being hungry as a cause of this reaction but in reality it’s a loss of control.

The monster trapped inside doesn’t always gets its way. The good side often rules the day. But when we are in a vulnerable position, like being tired or angry, the chances of these demons getting a free ride increase. The bad thing about the loss of control is that it leaves an unpleasant taste in the mouth and there maybe be some guilt trips for us on hindsight.

How to control your inner demons;

1. Think logically, and avoid all impulsive actions. Punching someone in the face may look very attractive at the moment by will have long ranging consequences, and not of the least important to your fist!

2. Take five, or even ten minutes to calm down. A time lapse and deep breathing can work wonders for the nature of reaction. The adage, “Act in hurry and repent at leisure” should be kept in mind at these occasions.

3. Try to see the view from the other side. It is true that in heated moments, we cannot think in a rational manner but seeing the view from the other side can help us understand where the ” other guy” is coming from. As they say that everyone is “Right” in a fight.

So here’s to advocating peace and serenity all around. Remember to keep your impulses under control and that would make your mind peaceful too. As the aftermath of these incidents is not very pleasant.

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Joelle’s tales:  Tell me a tale in 120 words

Welcome to FEBRUARY 7!

 

Today’s prompt is:  What is the one thing in life you want to finish before you die?

I don’t have lofty dreams. Just a desire to live a good, productive life. Be there for my family and friends when they need me. Living healthy life. Not be dependent on anyone for anything is my biggest desire for the end of my life. I have seen when people are dependent upon their loved ones, how much of a strain it puts on the relationship. Love and care is often replaced by duty and obligations. So I want to be done with being overweight, and unhealthy before it’s my time to kick the bucket. I am working on my goals but life often intervenes and my plans are relegated to the back burner.

That’s my aim before I die!

Tell me a Tale in ( exactly) 120 words

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Reena’s Exploration Challenge #73

PROMPT

The theme for this week is

ONE MINUTE

The words need not appear in your piece – but the spirit of that unit of time, what it can do to change things, or why it does not matter to us should be there.

Just one minute!

It just take one minute

To tuns life upside down

Shake it sideways and upend it

One moment we are here planning

For the next forty years and then

The next moment time is telling us

Not to be so sure about the next breath

It can be just over in a minute, the dream

Of years that we dream and plan about

Written in response to;

Reena’s Exploration Challenge #73

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Generosity

What is generosity?

People usually equate generosity with being generous with money. But there are so many ways one can be generous.

Being generous is a way of thinking, of behaving and a code of conduct. A generous person is not tight fisted with money, but that person will be open hearted in many other ways. To my way of thinking, generosity can be of many kinds;

1. Monetary generosity:

These people are very giving and open-hearted where money is concerned. They would help out family, friends and strangers. They are always donating money to charities and are also doing voluntary work to promote their favorite charity.

2. Being generous with time and effort:

Doing social work, collecting donations and giving time to other efforts which help the community are great acts of generosity. People who themselves are giving money, often inspire others with their zeal and words towards donating money. These people would be the first ones to offer their help in organizing events for fund-raising and charity galas. They are always ready to do what they can to help the community.

3. Generous minded people:

These are the truly generous people as they have a big heart. They accept others as they are. Forgiving a fault and not letting it come in the way of a relationship is a sign of a very open-minded person. I think that being generous-minded is a great asset and a great gift. If you can accept people as they are, without trying to change them, you are a generous-minded person. And forgiveness is the best form of generosity that I can perceive. Forgiving requires a lot of effort and only a generous person can forgive another without conditions and without keeping a grudge.

Be generous-minded, open-hearted and accepting person. That is the best kind!

How do you practice generosity?

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