A look at life, achieving good physical and mental health and happiness
I am writing to express my opinion, share my experiences and to maybe provide some insight. My blog is addressing women at 50 ( but men are welcome to read my posts) ,their issues and the questions that come up at this stage in life. I don’t aim to teach, but to learn together.
Anyone who starts a blog, naturally wants it to be a success. Well, some would deny this, but most of us want what we write to be read, liked, and commented upon by others. Preferably, many many others.
So what is the secret?
I have been blogging for a little more than three years. And I will share with you what I think is the secret. Some may not agree with me but in my opinion, they are;
Write original content;
Don’t emulate others. Create your own style and content. Don’t think that it has to be a certain way to appeal to others. Like-minded people will find your blog and appreciate the originality.
Write in plain, simple to understand language;
I wrote about this previously as well. I think writing that is easily understood is always a winner. Prose or poetry, write everything clearly and plainly. It’s more effective than flowery language which is hard to understand on the first reading.
Create a feeling of camaraderie;
Create camaraderie among the blogosphere by visiting those blogs that you follow and leaving thoughtful comments on their posts. This I think is the most important step in making your blog popular and successful. Responding to comments left on your site is equally important. If you don’t build up the relationship between yourself and other bloggers, you cannot make a success of your blog.
Get to know your fellow bloggers;
It is important to get to know other bloggers. You can do this by reading their posts carefully and noting the information they share about themself. When you do this you’ll get a better understanding of the other bloggers as a person and it becomes easy to relate to the person behind the blog if you know more about them.
Check spam messages regularly;
Check the spam regularly so that no valid comment ends up in spam. People aren’t happy when we don’t reply to their comments. And one reason for that could be that their comments are ending in spam.
These are a few secrets of creating a successful and rewarding blog. You’ll be happy writing content that gives you satisfaction and sharing it with other like-minded people. And at the same time, you’ll create a community of bloggers who are like friends to you!
I recently made a self-discovery that made many things clear to me.
Why do we tell things, our personal experiences to others?
And sometimes we tell them to some people and not others?
I suddenly had an epiphany that what we are usually looking for are sympathy and understanding. When we tell a friend or family member about our troubles or aches and pains we want some sympathy from our confidant. Our aim in sharing is not that we expect the other person to lessen our troubles but that they will understand and will show us some sympathy.
But not everyone is going to be sympathetic, so learning from our previous experiences, we tell our troubles only to those who we feel will show us sympathy. It’s not that others aren’t interested in us, the most common issue is that people have enough troubles of their own and due to this they have less time and sympathy to spare.
So when you have the urge to un-burden yourself, choose someone who is;
Has no immediate problems of their own
Loves you and can give good advice
Please remember that if that person qualifies for the last two points but isn’t free, DON’T go to them for sympathy.
A prompt by Sue W and GC; Weekly prompts Weekend Challenge – Discovery
“Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.” ~ Erol Ozan
Melanieasks 4-5 questions every week. This week it’s Halloween special!
Name something you wouldn’t want to run into in a dark forest or in an abandoned building (yeah it’s a retread. But there are new participants to SYW too who probably never answered it)
I wouldn’t want to run into that friend whom I just unfriended on face book. Why? You may wonder; it’s because she talks too much and most of it, or maybe all of it, is about her!
Do you believe in multiple dimensions or worlds?
What do we really know? Maybe there are multiple dimensions or worlds. I know that this idea makes stories and movies much more interesting. Also it gives the writers and directors of the said movies to bring people back from the dead!
Would you ever go to a graveyard at night?
Not if I can help it. There is lot of superstition attached to going to a graveyard after dark in our culture as well. My reason for going in broad daylight is that I’m less likely to trip and fall if I can see where I am going!
What is the most frightening book you’ve ever read?
I don’t read frightening books anymore. I think any book which has the main protagonists in danger or in cliffhanger suspense is not a comfortable read.
BONUS QUESTION (just for silliness’ sake!)
If you could have a spooky Halloween pet (black cat, owl, bat, rat, wolf), which would you pick out of the five choices?
I’d love a jet black cat with bright green eyes. They are so cute. In fact there is a stray tiny kitten like that where we are living right now. It’s very shy of humans.
GRATITUDE SECTION (As always, optional) What are you grateful for?
I am glad the the weather cooled down considerably after the rain on the weekend. It means that Dengue mosquito will die because the temperature has dipped below 28*C, which is the optimal temperature for these mosquitoes to survive and multiply. We are having a resurgence of Dengue fever since the Covid cases are going down.
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