What You Should Know About ‘We Will Not Be Silenced’

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Have you met them

Have you met them

They are the knowing ones

Who are in possession of all the wisdom

They are the experienced ones

Who know how to do things right

They are the learned ones

Who have read every book there ever was

They are the skillful ones

They know the intricacies of art

They are the one who are always right

Who haven’t ever made a mistake in life

They are the creative ones

Who can design and draw like no other

They are good with animals and kids

Who can teach you all about pets and children

They are great with numbers

Who can instruct you in finance

They are such good psychologists

Who can tell you about all you mental kinks

They even have full medical knowledge

Who can treat all your ills

Have you met them

Who are they

Are they you or me

Have you met me

Have you met you

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Fresh air no despair

It is a coincidence that my post today was to be about the beneficial effects of exercise on us. When I checked the November daily word prompts for today, the Fresh air no despair was fitting in perfectly.

Stepping outside into the fresh air, you instinctively take a deep breath. Just to take in all that wonderful  fresh air. Going for a run or jog in the fresh air has an uplifting effect on us. Exercising and doing workouts releases a brain hormone, called endorphins.

What are Endorphins? These are chemicals released in brain when we exercise for a certain amount of time at a certain intensity.

Also known as feel good hormones, endorphins are great mood elevators. After about twenty minutes of exercise of moderate intensity, our brain starts to release endorphins. This is the cause of a euphoric feeling or the runner high.

These chemicals are produced in our brains to relieve stress and pain. The euphoric and analgesic effect are the main reason why people become addicted to exercise, running or jogging. These chemicals also have a sedative effect and that’s why a good run ,walk or workout gives us a good night sleep.

Endorphins not only have a relaxing effect on our bodies but also trigger a positive and uplifting mental outlook. It chases away the anxiety, despair and depression.

Psychologist and psychiatrist also recommend physical activity for a certain time every day to keep depression and anxiety at a minimum.

So let’s put on our running/ walking shoes and go out to enjoy the fresh air that is going to blow away the cob webs from our minds , chase away the blues and energize our body and brain. It will also stimulate our thinking and bring fresh ideas about writing!

So, Endorphins, anyone?

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Is it all for the MONEY!

People say that Money makes the world go round!

So, being realistic, we must acknowledge that money is one of the essentials of life. In today’s world, survival without money is quite impossible, for any person. That is the reality. From the time that we get up from a warm bed in the morning till we go to sleep at night, all that we do, requires money.

How much we need and how much we want? That is a question, best answered by any given individual on their requirements and outlook on life.

I have heard people say that Money is at the root of all evils. But money can be used for good and IS being used to make wonderful changes to the lives of many people. So the desire to have money is not evil or even unreasonable.

If you are an idealist, you can achieve your ideal goals if you earn enough money. For the realist, no need to point out the obvious, money will enable you to live the life you want.

But if things were so simple and straightforward, there wouldn’t be any problems in our lives. The complications arise when the object of earning money becomes a goal in itself. Then, we are not thinking, that we will be doing this or that with the money we earn, but how to make money becomes our prime object in life. The means to achieving our mission in life, becomes the mission of our life.

It is at this point that our priorities change and we enter the rat race. “But the trouble with being in a rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat “( Lily Tomlin) ! Trying to compete with each other to be on the top becomes our objective in life.

That is why, we have to separate our Needs from our Wants . Unless we do that, we can’t avoid the unfulfilled life that is a result of needing little and wanting more!

Enjoy your job/work, try to earn enough to get by reasonably and have a healthy relationship with your colleagues. Money should not be the governing force behind our endeavors. Life is too short to run after money, and to make it our sole purpose!

What are your aims and objectives in life?

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Masks 🎭

I started the draft of this post in response to a daily prompt, Masks. Then , not finding time to write that day, I shelved the idea, but the topic was an interesting one so I kept the draft.

When you say mask, the image that comes to mind can be any thing from the masked figures from a suspense/ thriller movie, to a romantic masked character in a Cinderella like ball! It could also be the traditional costume masks worn in certain cultures, like that of Venice , Korea and some African countries.

But I would like to talk about Everyday Masks that we all wear. Not intentionally but subconsciously!

We are taught to conquer our feelings, to not show our fears and not to divulge out hurts. Be brave, be strong! This constant conditioning has an impact on most of us. We start hiding behind masks.

We mask our fear with a smile of bravado. We hide our tears behind a mask of indifference. The hurt is hidden behind a facade of nonchalance. The weakness is covered by a show of overconfidence.

Have you ever thought why! Why is it not right to show our feelings? Why should the emotions be hidden from the people around us? What is the reason for the pretense?

Maybe the pressure to conform to a certain standard is one of the factors. Girls can cry but boys can’t. Boys have to be brave and fearless. Girls have to be gentle and compassionate. There is nothing wrong in having these qualities in our personalities but projecting the stereotypical image, binds us socially to a fixed standard. We can’t be ourselves. We hide the emotions we are not Supposed to feel. And we wear Masks!

We also wear these masks to protect ourselves from getting hurt. If we wear our hearts on our sleeve then we are going to get hurt. People are going to make light of our misery so it should not be shown. Tears and sorrow, anger and frustration are all hidden. We need to present a side of our personality which doesn’t makes people around us, uncomfortable.

Isn’t it the time to tear away these Masks and to show the world our feelings. The feelings which will set us free from the shackles of the expectations of the society. Be ourselves. Express what we are feeling, but at the same time don’t put the burden of our emotions on others. The expression of hope and fear, love and dismay can be shared with the world around us. This will at least lighten the burden we feel by hiding our true emotions.

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Who are we?

What defines us? How we think and react? Or how our religion or belief system has shaped our personalities? What sort of books we read and what kind of movies we watch? How our families and friends have influenced our mental development?

It is not one factor that defines us as an individual. We are, what shapes us during our lives. The longer we have lived, the stronger is the impact of life on us!

When a child starts to become aware of its surroundings, it’s effects start to become noticeable on their behavior. As we grow, we learn a lot of lessons. Some good some unpleasant. But then that’s life.

We get up on the bike of life, we fall and then get on it again till such time that we are riding the tide. But none of us ever become the Expert, we remain the students, the Novices in this journey to the end. And we need help in learning to deal with this difficult challenge. All the help that we can get!

In my opinion and experience, how we prepare ourselves for this test, can improve our journey and ease some of our difficult times. We can get a sporting chance to live a good life if we:

A. surround ourselves with good friends:

Finding good people to befriend, is not always easy. But if you are in luck, and find a good friend, don’t let go. Hold on tight and be a better friend in return. Company of good people improves all aspects of our lives.

B. Develop strong family ties:

We can’t choose our family. We have to accept them as they are. We can’t even influence them to change ( usually) . So how do we have a close relationship with our families if we don’t get along? And that is the truth in more cases than not. Well, we can acknowledge their shortcomings and take them as they are, as they would, you. As they say that blood is thicker than water, developing stronger ties with our family provides us with a mental stability and a sense of belonging. It enhances our tolerance and acceptance levels. In short, makes us more human.

C. Read good books:

I don’t mean that we should only read The good book (that too or any other religious book that you prefer) but any good book. Read what appeals to your inner self. Books are a great source of ideas, knowledge and awareness. Making friends with books means you are never lonely or ignorant. You won’t become a know-it-all, ( hopefully ) but a person with broad vision. A better version of yourself.

D. Cultivate a belief system:

If you are religious, then learn about your religion and it’s basic tenets. If you do not believe in religion, even then you have a basic set of values you like to base your life upon. Beliefs are an essential part of human psyche. We are incomplete without some principles to guide us.

E. Study the human life:

And how should we do that! We can watch movies and TV shows where human relations are discussed. We can listen to people around us, we can interact with our Co-workers and colleagues. The idea would be to learn from the stories around us. Some may be fictional, but then fiction is usually based on reality. One never knows when and where we may encounter a life changing experience or advice.

Finding self is an exciting journey. Enjoy it.

Let me know how you have discovered yourself.

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Is it OCD or am I getting old(er)?

OCD stands for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

The aim of this post is not to make light of a disorder but to analyze the character traits which develop in people who , as they are getting older, get fixated in their ways.

I often wonder that I might be getting to that stage the people may think that I have OCD!

As I am getting older, I am getting rigid in my habits. I like things to be arranged in the way I like. I do my daily chores in my preferred order. If I fail to reach my steps goal for the day or the hourly steps goal I will be stressed out. If I forget to do any of my routine tasks, I am all in a flap!

So, I ask myself, is this OCD or a sign of getting old?

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a mental health disorder that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and occurs when a person gets caught in a cycle of obsessions and compulsions. Obsessions are unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images or urges that trigger intensely distressing feelings. Compulsions are behaviors an individual engages in to attempt to get rid of the obsessions and/or decrease his or her distress.

Most people have obsessive thoughts and/or compulsive behaviors at some point in their lives, but that does not mean that we all have “some OCD.” In order for a diagnosis of obsessive compulsive disorder to be made, this cycle of obsessions and compulsions becomes so extreme that it consumes a lot of time and gets in the way of important activities that the person values.

( source: International OCD foundation)

So, according to this explanation, I don’t fall into this category.

But don’t we all have our own obsessions and compulsions? We may not be taking them to the degree where it would become a mental or medical issue, but I have seen that in most people who are getting older, they have something or the other , about which they obsess.

Some people are fixated about schedules, home decor and/or cleanliness, personal appearances, or personal hygiene. Others have constant worries about their family or kids. Some are afraid of meeting with an accident, themselves or their loved ones. Some have an obsession with home security, checking that they have locked up before going to bed or when leaving home. Making sure that it’s all secure, several times ( I often double and triple check the locks before leaving home!).

As I am aging, I find that I am taking things a little out of their context. Giving more importance to relatively unimportant things and tasks. Getting worked up about failing to meet a goal or forgetting to fetch/ buy/ complete, some thing should not attain such high priority so as to disturb our state on mind.

How to deal with these “Little ” compulsions?

1. Think how it will mater in a week’s time, a month or a year!

Thinking long-term can make our anxiety about a small issue fade into insignificance or at least reduce it to a Lilliputian stature.

2. Divert your mind.

Think of something else. Something pleasant, which you are looking forward to. It will help to put your mind on a different track.

3. Give yourself a code word or safe word.

When you find that you’re doing something repeatedly then give yourself a pre-arranged code word . If you are washing your hand repeatedly thinking that they are not clean, think Clean or Safe. If you do this a few times, your mind will accept that now your hands/ home/ any other thing that needs to be washed, is now clean and safe. This code word will then be associated in your mind with the signal that the task is done.

4. Music, meditation and movies.

These are great tools to divert the mind and for overall relaxation. Deep breathing also helps relax the mind and allay anxiety to a great extent.

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Also check out my post : DO YOU TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY

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A weighty issue

In my tag line I have mentioned obesity. I have been at war( regular armed warfare!!!) with the weighing scale most of my life. Being a chubby and cute baby really didn’t help me when I grew up into a teenager. My weight would fluctuate a lot. I would gain weight and after some effort, would get it off but not for long. This continued till my marriage and first pregnancy. With my first pregnancy, I put on a whooping 60 pounds.This yo-yo’ing went on for a lot of years till , finally at the age of 38, I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism.

I thought that now , at last, my weight troubles are over! Well not exactly! I did loose about 35 pounds after the start of treatment but not for long. Apparently, people with hypothyroidism have a tough time taking and keeping the weight off.

I tried Atkins diet, low-fat high carb diet, southern beach diet and any number of variations of these and many other diets. The result was more weight fluctuations and very little satisfaction.

So, where am I now heading? I have not given up. No sir! I mean to keep on trying to lose this excess weight , not because I want to just look good( BTW, who doesn’t), but now it’s a matter of being healthy.                                                                                                                                       appetite apple close up delicious

So the battle continues! I will tell you about my new strategy in my next blog post. Till then , please like and comment

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My secret addiction!

Games, puzzles and words games, I am addicted to them all. I have different passions at different times. Nowadays, it’s Jigsaw puzzles( the ones you play on you phone or tablet). Before I started to write my blog, this was a major time kill for me. I would be sitting at home, on the airport, in the bus or at a get together where I didn’t know anyone ( I know it is very rude!) , I would take out my phone and start working on my puzzle.

How my addiction with computer/ phone games started?

It was about 15-16 years ago, that while talking to my brother, who is a doctor, the topic of occupation ( mine) came under discussion. I haven’t had a proper job since I completed my studies. Being a home maker and full-time mom didn’t leave much time for a whole time job! So he told me that it was essential to keep my mind active to prevent early dementia ( my grand father suffered from it) . He suggested word games and other ” mind games” ( the literal ones) . I started playing Solitaire and FreeCell on my PC, ( we had a PC for the whole family in those days).

From there I progressed gradually to phone/ laptop/ tablet. I played games to while away my time, to amuse myself and to exercise my mind. To say that enjoyed this pastime would be an understatement. I loved it!

But my family was not happy about it. They termed my harmless hobby as an addiction. There were a lot of representations made to me about sitting with my phone or laptop, staring at the screen and being blind and deaf to everything going around me was not good for me!

So to respect the wishes of my family, I tried to cut down on my games addiction. I would give myself a timetable for playing my favorite games, an hour in the morning and/ or an hour in the afternoon, was the time I allowed myself. The resultant withdrawal was not difficult to manage. And then I came to the stage where my kids were all on their own, working and / or married! I suddenly had a lot of time on my hands. I was free to do whatever I wanted with my time. Also I discovered a new obsession, Jigsaw puzzles.

It was interesting and challenging. I gradually increased the level of difficulty I could handle ( the maximum is 400 pieces). I got pretty good at it too.

But one day, my very good friend Dr Tanya@ Salted Caramel told me that she had started writing a blog. She encouraged me to do the same. Her encouragement and support from my family, finally made me bold enough to take this step. Now most of my time is spent either reading the blogs of people I follow or writing my own posts.

My family is happy that I have found a constructive way to spend my time. I am happy to have found something positive to do and love the feedback and encouragement that I find here in my blogging world, so everyone’s happy.

But one thing I haven’t told anyone is that I still do my daily Jigsaw Puzzle! I also play my card games daily challenges while no one is watching!

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I have been nominated for the: Liebster Award

A couple of days ago , DrTanya@ Salted Caramel nominated me for the Liebester Award. I am deeply honored for this nomination. The acceptance and love shown to me here, in the blogging community, is very encouraging to new bloggers like me.

First of all, what is Liebester Award?

It is said that this award is created to discover and encourage new bloggers to the blogosphere. Liebester is a word of German language, meaning Beloved, Dear, Sweet etc. In short, a term of endearment. Showing love and kindness to the newcomers. So in a way , it’s a welcome gesture for the people new to the blogging world. Such a kind thought and gesture.

What are the rules of Liebester Award:

1. Acknowledge the blogger that gave it to you and display the award.

2. Answer 11 questions that the blogger gives you.

3. Give 11 random thoughts about yourself.

4. Nominate 11 blogs and notify them of their nomination.

5. Give these blogs 11 questions to answer

Thanks a lot Dr Tanya @Salted Caramel. I appreciate the award, the opportunity to answer your questions and to tell my readers some things about myself.

11 Random thoughts about myself:

1. I am an avid reader. As a teenager I had read All the book at home, including very old poetry books too. I inherited this love of reading from my father and grandfather.

2. As a kid and later on as a young adult, I loved to make things with my hands, stitching, knitting, painting and other DIY projects.

3. I am a pacifist. I hate arguments, misunderstandings and fights. As a kid, I would play the role of the peacemaker in the home.

4. I have three brothers, and used to be a tomboy. I would play with my brothers, and used to tag along with them on their outings. I loved cycling and target shooting.

5. I love organizing: be it events with friends, family or community. Some people have called me bossy too.

6. I love watching movies, mostly all types, but I can’t stand horror movies.

7. There are very few days when I don’t eat chocolate, specially dark chocolate. My favorite is Intense orange, by Lindt.

8. I love spending time with friends and family. But I am also happy by myself. I can entertain myself for hours.

9. I love playing games on my phone, iPad, laptop etc. I am very fond of games, but not the violent games. I mostly play mental games, to exercise my mind and to keep it from degeneration. But my phone battery is giving up fast!

10. I am very bad at remembering names and faces. It makes for a lot of socially embarrassing situations.

11. I always try to find a silver lining in any unpleasant situation. An optimist by nature, but I take life too seriously sometimes.

11 Questions put to me by Tanya @Salted Caramel:

1. What is your biggest pet peeve?

I am always irritated by people who don’t follow rules and try to break in the queue.

2. Where did you get your name?

I got the name of my blog from the thought that women over 50, sometimes give up on the desire to enjoy life to the full. Hence “Keep it alive”. That is, the spirit of enjoying life.

3. If you could change your name, what would it be?

I like my name as it is, but if I could then maybe I would have gone for some smaller and zippier version of it like , living life!

4. What was your favorite TV show as a kid?

I loved to watch Tom and Jerry, the cartoons, as a kid.

5. Do you have any weird habits?

Sometimes I can’t go to sleep at night ( too much coffee or Coke Zero), so I get up and start walking in the house. After walking for about an hour, I get sleepy enough to go back to bed.

6. Do you like fall  scents /Tastes?

I love the fall flavors! Cinnamon dolce latte, pumpkin spice latte…. you can see where I am going!

7. What is your favorite holiday and why?

I love spring break. The weather is great and kids have time off from school. There is no crazy jam at the airports in spring.

8. Do you prefer writing it down or typing it up?

I usually type when I am blogging. Writing takes longer for me and is messier. Even shopping lists are typed on my phone!

9. Netflix or cable?

Netflix, hands down. I can’t remember schedules of regular programs so I prefer to watch at my own convenience.

10. If money didn’t matter, what would you do with your life?

If money was no problem, then I would travel and see the places I have wanted to visit. Or maybe a grand world tour?

11. What is your favorite thing about yourself?

I try to be as honest as I can. Sometimes, one has to bend the truth a little so as not to hurt others but as a I policy, I tell the truth.

NOMINATIONS:

1.CULTURE SHOCKS

2. PATIENCE OF WILLOW

3. RACQUEL WRITES

4. SHIFTNSHAKE

5. POETRY FOR HEALING

6. MY SLICE OF MEXICO

7. HEALTH

8. LUNA’S ON LINE

9. SINGLEDUST

10. AQUIS

11. THIS THAT AND THE OTHER

So my questions are the same as those that were asked from me ( Sorry if it sounds as if I am not making an effort. But i found the questions very interesting! )

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