I recently made a self-discovery that made many things clear to me.
Why do we tell things, our personal experiences to others?
And sometimes we tell them to some people and not others?
I suddenly had an epiphany that what we are usually looking for are sympathy and understanding. When we tell a friend or family member about our troubles or aches and pains we want some sympathy from our confidant. Our aim in sharing is not that we expect the other person to lessen our troubles but that they will understand and will show us some sympathy.
But not everyone is going to be sympathetic, so learning from our previous experiences, we tell our troubles only to those who we feel will show us sympathy. It’s not that others aren’t interested in us, the most common issue is that people have enough troubles of their own and due to this they have less time and sympathy to spare.
So when you have the urge to un-burden yourself, choose someone who is;
Has no immediate problems of their own
Loves you and can give good advice
Please remember that if that person qualifies for the last two points but isn’t free, DON’T go to them for sympathy.
A prompt by Sue W and GC; Weekly prompts Weekend Challenge – Discovery
“Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.” ~ Erol Ozan
Respond to this challenge, by either by using the prompt word stage, or going with the above picture, or by means of the song ‘Limelight
Life is a stage and…….
Yes, these are the same old lines from Shakespeare but though these have lost their meaning because of too frequent a usage, they are true in one sense that we all play the part we are allotted by life. At times we are so engrossed and involved in our allotted roles that we fail to see the bigger picture.
The reality of life is that both the minuscule and the immense aspects of it have equal importance. A small irritant can assume gigantic proportions because it may be all that we can think of at that moment. Similarly, a massive problem can be dismissed by a shake of the head because we have the tools to deal with it at our disposal.
A very wise person once told me to look at life from the spectator’s gallery. He said we often need to take ourselves out of the events and look at them from the point of view of an outsider.
Play your part But don’t get too involved For this role that we play
“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” – Henry David Thoreau
Your Weekly Prompt – Peace – September 30, 2
We pay homage to the dove of peace
We weave accolades of praise and courage
Yet the real peace is as elusive as ever
Only lip service and hollow words are offered
It seems we lack the will to bring about real peace
World is still at loggerheads with itself everywhere
People are against people, even their own kind
When will it get through our thick heads that
There cannot be peace within if there’s no peace around us