Quote me 321: Communications

Rory of a Guy called Bloke and K9 Doodlepips has tagged me for the Quotes on Communication.

Communication is all about putting what you’re thinking into words, effectively. Words said at appropriate moment can change lives. Humans are the only species on earth with the power of speech. How we use this is up to us. This art needs to be developed, honed and utilized properly to achieve desired results. Our communication skills can serve us in all the areas of live, personal, professional and public. Use it to enhance your private relationships and improve the professional life. Having good communication skill as a writer can be extremely useful for not only conveying our thoughts to our readers but to influence them in a positive manner

This is another paradox. People who should be saying what is on their mind are silent and those who haven’t two thoughts to put together are talking non-stop. As a community is because of communications, we must let the wise and experienced among us, speak. There is a saying that, We are given two ears and one mouth so that we listen twice as much as we talk. Let the wisest among us talk and the other listen.

Thanks a lot Rory for the tag. As I understand, this is the last in series, till next year so I am not tagging anyone. You all are welcome to join in.




Can you see through my eyes

Or walk in my shoes?

Can anyone feel what another person is feeling?

Since we all view life through our eyes, and these eyes give us a unique look. No two persons looking at the same thing, see it exactly the same. The reason is what our eyes see, our mind then interprets it so that we make sense of it. That is why in a given situation, a word or a picture evokes different responses from different people.

Sometimes when a person has gone through an extremely hard time in life, to them it feels that nobody can feel or understand their pain or the hardships they are going through. Hence the question:

Can you see through my eyes or walk in my shoes?

When we want others to know that we have a feeling of sympathy towards them, we use words like, I know or I feel it. Or we can say I can understand. By using these words we can tell others that even though we haven’t shared this experience with them, we can, using our previous experience in life or our empathy, understand how they might be feeling.

There is a term, shared grief. People going through a sorrowful experience together as in the loss of a loved one, share the same experience of grief. They all have gone through a similar loss. Their feelings may not be exactly the same but would be falling under the same criteria. These people would be able to understand each other’s feelings to a large extent. Then there are people who share an exhilarating experience. They also have a pretty good idea, what others are feeling.

We can say words of empathy and sympathy but we really cannot experience what someone else is going through. Words are easy to come by. They are easily said but do they have an impact on the listener? When we express our support, and sympathy for the person suffering it can, in a way make them realize that even if we don’t share their grief, we are trying to understand it.

We develop empathy by trying to understand the feelings of others. There is need to be empathetic or to develop a caring personality because it is essential part of being human and to fit in the society. An uncaring or callous person is not only considered a misfit but can also labeled as a sociopath by the people taking an extreme view.

We all have in our lives, hard times. How we handle these also depends on, how we perceive them. Developing an out look in life, where we can see and put things in their proper perspective is an essential tool. This helps us to combat the hard times ourselves and to be able to understand what others are going through in a similar situation.

Let me know what thoughts you have on this topic.


Seasonal Spirit

Open your hearts and mellow them for all around you

It’s the season for giving, forgiving and wishing good cheer

Every year we do the same, but some more than others

The spirit for grand gestures and universal bonhomie is

Seasonal or can this generosity be our hallmark the year around?

In other words;



What’s the hurry

Have you noticed that everyone is in a hurry these days? Parents are in a hurry to send kids to school, the teacher are in a hurry to make the children understand all that they need to learn. Children are in a hurry to grow up. Young people are in a hurry to achieve greatness and acquire money. Have we , in our hurry to get from one place to the other, stopped enjoying the journey?

Can we take our life in a leisurely manner? Can the journey of life be entertaining and relaxing?

Why does it has to be caught in a frenzy of events, one colliding with the other. Overtaking each other at times and falling out of synch at others! Like the atoms in an object are constantly at motion, we are too.

If we look back to a time when our grandparents lived , we see a life of slow orderly pace. People had work. They had plenty of time for entertainment and hobbies. All the life was a well conducted symphony. In harmony and slow-paced.

So what has changed? Is this new, the norm and things will progress from here to new heights to hyperactivity? Can we slow down the pace and relish each and every moment as it passes or is the celebration of life, this fast and full speed ahead journey?

I have asked a lot of questions but I don’t have the answers. Do you? Can we take a moment to stop and smell the flowers? Enjoy the leisure of doing nothing, sitting and dreaming on the park bench watching the grass grow! All clichéd phrases but valid questions.

Waiting for your feedback and comments


More thoughts on Blogging

Here in the blogging world we share not only our views on different aspects of life but also on blog writing itself. Yesterday coincidentally, there were two posts on the subject of the content that is written on daily basis. One blogger thought that there is an excess of posts and the posts themselves don’t contain any worthwhile content. The other one was of the opposite opinion, though not in answer to the first one.

As some of you might have read my post yesterday on the etiquettes of award nominations. So today I have another question, coming from those bloggers, how many times should a writer post on his/ her blog a day? In other words, should there be a limit to the number of times we can post on our own blog? Another question related to this , what sort of content we should be posting?

Here is what I think;

1. It is a free world ( at least in the blogosphere) and people who have their blogs , (either free or paid by them) it is their space, and they have full freedom to post as many time a day on their space as they want.

2. What sort of posts should be put on the blogs. Anything that the readers of that blogger want to read and that person wants to post! Why should someone object on the content of my post or that of someone else? If you are not happy with what someone is posting, you can simply not read it.

3. Bloggers love to write. They are here to write. And the content they post should be of their own choice. If my love is writing serious stuff, I will do that. If someone loves writing poetry then that person can write poems to their heart’s content. There are blog writers who write amazing stories and flash fiction, they should be free to indulge in their passion.The stories some of us write may not be award-winning or very profound, but this is the way to develop the writing talent. The proficiency comes with practice. Words become our tools of expression and we develop a friendship with the Lexicon. Our posts may not enrapture our readers or cause a ripple in the universe, but we are trying to get there. And we will, given enough practice.

I will be grateful for your feedback in comments . Let me know what are your thoughts on this. And I hope that this post doesn’t cause offense to anyone. That is not my aim. Just sharing my thoughts.

Written for the following;

Word of the day;






Special Birthday

Today was special, and no one was allowed to forget it. It was Mindy’s fourth birthday. There was going to a big celebration. All the kids from her pre-school class were invited and of course with either one or both parents. Then there were the neighbors and kids from the families around them. Her grand parents, from both sides were coming too!

Her mom, Sara, had everything under control. A catering firm was handling the whole party , eating and decorations etc. she just needed to pick up the cake . It was from a bakery downtown that was famous for their delightful cakes and other goodies! Mindy had selected the cake herself. It was a four tiered cake, so beautiful to look at and would be delicious to eat.

To be ready on time was an obsession with Sara so she went to pick up the cake quite early. The people at the shop had told her that it would be ready by eleven in the morning. She drove to the bakery and parked near the entrance so that the cake could be transported easily. Near the shop there was an enclave. A man was crouching down on the floor, his hand were shaking with cold. He was wearing threadbare clothes and nothing to protect him from the cold weather. Sara’s attention was immediately caught by the him. She stopped near him and asked if he was okay, or did he need any help. The man straightened up and look at her. There was a very sad expression in his eyes. He thanked her politely and told her that he was fine and was in no need of help. Sara could clearly see that he was in some sort of distress but how could she help him in any way, if he refused it?

She turned and entered the bakery to fetch the cake. While the shop assistant was putting the cake into its custom-built box, she mentioned the man sitting near the shop entrance. The shop assistant said that the man has been sleeping here at night for some days now. He always refuses any food or offer of help. And he is usually gone by the morning. Today he is lingering on but still declining to take any help from anyone. Sara was now very intrigued by this situation. She decided to try again and went outside to talk to him. “Sir, if you don’t mind me asking, are you in pain or are you sick?” She asked him hesitantly. “Thank you, miss I am just cold, not sick” , he replied. ” I sleep here at night and I didn’t used to be cold because I had my dog with me who kept me warm. My dog, Max died a couple of days ago. So I have to sleep on my own. That is cold and lonely too” Sara’s eyes filled with tears at this sad story. She had always felt that it was a sacred duty of the state to look after people in such circumstances. ” Sir if you would like, I have a shed at my home where you can sleep at night. And if it is okay with you , our garden needs looking after too. You can lend us a hand with that in exchange for a small salary?” He agreed to the generous offer made by her and Sara came home with the cake, carefully carried by the man.

Written for the following;



One daily prompt challenge;




Heartbroken but not defeated!

My heart is shattered but not my spirit

My dreams are broken but not my love

My plans are in disarray but not my resolve

This has been a severe blow

But it hasn’t knocked me off course

The ship is still afloat and able

The journey may be difficult but not impossible

It’s dark and no star can I see

But the day is not that far away

Dawn is just breaking on the horizon

The way ahead is hazy but I can discern the shore

Hope is the driving wind in my sails

Resolve are my oars, pulling me towards

The safety and security of the land that is

My goal and a refuge

I may be heart broken but I am not defeated yet!

Let me know what you think of my post. Is it better to give in to grief or to soldier on, trying to reach your goals anyway?


Solidarity Blogger Award Nomination

Solidarity Blogger Award Nomination

SIWO (Success Inspirers’ World) is an International Friends Blogging Forum. The idea is to encourage team work and to blog together as a community. As an international friends blogging forum, Success Inspirer’s World provides an opportunity that every blogger is looking for – the opportunity to get more exposure and find more followers and readers.

The Rules:

1. Write a post on your blog thanking the person who nominated you.
2. Paste the award in the post.
3. Provide a link to the blog of the person who nominated you.
4. Tell Success Inspirers’ World, SIWO what you think about solidarity blogging. Is it worthwhile?
5. Nominate 10 bloggers for the award and inform them.

Happiness is;

Happiness is

Not to have to worry

about where to rest your head at night

Happiness is

Not to go hungry or crave food

A belly full, is a heart content

Happiness is

The cold and snow won’t scare

When a warm blanket is there to comfort

Happiness is

Thirst can be quenched with water

That doesn’t bring illness or death

Happiness is

To sleep and not worry about

A raid or a bomb killing you at night

Happiness is

To have a place you can call home

Not to be treated as an alien and enemy

Happiness is to be treated as an equal human being and not statistics of war.

Written for those who are looking for answers. For them happiness is to get what we all take as granted. The people in war-torn countries, the people displaced by conflicts and the people declared as aliens by the government.

Please share your thoughts and views in comments.


FPQ # 4

“Is it better to know or is it better to not know?”

This the latest FPQ, posed by Fandango, of This ,That and the Other.

My answer to this is, yes. Most empathetically yes!

Knowledge is the key to understanding. Not only the world around us but ourselves too. Knowing the answers or at least trying to know is our instinct. The result is all the development in the world today.

Knowing the facts in life makes the decision process easy. It also provides the insight into the workings of all that surrounds us. That is how the technology came into being.

Knowing our own strengths and weaknesses can lead us to manage our lives in a better way. Similarly the knowledge of these qualities in others is also a big factor in how we deal with them.

Knowing about our moral creed saves us from confusion and gives us an anchor in life. It serves a basis upon which we build our faith. And is essential for our spiritual well-being.

Knowing about what illnesses we have had, have and could have is also very important for our physical survival. Know what foods are good for us and which ones are harmful. What are health promoting habits and which can be detrimental for our health are all fact that come from knowledge.

In conclusion I would say that if we want to live a life of ease and enlightenment, we should strive to KNOW!

Check out the latest FPQ, from Fandango!