I am sharing this post, re-edited, from September 2018;
Who doesn’t want to be happy? We all do! But what exactly is happiness?
Happy is equivalent to a state of joy or pleasure.
The usual expectation people have about an ideal life is, that it is happy. I agree with you and so would about 99% of people in this world. But what makes a person happy is a big variable. If riches are one person’s idea of a happy life, a good home/ marriage would be another’s. A great and fulfilling job can be the ideal happy life for someone else. We usually base our expectations of being happy on certain conditions and circumstances in life. Nobody would expect to be happy just because he/ she felt like it. Except for a CHILD!!! And here lies the difference which is between adults and children.
We have gradually programmed to co-relate happiness with other things in life, like success, money, a good home, or a congenial environment. This conditioning changes our perception of joy and pleasure. A child can be happy for no reason other than he/ she is feeling buoyant. Children have not yet learned that they need certain conditions to make them happy. I guess what I really want to say that the pure unadulterated feeling of joy or happiness need not be an elusive phantom to be chased all our lives.
Joy can be found in everything around us, we just need to perceive it;
A beautiful vista, a bird’s song, or the laughter of a child, or a loved one can bring us untold joy, only if we open our hearts and minds to it.
The onus of being happy should lie on our own shoulders. ( Or in our perceptions). Don’t give others this job. Decide to be a person who can look for joy and pleasure in little things in life. Don’t wait for earth-shattering events to experience the highs of pleasure. Find your happiness in the little day-to-day event.

Written for JusJoJan-Ideal, Prompted by Astrid, hosted by Linda
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It’s far more complicated than people often make out. People will often say they want to be happy, but what about when that comes at somebody’s expense?
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That should NOT be a acceptable choice. Treading over over someone to seek oneβs happiness is not the way to do it
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But often we tread on people without knowing it. RFor example much of Europe is currently buying Russian gas, helping their war effort when I’m sure they would rather not.
But of course that scenario is far more complicated than somebody making a silly New Year’s resolution “to be happy”.
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That is a valid point.
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Our own happiness changes according to our own personal circumstances, but my happiness shines radiantly when my heart is sharing the happiness of others around me …
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What a lovely thing to say Ivor.
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Thank you Sadje π
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Youβre welcome
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“Tension is who you think you should be,
Relaxation is who you are”
Chinese Proverb
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This is a brilliant saying
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I agree! Thank you for sharing that proverb!!
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Thank you Sadje.
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Youβre welcome
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So true… We just have to look and it’s there… We often make it a task for ourselves. Lol would be great to be a child again though ππ
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Thanks Destiny! Yes to have that immense capacity to enjoy life.
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Great advice Sadje, seek joy from with the heart!
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Thanks Suzette! Indeed, we all are responsible for finding our own joy!
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Yes!! Amen to that Sadje.
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Nice.
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Thanks ππΌ
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Money doesnβt make you happy, just letβs you accumulate more junk in my opinion
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I agree. The operating term should be enough money for our needs.
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Completely agree we shouldn’t give others this job…if our happiness is their responsibility, they can take it away at any moment as well. Love the way you portrayed this, Sadje! πππ
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Thanks a lot Dawn
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I especially love the last line. ππ·
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Thanks a lot Maria
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