Questions over coffee by Rory

10 – 15 assorted questions across a range of subjects once a week

01• Do you sometimes ‘just’ LIKE posts from those you follow but don’t often read the content, and if so, why do you do this? Is it a time restraint or something else that motivates this action?

Sometimes, when I am way behind in my blog reading due to family commitments, I do like the posts from those I regularly follow. But I do skim the content before doing that as there are certain things I don’t agree with or like!

02• What do you do with gifts you have received but have no use for?

Inspired by Sadje

I do regift them but make sure that the other person wants them. Mostly these are my kids or very close friends.

03• Have people become lazier concerning cooking do you think, or is it more a case of people not knowing how to cook? Is cooking considered a valuable skill by you?

Over here, we cook every day. Being lazy is never an excuse as food/ mealtime is special. The only times when we don’t cook is when it’s a weekend and we plan to order in.

I know how to cook but am not a great cook. There are certain dishes I make very well.

04• What news stories, in your opinion, have so far defined the 2020’s and what do you think they have taught us personally as individuals?

Politics, the war in Ukraine, increasing prices of everything, and increasing violence all over the world have made 2022 a year to remember with the hope that next year is an improvement. I’ve learned to switch off the tv when news show starts.

05• What would you never swallow even if you could?

Many things, including red meat, raw fish, organ meat… and the list goes on.

06• How many hours of sleep do you get a night, and how many hours do you think you need and why?

I try to get at least 7 hours of sleep. And that’s enough for me. Less than that and I don’t function at full capacity!

07• How important is it to you to have a clean house or environment to live in and does it have to be pristine?

I like a tidy and clean house, but it’s not something that has to be done right now. Tomorrow is good enough.

08• Could you give up your Smartphone and break your addiction to it?

Not at all! I’d be cut off from my family and blogging community. And won’t be able to pay my bills etc.

09• What have been five of your best TV shows from the dawn of dot to today? Why were they good?

I can never remember the names.

10• Why is life not a bed of roses but a bed of thorns?
What makes your life good and or bad?

Life is what you make of it. And how you look at it. No one’s life is all tragedy or all comedy. It’s a mix and we need to be able to adjust to its different phases.

11• Toasted waffles or toasted bread, and why?

Right now; neither. I haven’t been allowed carbs since my stomach surgery. Maybe one day I’ll be able to eat bread or waffles!

12• How do you feel about the ageing process and you?

Aging is the price we pay for being alive. I think it’s a better option than dying young!

13• What is the last rebellious thing you did?

Got my stomach size reduced by half. I did this in hopes of curing my co-morbidities like diabetes, hypertension, and hyper-cholesterol! Weight loss is an extra benefit.

14• What would be your ideal ‘you experience’ of the following …. museum, theatre, spa day, bungee jumping?

Spa day, but if someone else is paying!

15• Could you easily step off the planet and away from society and your friends and being social and also away from the Internet for 12 months?

Nopes, I won’t for I can’t be away from my family, friends, and my blog.




Sunday Poser # 109

Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;

Looking good; Is it vanity or a requirement?

Man or woman, I think most of us want to look our best, especially on special occasions. Some are more concerned with their looks and presentation than others.

For me personally, looking presentable increases my self-confidence. I am more comfortable in my skin and feel better. Spending time on my self-care, selecting proper clothes, and making an effort to improve my appearance has a mani-fold purpose in my mind;

1• It keeps my morale high. I’m more interested in life and people around me. An occasional compliment raises my spirits and I am more motivated.

2• Bothering about my own appearance can have a beneficial effect on both my physical and mental health. If I am motivated to reduce weight, I will improve my physical and mental health both. It may result in reducing weight related illnesses and give the boost that a person in good health gets.

3• Looking good also gives us joy and increases our vitality.

I should explain that by looking good I mean wearing appropriate clothes, grooming myself, and doing what will be beneficial for me. It doesn’t mean that I’m gearing up to participate in a beauty contest.

What are your thoughts on this topic; Do you make an endeavor to look presentable or are not interested in making the effort at all? Are appearances important to you or not at all?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find it.

As usual, thanks for visiting and reading.



Sharing my world- 27 November’ 22

Thanks Di for continuing to host Share your world

Note: for my readers who do not celebrate Christmas, please consider family traditions for other occasions like birthdays (as my response is later) or festivals, celebrations or special occasions in your own country.


1.Do you have any family traditions?

We celebrate Eid twice during the Islamic year. On Eid-ul-Fitr, which is at the end of the month of Ramadan we have different traditions. We give each other gifts or gift money called Eidi. The children often get Eidi from their parents, grandparents, uncles, and aunts. It’s not uncommon for them to have accumulated quite a good amount of money on Eid-up-fitr. There is a tradition of inviting family over for a meal and often extended family is invited too.

2. With December on its way, have you ever been carol singing?

Nopes, never done that.

3. Do you decorate your home for the Christmas holidays?

On Eid, we clean our home and perhaps get a bouquet of flowers but no other decorations are done. However if it’s a child’s birthday, the parents usually make an effort to set a theme for the party and decorate accordingly.

My granddaughter’s 3rd birthday

4. Do you enjoy the Christmas rush for preparations and shopping?

As I mentioned earlier, Eid is after a month-long fasting of Ramadan. The most exciting thing about is that we can eat whenever we want. When I was younger I used to make a lot of effort for the Eid lunch. But now I’m more relaxed.


Our weather has finally turned a bit cooler. I enjoy snuggling into my blanket at night. There are flowers on my Clerodendrum vines

Birthday bouquet from my husband And daughter

Thanks Di for hosting SYW



Q&A over coffee from Rory

Assorted Questions Once a Week

You have a dinner party and may invite four guests from the following categories one fictional, one dead and one alive, and a naked chef [wearing an apron only but no clothes underneath – or if you wish for whatever reason your chef can be wearing underclothes – pants/top]. 

Who will you invite to eat, and who will you ask to cook for your dinner party?

Inspired by I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here!

First off, the chef needs to be wearing clothes!

Sherlock Holmes, Charles Dickens, and Tom Hanks. They can have a discussion about literature and crime. For dinner it will be steaks and fruit trifle for dessert. Don’t ask me why!

Have you ever slept on / in a hammock?

Nopes, though I’ve wanted to.

Do you find it easy to maintain friendship with other people?

If they are my type of people, very easy. But if they are negative, hypocritical or insincere people, I can’t call them friends.

Are you a person of ethics? If so, how does that impact your daily life?

I am proud to say that I am. It has always had positive impact on my life, daily and long term. Being ethical and honest is not a drawback, but an advantage even in today’s topsy turvy world.

Are you decisive or indecisive as a person?

Quite decisive! I make snap decisions and then don’t revisit my decisions.

Why do people hold double standards?Inspired by Kristian and That Really Burns my Biscuits #10

Some, but not all people have double standards. Saying things and expecting others to do everything right is easy. But when it comes to giving up something for the greater good of people, you’ll find them inventing excuses for themselves. These two-faced people invariably expose themselves.

What is your most unhealthiest but guiltiest pleasure and why?

Alas! I can’t have any unhealthy or guilty pleasures nowadays. I am allowed nothing sweet, no chocolates, no carbs. I can dream of eating dark chocolate but can’t do it in real life.

What is your process of writing a new post for your blog?

If I am writing for a prompt, I copy the prompt ( or questions as in this post) and start writing with the idea that comes in my head. I usually go with my first inclination. If nothing strikes my imagination, I’ll let the post stay in drafts till I’m ready to write for it.

If you were asked to create a Top Fifteen Book List holding books that you felt everyone should read at least once in their life and would never regret reading what titles would you include?

I am sorry that I’m unable to suggest books that everyone should read. We all are individuals with different tastes, different beliefs and different expectations from life. How can 15 books I suggest be the correct fit for everyone?

How important is it for you to know a person’s real name?
[Be this online, off line, social media or blogging]

I have a very bad memory, so even if I knew the name of a person at one time, I’m likely to have forgotten it when I meet them next time. Very often I have had conversations with people whose names have completely slipped my mind.

It took me more that 2 years to remember the name’s behind the blogging titles. Now I know the names of most of the people I interact with in my blogging community. It’s good to know the names, but not very important. What’s important is to know the person behind the blog.

When at school what were your top five subjects that you were passionate about?

Why was this – what did you love about them?

Are those five subjects still present in your life today in any form?

I loved Maths. It was my all time favorite. After that chemistry, physics, biology, and urdu.

I was very good in maths. Seldom got less than 100%. In physics and chemistry I was good too. Would grasp the concept quickly. Biology was okay and in urdu I was good at memorizing the poem, ghazals etc. but my urdu handwriting was dismal.

Still use maths, doing the household budget. I have not used chemistry or physics, in daily life only if I’m teaching my grandson. Urdu poetry is still my favorite and I frequently quote it.

Are you a photogenic person?

Are you eager to appear in family or friend snaps?

Are there many photographs of you from and over the various stages and ages of your life?

I’m not particularly photogenic. But despite that I want to be photographed with the family on every occasion. There and many many photos of us stored in albums, envelopes and on hard drives. One day…… I will sort them all into labeled albums.

With regard to the paranormal do you choose to not believe because there is nothing to believe or because you feel it is safer to not believe?

Are you a non-believer or a believer?

There are all types of paranormal phenomena! Some I can believe by stretching my imagination but others are really not my cup of tea. I believe in djinns but not in ghosts. No to zombies, werewolves, vampires etc.

How are you with meeting strangers/new people who might or could become new friends?

Is there a process you adopt to identify if they are the right fit for you?

I used to be quite shy. But gradually I’ve gained confidence to talk to new people. A few questions regarding their basic beliefs, their way of life, and how they deal with life’s challenges will tell me if they are my sort of people or not.

In response to Questions over coffee time hosted by Rory



Sharing my world- November 21, 2022

My thanks to Di for graciously hosting Share Your World

Here are the questions for this week:

1. As a child, did you prefer to watch TV, play games outside on a nice day, or read?

We were allowed to watch tv for an hour a day. The rest was up to us how we entertained ourselves. I played outside with my brothers, played with my dolls, and made clothes and jewelry for them too. I remember knitting a sweater, hat, and booties for my doll too. Reading was very much a part of my day. This all happened after we had done schoolwork. Surprisingly, we managed to fit a lot into our day.

2. What would you rather do now, read a book, watch a movie at home, dine out with friends, or go down the pub?

In the evening, I usually blog when at home. In the morning I sometimes meet friends for a chat or a meal, go shopping for groceries, or just laze around at home. My younger daughter often comes after picking up her daughter from school and we chat and spend time together.

3. Are you fashion conscious?

In my younger days, I was moderately fashion-conscious. I would follow trends within limits. Being somewhat of a tomboy, I was always clumsy so it mostly didn’t produce the results I wanted. As I grew older I have learned to dress smart, not fashionably. It works better.

4. Do you wear slippers, clogs or go barefoot indoors?

Slippers, always. Specially since my foot surgery.


Today I met the doctor for 2-week post-surgery follow-up. He was satisfied with my progress and has finally allowed me to have thick soups and puréed food like porridge. It’s such a heavenly feeling to have solid food inside of me.

Thank you Di for carrying on Share Your world.



All about life- Q&A from Rory

Question Time Over Coffee

Assorted Questions Once a Week

Have you ever been on an extended vacation/holiday road trip? If so, when and where and for how long?

I would call my trips to Seattle to visit my daughter and grandson as extended vacations. I’d normally go there for 3-4 months. But in 2020, I stayed there for 6 months ( minus 1 week) and my visa for that stay was about to expire when I got a flight out of Los Angeles, not Seattle to come back home. My daughter always made my visits special. She planned trips and got me presents too. 💖

When was the last time you visited an actual bookshop, and what, if any, new/old/secondhand titles did you buy?

I go to bookshops often. My mission is to buy books for my grandchildren. Small story books with lots of pictures. My elder grandson is now hooked on kindle and doesn’t want actual books.

How do you feel about the new WP Dashboard 7-day highlights Statistics?

I haven’t noticed it. Maybe it’s on the computer/ laptop version and not on the mobile version?

How do you feel about all the Russian nuclear sabre rattling?

I didn’t know what this was so checked it out just now. I don’t think that it will have any real impact as it is mostly fear-mongering.

If you could go back or travel to an age of your choice and live or relive a previous era for a day, what age would you pick and why?

I really don’t want to get back, just move forward!

Do you have a favourite coat? [Outdoor/Indoor/Business/Social] What makes it unique to you, OR is a coat just a coat?

I used to have a very nice Michael Kors black jacket/ coat when I was in Seattle. Over here we don’t need coats. And with our dress, a Shalwar kameez, a shawl, or a sweater looks better.

Do you enjoy learning something new every day or week?

Yes, I do. And blogging is the best way to learn new things every day.

Are you more comfortable in your skin today than you were in the youth of your yesterdays? Why and how so?

Oh yes definitely. I was given very good advice on my 40th birthday; “Don’t bother about people and what they think of you. Just do what you think is right”. Gradually I’ve adapted my thinking to this and now I’m not that person who was super-sensitive, nervous, and always worried about what others think about her and her actions anymore.

Have you ever kept a hardback diary or a journal as opposed to an online digital one? When did you first start to journal your life?

Perhaps when I was a teenager. Not a journal persé but a diary to jot down poems and sketch in. Never recorded my life events in it.

How do you feel about Eggplant/Aubergine/Guinea Squash as a vegetable? Is it something you enjoy having in your meals?

I love it. In all its forms. It’s a great vegetable, low carb, full of iron and fiber. There’s a restaurant here that makes a fantastic aubergine salad. I love going there.

What film could you watch over and over again and why?

Not constantly. But I’ve watched the lord of the rings trilogy many times. It’s just so good. But there’s a gap of many months or a couple of years between the re-watching.

What concert, show, or event would you love tickets for if you could get them?

Concerts are not my thing. Can’t be bothered to be squished between a lot of people and loud music. I’d rather enjoy the music at home.

Would your teenage self be impressed with who you are today and what you have achieved so far in your/their life?

I think so. She would be impressed by my blog for sure. I am, even now!

Which online behaviours do you find the most annoying in blogging?

Asking me to follow them!


In response to Question Time Over Coffee, hosted by Rory



All about my surgery

On Monday, I had sleeve gastronomy done.

I mistakenly thought that like my laparoscopic gallbladder surgery, this will be short and painless procedure. It wasn’t. Last two days I’ve been heavily sedated with pain meds and was not able to respond to your comments on my posts.

I did decide to get this procedure done because my weight is causing most of my problems. I am hoping to lose the excess weight and be in better health. But the path leads through this surgery.

I’m trying to catch up with your posts but it may take me a few more days. So bear with me.

Thanks for all the kind wishes my dear friends.

See you on the other side, hopefully soon.



Some odd habits!

Not very odd, just a bit! 😂

Jim has asked us to talk about someone with odd habits. Who could I talk about but myself who has many odd habits.

I do talk to myself, sometimes aloud and sometimes in my mind

I like planning way in advance, at time irritating others with this quirk

Nothing I’ve said has ever come true instantly but if it eventually does

I will be the first one to say ‘ I told you so’ to my family and friends

For food, I eat everything, in no specific order as long as there is no red meat involved

My love for carbs can be definitively described as odd

But my devotion to veggies is one healthy habit I lay claim to

We all created unique and with our own strange habits

Let’s celebrate this diversity with sharing our strangeness with each other!


Written in response to MLMM- Friday Faithfuls, hosted by Jim

This week on Friday Faithfuls, I would like you to share stories about a person that you know who has some odd quirks, or strange habits. Do you know someone who is always talking to them self? This could be about a person eating all of one type of food before moving on to taste the next item on their plate.



55 years without you


It’s been 55 years

55 years since you left us

No goodbyes no last hugs

You died without us being aware of the tragedy happening

We were too young to understand or grieve for your loss

Took me many many years to accept what fate had dealt us

No one talked about you when we were young

Perhaps they thought it would be too painful for us

I grew up without knowing the mother who birthed me

Forever imagining what sort of person you were

Life goes on, and people learn to live with loss

We did too but there is a big hole in the place

Where your love and memories should have resided

But I can say despite all that emptiness

I love you mother

Though it’s been 55 years

Since I saw you last


This week I chose this image for a reason. Today it’s been 55 years since my mom passed away. This poem is to express my feelings about her passing which have always been buried deep in my heart for there was never a time I openly grieved for her. It was always too late.

My mom at the age of 19




In my free time- Saturday Symphony- August Edition


This month, share a little of the things you do in your free time; or that time you force to be free.


We race against the clock everyday to finish today, before tomorrow becomes another today.

I live a life free from responsibilities. Only the ones I volunteer for are entrusted to me. The rest of time is mine to spend or waste as I like, ‘cos I’ve earned this right reaching the age of sixty.

Cooking is not my passion

Nor is gardening or housework

I delight in doing laundry because it’s the easiest of the chores

Reading books I love is what I’d like to do all day

Or perhaps write for my blog and my blogging family

Listening to music as I read or write

Finding new songs to hum along

Watching television is a strict no-no

But perhaps a movie recommended by friends or family

Going to theater was something I loved to do

Enjoying the immersive experience with popcorn to go

But alas that activity is on hold for the moment

Waiting for things to improve health-wise

Playing with my grandkids is a blast

Provided it’s not too taxing for my injured foot

These are some of the ways I like to spend my time

What about you?


In response to Saturday Symphony- In my free time, hosted by Jude


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