Sunday Poser # 122

Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;

When you decide to do something , do you defend your decisions to those around you?

I can’t say about you, but when I make a radical decision, I’m put in a position where I have to justify my decision.

When I decided to go for stomach sleeve surgery, I had to make everyone in my family and my close circle of friends understands why I made this decision. Only my doctor friends understood perfectly why I was getting it done.

Then there are smaller decisions that I take and I include my family in the discussion. Perhaps my family thinks that I need their protection from my impulsive actions. So while I am grateful to my family for their concern, I feel I’m old enough to know what is good for me!

How are the family dynamics in your circle of friends and family? Do you have to explain to them why you are taking the decisions you are?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find it.

As usual, thanks of visiting and reading.



66 thoughts on “Sunday Poser # 122

  1. Sometimes I feel like, I’m going with the flow. It’s hard to say no or interpret the issue in my own way.
    Usually I judge myself often while taking a decision.

    Then it’s true that I have made several mistakes.

    It’s important to trust myself in the critical circumstances when I know I’m not wrong.
    So I need to be flexible in that way.

    Advice is free and everyone loves to do.
    It’s a challenge to choose and act further.

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  2. Great post Sadje! Well generally whenever I take my decisions I keep in mind the needs and interest of the others.. Even if it is not necessary at the point of time a thought strikes my mind whether the decision I am making is gud or not, whether it will affect the loved ones in a nice way or not..Although most of the times I know that I need to take care of my own interests in some situations. However i am unable to help myself with it actually.. And i think this habit of mine is both good and bad in today’s world..

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    1. I think that it’s good of you to keep everyone’s interest in mind when taking a decision. But ultimately, we have to safeguard our interests first. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  3. I think “defend” is the wrong word to use, but when you decide to do something, there hasd to be a reason why you jump one way and not anotrher. So I think there has to be a justification in there somewhere. Even if the decision subsequently turns out to be wrong. “Well the reason I put my thick coat on is because the forecast said it was going to snow, even though I feel a bit of a chump now that the sun came out” etc.

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  4. I find that my response to this question varies depending on the situation. In some cases, I feel the need to defend my decisions to those around me, especially if they directly affect others or if I feel strongly about them. For example, if I decide to pursue a certain career path or take on a new project, I may feel the need to explain my reasoning and reassure others of my capabilities and commitment.

    On the other hand, there are times when I choose not to defend my decisions, especially if they are more personal or if I feel that others may not understand or support them. In these cases, I may choose to keep my plans to myself or only share them with a select few individuals who I trust and who I know will be supportive.

    In general, I believe that it is important to be confident in one’s decisions and to stand by them, but at the same time, it is also important to be open to feedback and to consider the perspectives of others. There is a fine balance between defending one’s decisions and being open to constructive criticism, and I believe that finding that balance is key to making the best possible choices.

    Ultimately, I think that the most important thing is to trust one’s own judgment and to be true to oneself. If I am confident in my decisions and feel that they align with my values and goals, then I am less likely to feel the need to defend them to others. At the end of the day, it is my life and my choices, and I am responsible for the outcomes that result from them.

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    1. Oh you’ve said it so well my friend. We do need to trust ourselves to make the right choice for ourself. After all the onus rests on our shoulders, fairly and squarely. Thanks for sharing your detailed thoughts


  5. Good one Sadje,. Point to ponder.. It depends on the deed,. If I’m doing something for myself, I don’t,. If I’m doing something for others, I ask for their permission always, so that I don’t have to go for defending myself later.. 🤔🤔

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  6. I limit my words if it is clear they are falling on unhearing ears. I like for my decisions to be assessed on their outcome. When people see the result of my decisions, I hope they will see I made a wise decision.

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