I am sharing this post, re-edited, from September 2018;
Who doesn’t want to be happy? We all do! But what exactly is happiness?
Happy is equivalent to a state of joy or pleasure.
The usual expectation people have about an ideal life is, that it is happy. I agree with you and so would about 99% of people in this world. But what makes a person happy is a big variable. If riches are one person’s idea of a happy life, a good home/ marriage would be another’s. A great and fulfilling job can be the ideal happy life for someone else. We usually base our expectations of being happy on certain conditions and circumstances in life. Nobody would expect to be happy just because he/ she felt like it. Except for a CHILD!!! And here lies the difference which is between adults and children.
We have gradually programmed to co-relate happiness with other things in life, like success, money, a good home, or a congenial environment. This conditioning changes our perception of joy and pleasure. A child can be happy for no reason other than he/ she is feeling buoyant. Children have not yet learned that they need certain conditions to make them happy. I guess what I really want to say that the pure unadulterated feeling of joy or happiness need not be an elusive phantom to be chased all our lives.
Joy can be found in everything around us, we just need to perceive it;
A beautiful vista, a bird’s song, or the laughter of a child, or a loved one can bring us untold joy, only if we open our hearts and minds to it.
The onus of being happy should lie on our own shoulders. ( Or in our perceptions). Don’t give others this job. Decide to be a person who can look for joy and pleasure in little things in life. Don’t wait for earth-shattering events to experience the highs of pleasure. Find your happiness in the little day-to-day event.