Tale Weaver – Soulmates

Stephanie Colpron is the host of Tale Weaver

So for today’s tale I’d like you to consider the concept of “soul mate” – it could be yours or your character’s if you decide to write a fiction: it might be a partner, spouse or a friend.

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What is a soulmate?

A soulmate can be a romantic partner or a friend or a sibling even. The connection is intangible but it’s very much there.

Someone who understands you without you telling them. Someone who will answer the question before you have asked it. Someone who will say what you were going to say at that exact moment.

I don’t think romance has much to do with this connection. We gravitate instinctively towards people with whom we feel this connection. People who share similar values and views. They become our best friends whatever relationship we have with them.

I say similar, not exactly the same. Luckily, I’ve had many such connections. My younger brother was one! I say was as he had lived in America for last 33-34 years and we’ve grown apart. But when we were growing up, we were so much in sync that it was amazing.

I’ve had a few childhood friends who are also on the same wavelength as me. That’s why that we have been friends since our school days. Almost 50 years.

With my husband, I have a yin-yang relationship. We compliment each other. On the important issues of life, we think similarly but on other things, we are wildly different. But we work together as a team.

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Sunday Poser # 45

Welcome to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is very basic;

Why do you blog?

We all have started our blogs for different reasons. Some have done to further develop their talents as writers or poets. While others have done so just to express their views and thoughts.

I started my blog exactly three years ago. It was an impulsive decision but gradually it grew into a way to express me.

I find that writing/ blogging is a way to keep my mind sharp. I need to find words to express my thoughts. I check on spellings and the proper grammatical usage of the words I am writing.

It also is a way where I say what I want to say. In a world where most people are too busy to give time to each other, this blogging community is generous and kind. They read each other’s thoughts and stories and respond with their own.

It is also my therapy. I share my thoughts and worries here and find that others have similar concerns. By spending $100 a year, I get very good supportive therapy.

Blogging also gives me a direction in life. I now have a constructive purpose for all the empty hours I had at my disposal. If any one of my posts can cheer even one of my readers, my purpose is realized.

And lastly, but certainly not the least is the encouragement and appreciation that I receive here. It makes me so happy to read the positive feedback left in comments on my posts.

These are the reasons why in blog!

What are yours?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find you.

Thanks

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Throwback Thursday- Games

Maggie is co-hosting this challenge with Lauren

Welcome back to Throwback Thursday Memory BlogHop where we take on a nostalgic object, event, or memory and blog about it. Lauren was steering the ship last week and I get to take a shot at the helm again today. This week I chose The Games People Play

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When I was a child, we preferred to play outside. Sun or rain, hot or cold, we would be outside, playing hockey, cricket, football ( European variety) or cycling. In those days people didn’t need to worry about kids playing outside because there weren’t any threats to our safety. Besides we were three siblings so there was safety in numbers.

When my grandparents used to visit us we would flock around my grandfather who loved to interact with us. He taught us to play card games like dummy, bridge, and patience. He also taught us to play chess and was willing to play with us though we were so inexpert at it. Only my younger brother would give him a reasonable game.

After marriage, I discovered that I loved playing scrabble with my husband. The one who won the game would treat the other to a meal. When we had kids and they grew up to be able to participate in the game, they would team up with either parent and help them. It was so much fun.

And then kids discovered video games and computer games and they also grew up. I used to play card games on my Pc when I got a chance but I found that I have a tendency to get addicted to games so I gradually weaned myself off them.

When I got my first smartphone, I started playing different games on it. I still play card games and sudoku on my phone but for a limited time.

My new addiction is blogging.

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Share Your World – September 6, 2021

Melanie is the host of SYW

QUESTIONS;

Do you believe in soul-mates? (my definition of ‘soul mate’ is the IDEAL partner romantically).

Frankly, no! I believe there is more than one person that is suited for each of us. We make adjustments and compromises to be with whoever we choose to live with. In my view, there is very very seldom a perfect match. And even if there is, it may not last long as humans keep on changing with each passing year.

What are three scents you like?

Jasmine, rose and citrus.

What are some things that you might be considered too old to do, but that you enjoy?

Watching animated movies, old Disney cartoons, and reading Harry Potter books. But I don’t care what others think. I do it regardless!

What is one food you absolutely refuse to share?

Ideally, my secret stash of dark chocolate. But others are too sneaky and they devour it without my knowledge. Especially my husband and my grandson!

GRATITUDE SECTION (as always, optional)

Please feel free to share something positive!

The very long summer is finally coming to an end and there are signs of autumn/fall around us. It’s a relief when the heat gives way to pleasant weather. Besides I love when the seasons change.

Sun setting behind Faysal Mosque in Islamabad

A photo from our recent trip to the capital city of Islamabad

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Blogging Insights – New format.

Tanya is our host for Blogging Insights

This week , I am breaking the mould completely and not posting something about blogging or writing. 

” Did you know that 1980 and 2021 are as far apart as 1980 and 1939 ? “

I found the above quote on WhatsApp and don’t know what source to credit.

Anyone with slightly greater mental math skills than mine would know this already. 

Those of us who were at school in 1980 used to feel that 1939 and World War II were almost prehistoric. Today I feel that my school days were prehistoric.

How about you? What do you think?

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My first reaction was of disbelief! How can that be the truth? But it is as you said, simple mathematics!

In 1981, I entered my first year of medical college. I got married in 1985, at the age of 23, with still a year to go of my 5 years medical degree. My first child was born in 1986, the second in 1987 and the youngest in 1991.

The time after this passed on like a speed train. They, the kids were in school, then universities got married and now have kids of their own. They have become parents, and life has come a full circle.

As for me in the last 40 years, I’ve matured from a girl into a woman on the threshold of old age. But that’s not how I feel or envision myself.

I still feel or imagine myself as that young adult who enrolled in the medical college, packed her bags, and came to another city to study medicine. I still think of myself as that person, young and silly at heart.

And that I think is the matter in a nutshell. The time that passed before we were born is ancient history because we weren’t there to witness it. And the time after we reach the age of understanding, that is just like yesterday! It is our own history and hence it is so recent!

I hope I made some sense.

Thanks Tanya for this interesting prompt

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Share Your World – August 23,2021

Melanie is the host of SYW

QUESTIONS

Can you parallel park (if you drive)? If you don’t drive, can you still skip?

I can park, provided that there is ample space on both sides. Since I drive very infrequently and the traffic here is chaotic anyway, it really doesn’t matter much how we park. As for skipping, I’m advised not to do so with my artificial joints and my weight. 😛

Do you prefer early morning or late evening? Or something in between?

I love to get up early in the morning, when everyone else is asleep. But my health app doesn’t like it if I have less than 7 hours of sleep. So after my morning prayers, I go back to sleep for a couple of hours. Late night doesn’t work for me at all because if I’m awake till midnight, the chances of me going to sleep naturally are very slim. I need to take a sleep aid if I’m up late.

Do you like avocados?

Love them. Specially with feta, and salsa on top of a toasted English muffin. I love it in salads too. Unfortunately, over here it’s way too expensive and not that good quality. 😔

Is mind or matter more real?

Mind is as real as any other part of the body. It is with our mind that we perceive the world around us and experience it’s different nuances. As for the matter, everything things is made up of matter. So both are real, to my way of thinking.

Are people in this current generation less or more sensitive than people from past generations?

People of the current generation are less sensitive to how others feel. They are more sensitive to how they feel. If anything irritates them, they will raise a storm but if their actions irritate others, they would hardly notice.

GRATITUDE SECTION (as always optional)Please feel free to share something inspiring that’s happened to you recently!

Schools have reopened. It’s only 2 days a week in person, but that is better than no school. Now my grandson has something else to do besides playing games or watching YouTube. And on those two days I can make plans to attend to my chores and shopping.

Thank you Melanie for always giving us interesting questions for Share Your World.

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Share With Us # 2

Nova is asking some more questions this week;

1. Have you ever jumped in rain puddles?

I’m sure as a kid I have. But I don’t have a vivid memory of it.

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2. Do you or do you not use a fork to twist your spaghetti on a spoon before putting it in your mouth?

Mostly I try! But I eat the spaghetti in any way I can. Fork, spoon or hands.

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3. If you saw a reflection of your younger self in a mirror, what would you tell him/her?

I would tell her that she is beautiful. No need to compare with others and feel lesser than them.

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4. How would you describe the sky without using weather related words?

A canopy composed of gases in different composition, taking on the hue of the blue light of the light spectrum, filtering through it.

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5. Are you an organ donor? Have you ever received an organ transplant?

No I am not! I often think about it but sadly this is not very common in my country. We neither have organ banks everywhere or the facility to harvest organs.

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6. Have you ever taken the punishment for someone? What happened and what was the punishment?

I don’t remember being that brave. But I always took my share of the blame. It was not okay to let anyone else take the brunt of my doings.

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7. Tell us something you’ve learned about a culture different from your own.

We in Pakistan have been exposed to American culture through tv shows and movies. So it wasn’t something new to me when I came to live here. But one thing that I hadn’t seen before was how even the pedestrian would follow the traffic rules and would walk on one side of the footpath while going and on the other side while coming.

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8. Would you please tell me 5 sounds that you hear right now?

The fan is whirling, rain drops are falling outside, the Kitty is meowing ( maybe wants more food) my husband is listening to something on his phone and the coffee cup clinks on the saucer as I drink my coffee.

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Thanks Nova for these lovely questions.

If you want to answer her questions, click on her link at the top in the post.

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Share Your World – August 16, 2021

Melanie is the host of SYW

QUESTIONS

7-15-2021 When you just need to forget the world for a few hours, what helps you get away from it all? (Fuzzywig the Stoner Raccoon)

I find escape in blogging and reading. Listening to music while walking helps too. Contemplating my situation in solitude and thinking out a solution is perhaps the best one as it can offer a permanent solution to whatever is bothering me.


7-22-2021 If you woke up tomorrow with a unicorn horn extending from the top of your head, what would be the biggest advantage and disadvantage of your new appendage? (Mitzi the FRIENDLY Unicorn)

The only advantage I can think of is that it’ll add many inches to my height and consequently, my BMI will become lower. Who knows I may be out of the obesity range altogether. As for disadvantages, there would be many, the most annoying one would be that I’ll be bumping my horn against everything!


7-29-2021 What is the creepiest thing you’ve ever seen someone do, that you’d be willing to talk about, of course? (Snuggle The Friendly Bear)

Once I was walking in the neighborhood, (I was in Seattle at the time and it was early March 2020), I saw a woman throwing stones at the front door of the apartment of a student ( it was university housing for families). She was also shouting abuse. The occupant of the apartment came out and they exchanged hot words. Later the occupant called the campus police to help her get rid of that woman. It was a weird experience seeing all that so early in the morning.

8-5-2021 What’s the silliest or pettiest thing that tends to really upset you? (Rainy, The Wickedly Obsessive Rain Loving Skunk)

When due to some unexpected occurrence, I cannot follow my usual routine, I get quite upset. Though I don’t show my irritation to anyone, internally I feel unsettled and try to get back to My schedule. I know it’s petty and silly but we oldies are set in our ways!

GRATITUDE SECTION (Always Optional)

How comfortable are you with meeting others who are very different from yourself? (no judgment implied.  Different in any way you’d like to think about – different cultures, different races, different mind set (opinions)? 

I like meeting people which are from different countries and cultures. But I’d like to be able to converse with them so it’s always helpful if I speak their language or they speak mine. Or we can use a language we both know, like English. Meeting people from across the globe is such a wonderful, mind-broadening experience.

I really enjoyed these questions Melanie. Thanks to you and evil squirrel.

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Nova wants to know!

Nova of My Namesté has posted these questions for anyone to answer

Here’s a few questions to consider. Feel free to answer any that you’d like 🌺

1. Growing up, what did you want to do professionally when you got older?

I wanted to become a doctor when I was growing up. I was in med school when I got married and then I abandoned my studies and opted for a BSc degree instead.

2. Do you live in the city or state of which you were born?

Surprisingly, I am. The surprising part is that I’ve lived in many cities throughout my life, first as a child with my family when we lived wherever my father was posted. After getting married my husband was also in government service and we lived in many small and bigger cities of our country. Finally, we have settled in Lahore, the place I was born.

3. What’s an item that you had as a girl, but isn’t being sold anymore?

I can’t think of anything that I had that isn’t sold anymore.

4. Do your prefer pudding, yogurt, custard, or ice cream?

Caramel custard!

5. What’s one topic of interest you’d like to learn more about?

I like to read up on information regarding medical advancement in fields related to the illnesses I’m suffering from. Diabetes, autoimmune diseases and joint diseases.

6. What is a favorite/unique family tradition in your house?

Eid is celebrated in our culture/ country/ religion. It’s much like Christmas but with a difference, that it’s more of a religious festival than a cultural one.

7. If you had one topic to teach to the entire world, what would it be and why?

I would like to teach people to respect humanity. Every human being is equally important. The race, ethnicity and religion notwithstanding.

8. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

I am a stickler for routine and follow my routine even on holidays.

9. What’s one of your life saving cleaning hacks?

Do it now rather than later.

10. What’s one thing you wish you knew before having kids, but didn’t?

That being a mom is the toughest job on the planet.

11. What is one lesson life has taught you recently?

That we can do with less, way less than we think.

12. If you could retire and live anywhere in the world, where would that be?

At home. It’s where my family is. But if we all moved than anywhere we are together.

Share Your World- August 9, 3021

Melanie is the host of SYW

Welcome to Share Your World! 

QUESTIONS

Restrictions are being lifted all over the world. Do you feel it’s safe to go out and mingle in crowds in light of the Pandemic?

In our part of the world, we still have a smart lockdown in place. We cannot go to stores, mall etc without masks, social distancing, and no indoor dining. Everything except essentials like drug stores and food places will be closed on the weekends. So we aren’t over the restrictions of the covid pandemic yet!

But even if these restrictions are lifted, we will be taking precautions because even the vaccinated people are getting sick with the delta variant these days.

What are some things that are okay to do occasionally, but definitely not okay to do every day?

My list;

  • Sleeping in late
  • Having a gourmet meal
  • Dark chocolate
  • Not taking the daily walk
  • Having ice cream sundaes

Would you relocate for love (romantic or otherwise)?

I have done it before and will do it again!

I’ve moved several times with my family and once with my daughter and grandson to the USA. When my loved ones need me, I’m willing to pack my bags and move. And it is an adventure to see new places and live in different cities and countries.

Do you believe in any conspiracy theories (no judgment)?

Nopes! I’m not one of them!

GRATITUDE PORTION (Optional to participate, as always)

Please share something sweet (take that as you want)

This meme says it the best for most of us!

I really am grateful that foot is 100% better.

Thank you Melanie for these wonderful questions.

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