I think that we delude ourselves when we think that we can exercise full control over the direction our lives take.
Take my life for example; I was studying medicine, concentrating especially on the subjects related to surgery and planning to be a surgeon.
What happened instead was that I married with one year to go before my studies were to be completed, had a baby and despite trying to go back to the med school, didn’t get the chance to do it.
My saving grace is that I bend with my circumstances, I mold and adjust my thinking to my given situation, and don’t regret what could’ve been or should’ve been.
I think the only thing I do control in my life is the way I think and how I react to my circumstances.