How much control do we have?

I think that we delude ourselves when we think that we can exercise full control over the direction our lives take.

Take my life for example; I was studying medicine, concentrating especially on the subjects related to surgery and planning to be a surgeon.

What happened instead was that I married with one year to go before my studies were to be completed, had a baby and despite trying to go back to the med school, didn’t get the chance to do it.

My saving grace is that I bend with my circumstances, I mold and adjust my thinking to my given situation, and don’t regret what could’ve been or should’ve been.

I think the only thing I do control in my life is the way I think and how I react to my circumstances.


Written for Six Sentences Story- Control, hosted by Girlie on the Edge’s blog- Denise



79 thoughts on “How much control do we have?

  1. I think I have about 20% control. The very best I could might be 40 – 50% 😊 I bet that applies to most people, but what do I know?

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      1. I think it’s less than most people think….Almost all my decision are decisions of necessity, where I am compelled..or lesser of two evils. I doubt I make more than one or two really free decisions on any given day. I think that’s true for most poor people…😇😇

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  2. You don’t know how fortunate you are that you didn’t complete medical course.
    Now a days it has become a thankless profession.
    Doctors and paramedical staff are abused in the subcontinent.
    “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t”
    Steve Maraboli,

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        1. Very true. It’s the mental attitude of believing which gives us a calmer life because we really can’t go against fate anyway.


  3. I completely agree with you, Sadje. Control is an illusion, and when we get this, we have less anxiety and more empowerment, as we are delivered our lives, and we respond to those deliveries. Thank you for sharing.

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  4. As long as we have choices in our lives we have an element of control in our lives too. we cannot ‘control’ outside influences, but we can control the amount of time we are exposed to the influences. We still have freedom of choice to take more control on our lives.

    I think we too often for the wrong reasons blame everything and everyone else for a lack of control in our lives when ultimately we are to blame for losing that control. We procrastinate and look for excuses when we have the power much of the time to do something about it all.

    Basically we have as much control as we allow ourselves personally to have.

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