This week, Fandango Provocatively asks;
What do you do for a living? If you are retired, what did you do before you retired? If you’re currently unemployed, what did you do before becoming unemployed?
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I was studying to because a doctor when I got married. In my culture, 36 years, back most marriages were arranged by parents. I gave my consent for the marriage, thinking I’ll be able to complete my studies after marriage, but that didn’t happen.
My first job was as the Wife! This job was soon turned into a combination of a wife and mother when my daughter was born. These combined responsibilities lasted for 24 years. The job description seems simple enough, but it was I think the toughest job around. It combined the duties of a housekeeper, cook, chauffeur, cleaner, launderer and a nurse/ doctor!
Finally when my elder daughter married and I thought that now my duties were going to lessen but after a year or so, I was given another job, that of a grandmother. While the job of a grandmother isn’t as challenging as that of a mom, it has its challenges too.
The biggest responsibility of a grandma is to love, nurture and spoil her grandkids. I do my best to fulfill my duties by helping my children when they need a nanny to help them out. In case of my grandson, my duties are different due to the unique circumstances of their situation. For him, I’m a part-time mom too, a tutor for helping him learn Urdu, teaching him Quran, and also a confidant! I’m also his student where he tries to teach my how to play different video games that he loves.
These are the details of my “career” I doubt that I will retire any time soon. Probably till I am fit and able to handle my “duties”.

Written for FPQ # 152, hosted by Fandango.
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You are truly blessed to be able to juggle all those occupations wife…mother…》grandmother, doctor.
In a very real sense you completed you studies as a doctor to your family.
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Thanks a lot Suzette for your kindness.
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My pleasure, my dear friend. Cheers
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(hearts)
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🙏🏼
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I hope and wish you always stay fit enough to keep performing your wonderful duties to the fullest. As someone who grew up with a single mother, I know the importance of a grandparent. I’m sure your grandson will cherish every moment he spends with you and all those memories you gift him. 💖
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Thank you so much Sam. Yes you get it perfectly. I hope that he has good memories of our time together. ❤️💖
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Women’s family responsibilities are woefully undervalued. It sounds as if you have an awesome relationship with your grandson. I’m sure he helps to keep you young. Long may that continue, my friend!
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Yes, that’s so true! The mere term “house-wife” is so passé. Thanks Chris. I hope so too.
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Best profession dear Sadje. The payment is pure selfless love ❤️
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Yes, that’s true Happy. Thanks. Great to see you here. How have you been?
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Thank you … I’m doing good dear Sadje.. how have you been … works keeping me occupied and not able to write yet … I wish to visit here on every Saturday atleast .. hopefully 😬
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I’m good too, thanks. Work does takes up a lot of time specially if you start after a hiatus. Take care
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You too Sadje .. thank you 😊
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You’re welcome
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I used to — when I was starting out and Owen was in pre-school — put “Mommy” in my list of jobs with a full description of what I did. I don’t know if it got me jobs, but at least it got people to look at the resume!
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People, specially men don’t often realize how demanding this job is.
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Being a wife and a mother is a full time job in the subcontinent. On top of it grandmother duties! That sure makes you a superwoman, Sadje! ❤️
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Thanks Punam! I am just like millions others. But you’re very kind. 💖❤️
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I am not being kind but honest. Men here don’t share household responsibilities, so it is all the more laudable.
You are welcome. 💓💓
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That’s true but now I see a glimmer of change and see that men as dads and husbands are pulling some weight too. Thanks again
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Best job in the world being a grandma
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Yup! Totally agree Diana
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Being a grandparent is the best!
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Yes!!! It is. Lot of love to give and very few responsibilities
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Agree with Fandango! And being a good mom is the most important job ❤️
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Thanks a lot Paula. You are both and you know. ❤️💖
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I think those who are mothers and grandmothers work harder than “employed” people.
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That’s true and don’t get paid for it either. Or appreciated.
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How wonderful. Those are the most important jobs of all. ❤️
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I agree Jeff, they are and need proper recognition and encouragement. But parents make a lot of mistakes too. So they also have to be fast learners.
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Indeed, and agreed. Oh, yes, that’s true, mistakes are a part of it, and learning fast is super helpful.
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Exactly! Thanks
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Being a mom and grandma are tough jobs, but good ones.
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Thanks Lauren! That’s true.
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I like to hear how dedicated you are to your family. Lucky them and lucky you 🙂
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Thanks a lot Rebecca! It is an inborn instinct.
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Perhaps, but also a cultivated one born of love and compassion.
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That’s true. Thank you so much my friend
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I very worthwhile occupation 🙂
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Thanks a lot Deb
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I don’t know about the grandparent side of things yet, but being a mom has been everything to me.
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You’re such a sweet person Leigha! You’ll make a wonderful grandma one day.
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Thank you!
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Always a pleasure
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