Sunday Poser # 118

Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;

Do you think how we turn out is in our control?

This question has always intrigued me. Some say we become like our parents who raised us ( nurture) and some believe that it’s what we have inherited ( nature). My personal opinion is that it is perhaps both and yet had a third element added to it; Our effort!

We may have inherited traits from our biological parents, and picked up habits from those who were around us more when we were growing up, but it also matters what we want to become.

And to my way of thinking, this is the most deliberate and important part of who and what we become. Some people don’t try to achieve this independence while others strive hard for it. And this I think is the ultimate criterion of what we become in life.

What are your views on this topic? Are we what we are made to be or are we what we make of ourselves?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find it.

As usual, thanks of visiting and reading.



75 thoughts on “Sunday Poser # 118

  1. This is simply my view: I think we have a lot less control than we like to believe. Our genetics plus environment create our instincts plus behavior and it’s very difficult to overcome that. I’m not sure anyone really does have “free will.” It’s nice to think we do though…

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  2. I think both nature and nurture come into play. But individual motivation can’t be discounted. There are those who overcome great obstacles because of their drive. There are those who lack the desire to make much of what nature and nurture have offered them. It’s a fascinating question, for sure!

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  3. I think you’ve hit on the perfect trifecta, Sadje. We are each wired a certain way, true. Nurture plays its part, as well as the things we are exposed to during our lives. Effort is the biggest part…we can modify the path we started out on, if our will and effort is focused on doing so. Thanks for the thoughts this fine morning! 💞💞💞

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  4. This is an interesting question. It touches on free will vs. predestination, both of which, as a Christian, I believe in. I mean, ultimately, no, we aren’t in control of how we turn out, but that doesn’t mean that we cannot choose our daily actions to influence our outcome. Your question also touches on external vs. internal locus of control. It is said that those with a strong internal locus of control are usually mentally healthier, because they feel they have the capacity to take charge of their life. I am not one of those, but maybe that’s something I can work on.

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    1. Thanks Astrid for sharing your thoughts. I too believe in destiny but I also believe that we are in charge of how we think and react. So I guess it’s a combination of all factors.

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  5. This question is interesting. I believe it is a combination of our genes and our own thinking. While we are young we are shaped by our environment. As adults we have the chance and free will to strive for more. It’s all up to us and our way of thinking which drives our actions. Will we always succeed? No. But we can always try 😊

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  6. A combination of both and our experiences and the people we meet. Some people will have a little affect on our life and others will have a big impact. Everything combined makes us who we are.

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  7. There are many factors that shape our lives. Some parents one has to learn in spite of. While love maybe there – they are sometimes too young to realize that they are making some grave mistakes when they raise their own children (mainly because they are still children themselves). Genetics are – to me only a small factor. Other important influences are our teachers, friends, and even our location.

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