Sunday Poser # 96

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Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;

What is the first thing you would like people to notice or compliment you upon? Looks or intelligence?

It’s difficult to decide! While I think I’m intelligent, I also love when people say that I’m looking nice. But seriously, beauty is only the exterior and it is better to be appreciated for the qualities that lie under the skin.

When I was blogging anonymously, I loved that people appreciate my writing without knowing anything about me. I think that sort of praise is genuine because it’s based only on what they experience and not on who I am.

What are your views on this?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one so that I can find it.

As usual, thanks of visiting and reading.

#Keepitalive

#SundayPoser

Published by Sadje

I am writing to express my opinion, share my experiences and to maybe provide some insight. My blog is addressing women at 50 ( but men are welcome to read my posts) ,their issues and the questions that come up at this stage in life. I don’t aim to teach, but to learn together.

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61 thoughts on “Sunday Poser # 96”

    1. Haha! How good you’re too yourself Keith. I think that’s the best policy! Why wait to be acknowledged by others when we can do it in all sincerity. 😍🥹

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  3. This is a loaded question, Sadje, and if we’re perfectly honest the answer is ‘both”.

    I’m one of those women who looks considerably younger than I am. Please do not think I am bragging; I’ve been told often enough to know it is must be true.

    Women ask me what my secret is; I have no secret. I don’t wear a lot of makeup; I moisturize and try to dress in a modern way without looking foolish. I do enjoy going to the hair and nail salon every couple of weeks.

    Once about 7 years ago someone I met for the first time at a barbecue assumed my grandchildren were my children. Another time about 20 years ago when I was helping my then single son shop for furniture for his apartment, the salesman thought we were husband and wife! Now that was more than a bit weird! I guess I just have good Italian genes; my mother was well into her 80s before she wrinkles started to show.

    As much as I enjoy being complimented on my appearance, I love the reaction I get when people learn I’m an author. They are intrigued by that and ask me many questions. When that happens, how I look doesn’t matter; people concentrate on my ability to write many different stories. They no longer see the outer me; they are intrigued by the inner me. And that never gets old!

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    1. Ah, yes, this is the answer I was looking for. We are more flattered when we are admired for our abilities. Thanks a lot Nancy for sharing. BTW, in your DP, you look not more than 45! 😍🤩

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      1. Thank you, Sadje, for all your remarks and I’m glad to have given the answer you were looking for. I will gladly take 45; that’s not even close but I will keep my age to myself. I’m sure my age can be figured out if a few of my stories; if someone wants to know that badly, they can read my stories until they find the answer! 🤗 😄 💕

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  4. To be honest,both. In my opinion and real life experience, I think most of them would like to hear about their looks more than intelligence (Count me in😝).
    Actually, I thought about people complimenting intelligence only after I saw your question. Cuz, I as a student , mostly spend time among my friends and other teanagers.They would mostly compliment about other’s looks. And about intelligence, around me, apart from elders, I haven’t seen anyone complimenting about intelligence. The thing is they admire them and friends would talk each other about his/her intelligence. But won’t compliment them in person(other than congratulating them(just saying congrats for winning something like quiz or tests), 😝).

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    1. I guess it’s true for younger people. We older people do compliment others, specially children on their intelligence. And often our friends too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Dest.

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  7. Beautiful heart reflects beautiful mind. It’ll reflect in art form. However, i sometimes think that it takes one to know one and can appreciate. Otherwise, it can feel like just being a meaningless trophy status symbol object for others to steal credit for associating with.

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  9. Neither, honestly. I’ve received a little too many loaded compliments (ie. compliments that come with some kind of expectation) on my intelligence and I don’t really care that much about my looks. I’m with AnitaElise here.

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  11. I just wish that the person who says compliment is not a big fat liar. 🙂
    Because I have my own eyes. I can see myself clearly on a mirror. There are days that I look pretty, cute, beautiful, whatever good adjective it is. But also there are times that I look like a messed. 🤧
    And if someone say I look pretty in that messy look, I say to myself this person is such a liar in the back of my head.

    I’m not intelligent person. So there’s no need for them to compliment me on this part. 😅 But I receive some compliment in my few talent. But I still feel like they are lying. Lmao. Why do I feel like people around me lies after telling me a compliment.

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    1. I suddenly hit the reply button. LOL. It’s better if they won’t tell any kind of compliment at all. Its like more realistic if they say something that they don’t like about me.

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  14. I think intelligence is important, however, the heart is what matters most to me. How they make me feel, if there is resonance, and reciprocity. Being attracted to someone is important, yet the pull from the heart is strongest for me. People complimenting me on my heart makes me happy.

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  15. It’s not something that has ever bothered me either way. Just to be spoken to as a person is sufficient. I remember meeting a guy once and he said “I figured you to be taller!”, and another once remarked “Gee, l had you as a tie wearer!” It’s never bothered me.

    People can’t really say much about you properly until they get to know you and in truth, l pay no attention to people’s remarks who don’t know me anyway.

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  16. If someone wishes to tell me how intelligent or how good looking I am, I will graciously accept their compliment. But these days, most of the compliments I get go something like this: “You look pretty good for a man your age” or “Your mind is still relatively sharp for an old fart.”

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  21. Is there a right answer? I have a pretty low self-esteem when it comes to my looks, and would love to hear I can turn someone’s head. But I also like to believe what’s beneath the skin is more important in the long run.

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