Welcome back to another Sunday Poser

This week my question is;
Have you ever been hurt by your expectations?
I used to have great expectations. For the longest time, I believed that people would do the right thing, the kind thing. But I got disappointed so many times that I learned my lesson.
The lesson was that; If you don’t want to get hurt and lose your faith in humanity, don’t have expectations, from anyone!
This hard learned lesson has now saved me from not only getting emotionally hurt but has also saved my relationship with my family and friends. If they do something good or kind, I am pleasantly surprised and if they don’t, it doesn’t matter to me.
So what about you?
Do you have expectations from others or not? Have you ever been hurt because they didn’t do as expected?
Please share your thoughts in the comments section or you can write your own post and link it to this one, so that I can find it.
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A thought provoking question Sadje. It is still a process for me, to let go of expectation…but, I am getting there😊
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It is a hard thing to do. But we benefit from it immensely. Thanks for sharing
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Always a pleasure Sadje. Cheers
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well never because as a real person as a acceptor of life in its form, I never built expectations even with my own self
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You’re very wise to be V like this. Thanks for sharing
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Mine pleasure dear
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Here’s my offering
https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2022/01/09/sunday-poser-9th-january/
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Thanks Di
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When I was in high school my motto was expectations lead to frustrations. I would be well served to begin that mantra again!
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It is very true Rebecca. Thanks for sharing. We should make it a tee shirt slogan
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I wouldn’t say “hurt” but disappointed!
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Disappointed is better than hurt. Thanks Myrna for sharing your thoughts
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It’s difficult to let go of the expectation of people doing the right thing
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Very much so Lauren. But got the sake of our sanity, we should.
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Here’s my contribution: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/01/09/sunday-poser-1-9-2022-62/
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Thanks Melanie
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I do need to let go more often.
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We all do. Thanks Gary.
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You can’t have expectations of others, for it’s their life and their choice. I don’t think you have the right to think they should do/act in a manner you think is appropriate, for it might not be appropriate to them
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You’re absolutely right Deb. And having realized that, my life is much better.
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The only high expectations I have is for myself. I think we are harder on ourselves than anyone around us.
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You’re right we are. Thanks Diana.
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I lived a great portion of my adulthood with unrealistic and quite frankly expectations of others that were none of my business. Today, I can hold space for expectations, as it is part of my job to do so, yet those expectations start with me, and when there are expectations of others, I know if they do not meet the expectation it has nothing to do with me; in fact, in many ways it has nothing to do with them; it just is. I find holding space for expectations this way, which includes accountability and discipline, healthier. It removes shame and blame, which are unhealthy. Wow. I had a lot to write today. Excellent prompt, Sadje!
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That is a good way to keep accountability. Very wise in my view. Thanks for sharing Jeff.
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Indeed. I think so too. Most welcome, Sadje. Always.
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Oh, my, YES! So many times. I echo your thoughts and have really let my expectations go. People do whatever they are capable of and I continue to just have expectations of myself because at least I know I will do everything in my power not to disappoint myself. In addition, I’ve “culled” my inner circle of all those who are just takers and not really invested in a relationship with me. So I would say, my later years are much less chaotic and disappointing. 🙂 Great question!
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Thanks for sharing Susi. One way friendships hurt more than they reward so it is better to curtail them. ❤️👍🏼
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You’re welcome! Yes, they do and you’re right.
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I guess the one thing I still have expectation about is messages… if I send a text or email with a question I expect it to be answered. But I know a couple people that just don’t do that always and I should know by now they have better things to do than answer my questions.
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I think it’s not polite to answer texts. But some people don’t have their priorities right.
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I agree with you Sadje. Expectations have always let me down. It’s better not to have them and be pleasantly surprised.
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Thanks Shruthi. Absolutely right
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Such Profound reflections. Indeed, expectations lead to disappointment.
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Very much so. Thanks 🙏🏼
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Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! 😘💕🎁🌹
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Thanks
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