Sunday Poser # 106

My question, Sunday Poser

Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;

Do you ask or accept help easily?

Many people are hesitant to ask for help, even from family and friends. They feel that they can do it themselves. I too am one of those people. Or rather I use to be.

Now I’ve realized that offers of help made with sincerity should not be rejected, but should be graciously accepted. No person can do everything on their own, at least not easily. So if and when some loving family member or friend offers to take a bit of burden off your shoulders, do accept.

And when in need, ask for help. If nothing else, my recent surgeries have taught me this lesson that I need help off and on, and my family is too happy to step in with grace.

Do you find asking and accepting help easy? Or does your ego stops you from doing so?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find it.

As usual, thanks of visiting and reading.

#Keepitalive

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Published by Sadje

I am writing to express my opinion, share my experiences and to maybe provide some insight. My blog is addressing women at 50 ( but men are welcome to read my posts) ,their issues and the questions that come up at this stage in life. I don’t aim to teach, but to learn together.

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83 thoughts on “Sunday Poser # 106”

  2. I went from a person who was totally dependent upon parents and husband to one who fiercely guarded her independence after it was hard-won. Thus, for several years post-divorce I did NOT want any help from anyone, no matter what. Lately though I’ve mellowed some and will accept help from friends. I still don’t like asking for it however. My daughters have always been great helpers, but again I have issues about parents getting help from their children until very old age. I should help them!!!

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    2. I totally understand your point. I used to think asking for help shows we are weak and aren’t able to handle our problems ourselves. But now I know it’s okay too ask for help. My recent surgeries have made me appreciate how important family and it’s support is.

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  5. Asking for help is extremely difficult for me. I wanted to carry the world on my shoulders, but shied away from letting the world help me. It had nothing to do with pride or an ego, just the mere fact of burdening someone else weighed too heavy for comfort. But time lands us in situations that teach us : asking for help and accepting help in time of need can be a blessing.🙏

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  7. Seeking help when in need is a good thing, though hard at times because of how judgemental some people are. Accepting or giving it is easier than asking for it. For me. But when deeply in need, i don’t hesitate to ask, especially from those I tend to trust. Sadje, asking it is just often hard. I don’t know why 😅😅

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    1. I think asking for help seems to us as an admission of failure. That since we can’t do it on our own, we need help. But at the same time, we are eager to extend a helping hand to our family and friends. It’s wise to know that we cannot do everything on our own and need help sometimes too.

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      1. I agree, dear. That’s the first half of it though. The other half is the things people tell their friends and relatives about you when you reach out for help. There are certain people that the moment you reach out for help from them, they consider you “a burden” or “desperate beggar” and the stories they now start telling about you with others make you feel denigrated and regretful over your “reaching out”. I have personally encountered this and it felt painful when the stories came back to my ears. There are many good people who help from a clean heart without having to shout just as there are many bad people who prefer to hurt in the process of helping. So I guess most people prefer to avoid getting hurt in the process of trying to cure another pain. But if anything, we all need help at one point and ought to reach out.

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        1. That is an important point Lamittan. I think we should only ask people for help who we know are sincere to us. It’s very ungracious to spread rumors about someone who asked them for a helping hand.

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    1. Thank you Diana for sharing! I think it’s a sign of wisdom to know when we cannot manage on our own and to ask and accept help. We are more ready to offer help than ask for it though.

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  18. Not asking for helpful even though the other person is willing to understand, runs in my family. I have also inherited this trait but slowly opened up to people around me. Asking for help builds trust and relationships grow in a much more positive way.

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  23. I’m the person who always give a helphing hand, because somehow I wish they would do the same thing to me. But hahaha. Nvm. It never happened. Lol. I help myself too. It would be really nice if a person or even a stranger offer a hand without me asking for help.

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