
I wish I had a grandma who would tell me stories, spoil me
But both of my grandmothers were disciplinarians in their own way
No loving smiles passed my way, no spontaneous hugs given
Always righting my wrongs, full of advice on behavior, deportment
Perhaps they both loved me and thought they might spoil me
If they showed their love too openly it might just go to my head
I have retaliated in the only way I know how
By being the exact opposite of them when it comes to being the grandmother
To my grandkids, I’m the one spoiling them, doting on them, and loving them
After all, a family is blessed with grandparents for this purpose only!
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Written for JusJoJan- Family, Prompted by Jill, hosted by Linda
Also included dVerse prompt- Grandmothers, hosted by Sarah
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agree!
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Thanks Beth.
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Very nice.
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Thanks Vijay
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I miss my maternal grandma. She always hugged us and kissed our heads.
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Aww, a lovely, loving woman.
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Yes, she was 😊
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🥰
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my grandfather did spoil me very much when i was 8 or 9❤
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How lovely. Both my grandfathers were the mallow type
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Marvelous reflection and honest reflection Sadje. Great writing including prompts!!
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Thanks Suzette!
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Bouquets!!!
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💝
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Very wise, very loving! Grandmothers make a big difference and leave a lasting legacy in the heart. 💜♥️
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Thanks Dora. I’m trying to be a loving and kind one.
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I couldn’t imagine a better. 💜♥️
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Thanks my friend
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I agree 💕 Lovely poem Sadje 😄
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Thanks my friend
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I like this a lot. I was lucky to have all my grandparents for many years. I just wish I could see my grandchildren more often. 🙂
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Thanks Barbra. I’m lucky to see my grandkids regularly.
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100%!
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Thanks 🙏🏼
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My grandmothers were not necessarily cuddlers, but their love was obvious. It is so wonderful that you decided to provide something different for your grandchildren. Their life will be ‘softer’ as a result of your love. Lovely prose.
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Thanks a lot Maggie! I hope there was love under the discipline 🤩
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Always!
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😍
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I was actually afraid of my grandmothers till I got to know both of them.
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We were too afraid of our grandmothers!
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Family shape us almost every step of the way. Observant enough we are able to practice the positives and turn the negatives around when it’s our turn.
🤍
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Very right Destiny. It’s a sign of maturity to not too pass on what was dealt to us.
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Perfectly said😊
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🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Nice post 😊 you were smart not to follow in Granma’s footsteps ~ family is priceless ~ all don’t get the same opportunities in life.
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Thanks June. Yes, you’re very right my friend
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Great counterpoint. No love like a grandma’s!
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Thanks Rebecca.
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I had two cold grandmothers also. I wonder if it was a generational thing?
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I also think it might be so. Raised in hard times , under strict rules!
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Both of my grandmothers had passed before I was old enough to know them. No opportunity for them to scold, hold, or mold!
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That’s a loss. Some grandmas are doting and loving too.
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The times were very strict back then. I remember! Glad that we grandmas can be freer with our grandkids and just enjoy them.
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Very true Sherry. Enjoying them is just the perfect word. Thanks
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I wonder if your grandmothers enjoyed grandmothering as much as you obviously do! It’s sad that they couldn’t just relax and enjoy you. I’m glad you’ve found a different way of doing it.
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Thanks Sarah! Yes being friends with my grandkids is a much better way, even if I want to teach them something, it’s done with love and affection.
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Two stern grandmothers, I wonder if they thought your mother spoiled you.. I have always thought that it was the grandmother’s role to dote on their grandchildren.
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My mother died when I was 6. And yes it should have been their role. But they both were stern by nature.
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So nice. Lucky grandkids.
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Thanks Ganga.
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Sorry you didn’t have those type of grandparents, but I think its wonderful that you are embracing your grandchildren with love! ❤❤
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Thanks Joy. My paternal grandfather was very friendly. No loving hugs there either but he would spend time with us, taught us many card games and chess. He was a font of information too.
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Haha! You’ve taken the right step, if I may say so, Ma’am. 🙂
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Thanks Kitty. I think so too
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Your grandparenting style a treasured one, Sadje…what a bond you are forming 💞💞💞
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Many thanks Dawn
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Nice.
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Thanks 🙏🏼
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Good read. 😊
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Thanks 🙏🏼
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Sadje, I am glad you are breaking the intergenerational cycles of trauma. We often become what we hate in our parents and authority figures. Kudos to you. I especially loved the way you expressed yourself. It was prose in poetry or was in poetry in prose. Whatever it was, it was gentle and lovely, a delight to read.
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Thank you so much for your kind words. ❤️😍
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They are blessed to have you, my friend.
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I hope you. Many thanks 🙏🏼
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Most welcome. Always. 🙏
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💛💛💛
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You’re lucky grandchildren!!! what a gift you are! ❣️
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So kind of you Cindy.
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It’s so true.. I’ll take lessons from you.. ha! 🥰
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I’m sure you’ll make a wonderful grandmother 🥰🥰🥰
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oh I’m hopeful, when the time is right! 💞
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Inshaa’Allah! ( God willing)
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Shower them with love and spoil them. Always thought that was a general motto for grandmas.
You are getting it right!
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Yup, I’m doing that but less spoiling as I’m answerable to my kids!!! 😂😍🥰
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I love it… and a big AMEN!
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Thanks a lot Dwight
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You are welcome!
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🙏🏼
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