
Today, let’s write a haibun that references pressure, in whatever way you experience or conceive of it. For those new to haibun, the form consists of one to a few paragraphs of prose—usually written in the present tense—that evoke an experience and are often non-fictional/autobiographical. They may be preceded or followed by one or more haiku—nature-based, using a seasonal image—that complement without directly repeating what the prose stated.
➰➰➰
I often push myself to be the perfect mom/ grandmother/ wife! That means to be there for everyone. To be that shoulder that everyone could lean on or cry if they need to.
Is that stressful, yeah very much so especially if I, myself am not feeling so strong. But it’s an inherent trait and I have to live with it. And on top of it I don’t like to make anyone unhappy so you can imagine that the pressure builds up insidiously, and unknowingly I put myself in a situation where at times I can just feel like collapsing.
If I could cut it
I’d divide my heart among
My loved ones, fairly
~*~
Something to console
When they’re distressed, upset
When I’m not there
➰➰➰
Written for dVerse- Haibun Monday, hosted by Frank
#Keepitalive
#dVerse
I’ve realized that the more I push myself towards the perfection, the world asks more from me.
So, it is better to be what I’m 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Absolutely right. You should try to meet only your own expectations, not those of everyone else.
LikeLiked by 1 person
You make this look so easy. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s only easy if we make it so.
LikeLike
If I could cut it
I’d divide my heart among
My loved ones, fairly
Wow… Just wow❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks a lot Komaljeet. Sometimes I feel like this.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I too felt that!!🙏
LikeLiked by 2 people
👍🏼
LikeLike
very nice.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Vijay 🙏🏼
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are welcome.
LikeLiked by 1 person
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
LikeLike
It is a tremendous pressure to feel a need to be all things to all people. Somewhere your own sense of self can get lost…
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh yes, it’s very true. And you still feel that you’ve let people down as you can’t be there for EVERYONE! Thanks
LikeLiked by 1 person
{{{{HUGS}}}}
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks 🙏🏼
LikeLiked by 1 person
A very apt haibun, Sadje and I agree with you totally the pressure that comes on us is at times too much but it looks like it is our inborn nature to take care of our family first.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thanks Kamal. Yes we can’t help it.
LikeLike
Welcome always Sadje and yes we cannot help it at all.
LikeLiked by 1 person
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
LikeLike
xxxxx
LikeLiked by 1 person
If I could cut it
I’d divide my heart among
My loved ones, fairly
A soft heart delights in the pleasure of others, even at the expense of itself.
so beautifully expressed, Sadje G🙏
LikeLiked by 3 people
Many thanks my dear friend
LikeLiked by 1 person
You welcome
LikeLiked by 1 person
😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
You have such a big heart, Sadje. Your words tell that story beautifully. Blessings!
LikeLiked by 2 people
You’re so very kind my friend
LikeLiked by 1 person
Bouquets!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
🎊🎊🎊
LikeLiked by 1 person
This was vulnerable and raw. Beautiful.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks a lot Nichole 🙏🏼
LikeLike
people pleasing is exhausting and nobody is perfect, accepting our own humanity will ease the pressure and having your own outlets to refresh is essential 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’re so right my friend 👍🏼
LikeLiked by 1 person
A perfect haibun!
Pressure may make us better, sometimes😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
Vidah , thank you so much. I’m just learning here and haven’t written special poetic forms before
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hi Sadje,
The last time I felt pressure was when our semester exams were going on. They’ve been postponed upto 5th April.
Now I’m completely “pressure free”, which’s not good, I think.
I’ve decided to write detailed notes, and revise them before any specific paper.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, you should keep up with your studies that will make the exams relatively pressure free.
LikeLike
a very thoughtful haibun on the reality of being a mother, a wife, and yes in your case grandma.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so much Mich.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Your family is blessed to have you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks a lot Patricia
LikeLike
Awsh Sadje. Male sure to talk to someone too. Strong people tend to just keep things themselves. You’re such a treasure 💙🌷
LikeLike
Thanks a lot Maria. I’ve learned to deal with this feeling my friend
LikeLike
Such a lovely halibun lucky family
LikeLiked by 1 person
Many thanks dear friend
LikeLike
Lovely and relatable words, Sadje.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks a lot Lauren 🙏🏼😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’re welcome! 🥰
LikeLiked by 1 person
🌹🌹🌹
LikeLiked by 1 person
And I know you are the best at everything you do.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I try, but surely I’m not the best. 😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’m sure you are!!! 😍💖
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks 🙏🏼
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’re welcome!
LikeLiked by 1 person
😍😍😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
Beautiful Sadje. I hope someone is there to support you too.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Brenda! My husband is always here. 😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good. Especially where we are always there for others, someone needs to help us too
LikeLiked by 1 person
Indeed that’s very true.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sharing equally, giving truly; the best of, even though!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Indeed, that’s the way.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Beautifully done, Sadje! I hope your family realizes the treasure they have in you 💞💞💞
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Dawn. Yes they do my friend
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wow. Lovely haibun. Splendidly done.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Selma. 😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
Beautifully written Sadje!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Many thanks my friend
LikeLiked by 1 person
My pleasure.
LikeLiked by 1 person
❤️❤️❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are gifted with words.
Nice work.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks a lot
LikeLiked by 1 person