This week Fandango asks us;
In your opinion, is it better to be a big fish in a small pond or a small fish in a big pond? Or perhaps a big fish in a big pond? Why do you feel that way?
Humans love to feel important. They would like to be a big fish, irrespective of the size of the pond. It is an inherent desire in us all to boost our ego and make us feel that we have a value that not everyone else has. But not everyone is obsessed with this desire.
Some like to live low-key lives, doing their thing in a somewhat obscure environment, not craving limelight or fame. They would be happy to be a small fish in a big pond, blending in and not standing out.
I am not a fame-hungry person. I shy away from the limelight and when I was forced into it due to the official position my husband was holding at the time, I was very uncomfortable. But having said that, I would like to be acknowledged for my contribution to the lives of my family and friends. Does it sound narcissistic?
Let me explain.
In my family and circle of close friends, I am the unofficial doctor ( having had 4 years of med school under my belt) so they all ask my advice when they have a situation requiring medical attention. And I am able to give them good advice. When they need to see a doctor, and when itβs something which can be treated at home. So when they say that Iβm their medical advisor, I feel happy and accomplished.
I guess, in my small pond of close friends and family I would like to be a big fish!

In response to FPQ # 160 hosted by Fandango
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I wish I knew somebody that could give me medical advice and if they could help me file my taxes, that would be even better.
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Haha! I have someone who files my tax returns, my son. He is a chartered accountant and is very helpful
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I agree with that highlighted point. I liked it π
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Thanks a lot Jane
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My pleasure, Sadje
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Sounds good. My housemate is a doctor, which is lucky for me!
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Thanks Paula! Having a doctor in the family or among friends is always a benefit.
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You have earned the right to feel proud of your knowledge and skill, so no narcissism involved IMO. It seems to me that you’ve found your ‘niche’ in life and so few are able to claim that, that when it occurs it is a cause for celebration. Wonderful post! π
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Thank you so much my dear friend. Youβre very kind. I do feel useful, if nothing else. And I donβt mind the late night phone calls either! π
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I’m fine with being a small fish in whatever pond I find myself in..
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I donβt think the size of the pond is important here. Be comfortable where ever you are! Thanks Patricia
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Thatβs a lovely way to think about our immediate surroundings and our place in it, Sadje.
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Thanks Jeff.
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Most welcome. Always my pleasure.
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Youβre very kind.
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I fix computers or I did, though these days they’ve changed the interface so much I don’t understand them as well as I did. But I get it. The problem is as we get older, we become UN-important. Age seems to do that to everyone — unless you’re Mel Brooks. At 95, he’s making a new show! I’m just trying to keep limping around.
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I think we are always important to those who love us, and thatβs what matters. ππ€
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I guess as the patriarch of a relatively small family, I might be considered a big fish in a small pond, but I think my wife, the matriarch, has me beat.
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Oh yes, the wife has a better claim on being the bigger fish! Besides, she is the MOM!
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You are a triple blessings in that you can provide love support and medical advice.
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Haha! 3 in 1!!!!
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Did you never have a desire to go back to medical school?
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I did try in the beginning but my circumstances were against it. If it was not one thing, it was another. I finally made peace with this decision and now Iβve no regrets.
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Ok. It’s a shame, l think you would have made a good practitioner π
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Itβs okay, Iβve accepted that it wasnβt to be. But I have my knowledge and can be helpful to those around me. Thanks for your kind compliment.
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I wanna be a big fish sometimes and a small fish sometimes π I’d also like to have the option of choosing the pond size to my liking!
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Itβs but fair! π
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Seems like they’re lucky to have you Sadje
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I like to think so! π
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So well expressed!
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Thanks a lot ππΌ
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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I did not know you had some years of med school under your belt! That is awesome! Its nice to be recognised isnt it? xo
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Yes, it is gratifying.
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My aunt is a nurse
So lucky to have her
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Indeed, very much so.
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I want to be a big enough fish to feel relevant. π
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So do I, but only in my pond.
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Very true! π
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