I recently made a self-discovery that made many things clear to me.
Why do we tell things, our personal experiences to others?
And sometimes we tell them to some people and not others?
I suddenly had an epiphany that what we are usually looking for are sympathy and understanding. When we tell a friend or family member about our troubles or aches and pains we want some sympathy from our confidant. Our aim in sharing is not that we expect the other person to lessen our troubles but that they will understand and will show us some sympathy.
But not everyone is going to be sympathetic, so learning from our previous experiences, we tell our troubles only to those who we feel will show us sympathy. It’s not that others aren’t interested in us, the most common issue is that people have enough troubles of their own and due to this they have less time and sympathy to spare.
So when you have the urge to un-burden yourself, choose someone who is;
Has no immediate problems of their own
Loves you and can give good advice
Please remember that if that person qualifies for the last two points but isn’t free, DON’T go to them for sympathy.
A prompt by Sue W and GC; Weekly prompts Weekend Challenge – Discovery
“Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.” ~ Erol Ozan
Melanieasks 4-5 questions every week. This week it’s Halloween special!
Name something you wouldn’t want to run into in a dark forest or in an abandoned building (yeah it’s a retread. But there are new participants to SYW too who probably never answered it)
I wouldn’t want to run into that friend whom I just unfriended on face book. Why? You may wonder; it’s because she talks too much and most of it, or maybe all of it, is about her!
Do you believe in multiple dimensions or worlds?
What do we really know? Maybe there are multiple dimensions or worlds. I know that this idea makes stories and movies much more interesting. Also it gives the writers and directors of the said movies to bring people back from the dead!
Would you ever go to a graveyard at night?
Not if I can help it. There is lot of superstition attached to going to a graveyard after dark in our culture as well. My reason for going in broad daylight is that I’m less likely to trip and fall if I can see where I am going!
What is the most frightening book you’ve ever read?
I don’t read frightening books anymore. I think any book which has the main protagonists in danger or in cliffhanger suspense is not a comfortable read.
BONUS QUESTION (just for silliness’ sake!)
If you could have a spooky Halloween pet (black cat, owl, bat, rat, wolf), which would you pick out of the five choices?
I’d love a jet black cat with bright green eyes. They are so cute. In fact there is a stray tiny kitten like that where we are living right now. It’s very shy of humans.
GRATITUDE SECTION (As always, optional) What are you grateful for?
I am glad the the weather cooled down considerably after the rain on the weekend. It means that Dengue mosquito will die because the temperature has dipped below 28*C, which is the optimal temperature for these mosquitoes to survive and multiply. We are having a resurgence of Dengue fever since the Covid cases are going down.