
Love is mostly romanticized as an emotion that suddenly strikes us, stimulating both our hearts and minds and we fall (or rise) in love as sparks fly and there is definite chemistry between the two people.
But love can also be a slow ignition, that, like the crescendo of a symphony builds up gradually till it reaches its apex, the blossoming of true love.
Whatever way you love, one thing is certain, falling out of love is easy too, and unlike the fairytales we grew up reading and watching, it is not always a happily ever after ending and the true test of love is when there are tough circumstances; either financial, physical, or mental.
Sometimes people grow apart as they grow older, their interests change and so do their preferences, where to live, and how to live, they start to differ on all major decisions in life and the bond weakens.
So is love just a fairy dream of youth that dissolves as we grow older?
I think the way we love should change with time and age, the passion should be mixed with wisdom and understanding so that the natural process of growth, accommodates all the ways we differ from each other in our older selves to keep the spark alive!
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Written for Six Sentences Story- Spark, hosted by Denise of Girlie on the edge’s blog
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I indulged in a few episodes of a series where singles who want to get married are matched with each other by experts and then they get married at first sight. It’s entertaining, but I hope they do a follow-up to see how many are still together after a year. Like you said about the fairy tales with happily ever after, all we see in them are what leads up to their getting together, and then the story is capped with a convenient conclusion.
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Yes, they never show us what happened after the wedding. It’s the same in most romances. The reality comes afterwards
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Absoluetly well said Sadje. Wonderful wisdom!
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Thank you Suzette 💖
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A pleasure dear friend😍
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I agree that love is not just a fairy dream of youth. Since God is love, there is more at stake and more going on here than fairytales.
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Yes, Frank that’s true. Thanks
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Well written and observed Sadje, lot of wisdom in here! 🤔🤔👍👍👌👌👏👏 Love is more than just the romance and “falling head over heals”. It’s about listening to each other; a little compromise and and constant communication! 😁
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Absolutely right my friend. You’ve said it well.
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Love changes through the decades if you manage to stay together.
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Yes, it grows and matures. The trick is to stay together through all it’s phases.
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Everything changes as we age, so you are wise in your assessment that love must adapt as well.
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Indeed, very true Sandy
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Much wisdom here, but so many try to “recapture” that initial spark without allowing it to grow into mature flame.
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Yes, Dora, that is often the case. Thanks
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Love is tested over time, people grow together or grow apart.
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Yes, that’s true. Staying together takes more work and determination.
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Good one. Romantic love never worked out for me, but I still appreciate words of wisdom…
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Thank you Paula!
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Absolutely , Sadje. Very wise.💕
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Thanks Grace
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You’re welcome , dear Sadje.💕
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such a beautiful explanation of love Sadje and so true.
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” love can also be a slow ignition, that, like the crescendo of a symphony builds up gradually till it reaches its apex, the blossoming of true love.
Whatever way you love, one thing is certain, falling out of love is easy too, and unlike the fairytales we grew up reading and watching, it is not always a happily ever after ending “
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Thank you so much Cindy. I’m glad the lines resonated with you. 💖💖💖
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Wonder pose, Sadje, and so true! 💕
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Thank you Nancy.
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Wise advice, and that growing apart, differing priorities can happen at any time during the process 🙂
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Yes, it can and does. Thanks Kate.
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I agree with you, Sadje. We develop over time as we learn more, so it is perfectly reasonable that how we love and whom we love will change too. Not that we will love anyone less, or necessarily differently, yet love is also about recognizing when two people should not be together anymore. Difficult, yet also beneficial.
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Yes, that too is very important. When the relationship cannot exist as we want, it’s okay to let go. Thanks Jeff.
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Indeed, and agreed, my friend. You’re welcome, Sadje. Always.
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I so agree with you. As we learn more, love changes and it can deepen, love can expand and become more beautiful.
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Thanks a lot Gary.
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Love changes as we change. I’ve noticed that the things I thought were done out of love were not at all. Great post!
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Thanks Belladonna. Yes, we grow and learn what love is, which keeps on changing too.
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Yes for sure!
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Such a beautiful explanation, Sadje👌❤
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Thanks a lot Vidah
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Some languages of the old, had more than one words to give meaning to all facets of love, rightfully so as you point out in your Six.
Isn’t it love an act of faith?
Isn’t living this life ultimately an act of faith?
Insightful, Sadje!
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Indeed, it is Spira. Thanks
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Indeed. Love should be given in a way that never ends and the person can’t get bored from your love.❤⭐
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Very true my friend
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Yup.
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A thought-provoking piece indeed. For some, there comes a time when going separate ways is more sensible than clinging on to a failing relationship as I know only too well. My ex and I are probably better friends now than we were back then!
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That is true. Love should not be a relationship of burden.
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I really LOVE this, lol. I always thought that the love comes in different forms, but it always seems to be when you’ve really known someone for a long time.
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Thanks Lolsy.
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I agree Sadje. Love does change with time, age, circumstances. Some changes break that love while it strengthens others
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Very well said Maria.
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Love this, it’s honest. Love takes lots of work
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Thanks Deb! Yes it does. And sometimes the hardest is staying quiet
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saturday is our 45th wedding anniversary. it’s not all been pretty, but it’s been real. marriage is a long business and you have to work at it and want it to work. have a great weekend.
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Thanks a lot. Yes, like any other relationship, it needs work.
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Well said! This is what i’ve seen in some of the marriages i’ve been privileged to watch as they reached the 60-or 70-year mark, or beyond.
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Thanks Mimi. Yes, that seems to be the secret to a lasting marriage
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Beautiful Sadje! Its a great six!
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Thanks Carol.
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Well said! The sparks, from an eternal flame. The hearts enlightened, the love igniting… profoundly!
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Thanks a lot Warren
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You’re welcome!
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I think if you can find a true best friend it will last. When the friendship is flawed, so is the love.
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Yes, that’s so in many cases
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Well said, Sadje. As we age love too grows up…from passion and chemistry to companionship and understanding. But respect and communication remain the key elements for any relationship to last.
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Of course, without these two key elements, the relationship is doomed. 💖
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Nicely written, Sadje. Kierkegaard wrote that love has a retroactive quality, once you cease to love you never really loved at all.
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Thanks! But people still mourn lost loves?
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Love is a treasure that needs tending, polishing, adoration, and compassion.
I am truly impressed with those in long and loving relationships and hope that I too am on such a road with my own beloved. 🙂
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Very right my friend. I too hope you are. 💖💖💖
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As long as we keep working at making each other happy – all is well 🙂
Best to you and yours!!
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Thank you Jules. 😍
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So true how it changes through the years….I feel sorry for those who think they have fallen out of love when instead that initial fire of first love settles into the long-lasting coals of deep, abiding love. They forever jump from rush to rush, not recognizing what they are throwing away. 💞
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Yes, it is often the case. Sometimes the situation is at a head and then people have no other option than to let go bog each other but in many instances, the union can be saved with being considerate and understanding
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Wonderful ❤️
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Thank you so much
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