I recently made a self-discovery that made many things clear to me.
Why do we tell things, our personal experiences to others?
And sometimes we tell them to some people and not others?
I suddenly had an epiphany that what we are usually looking for are sympathy and understanding. When we tell a friend or family member about our troubles or aches and pains we want some sympathy from our confidant. Our aim in sharing is not that we expect the other person to lessen our troubles but that they will understand and will show us some sympathy.
But not everyone is going to be sympathetic, so learning from our previous experiences, we tell our troubles only to those who we feel will show us sympathy. It’s not that others aren’t interested in us, the most common issue is that people have enough troubles of their own and due to this they have less time and sympathy to spare.
So when you have the urge to un-burden yourself, choose someone who is;
Free
Has no immediate problems of their own
Loves you and can give good advice
Please remember that if that person qualifies for the last two points but isn’t free, DON’T go to them for sympathy.
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A prompt by Sue W and GC; Weekly prompts Weekend Challenge – Discovery

“Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.” ~ Erol Ozan
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Interesting one dear.
Great job
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Thanks 🙏🏼
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With pleasure.
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🙏🏼
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Good advice
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Thanks Lauren 😍
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Yes, I can very much relate to this.
My only reservation would be with the “has no immediate problems of their own”. Sometimes (I would say often), it is exactly the people who are struggling with their own problems who are more open and willing to just be there for us.
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Sometimes that is true, while at other times they are so engrossed with their problems that they will brush off yours as not that important.
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Wow, this is such an amazing response!
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Thank you so much Sam. 💖
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Interesting. I think that some of us are looking for sympathy/a listening ear, while others are looking for advice. When you are looking for sympathy and I give you advice or vice versa, that’s not going to work out even if both of us are well-intentioned.
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That’s a very valid point. I use iron control to not offer advice unless it’s asked for.
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True. Sometimes we share our situation to think them through, and need a caring listening ear, not really for feedback but just to be present in the moment with another. Well said Sadje.
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Thanks a lot Suzette! That’s absolutely true
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My pleasure, a great share Sadje. Blessings to you.
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💖❤️
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I think we share for sympathy, to work through it or to help others learn through our experiences.
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Yes, that’s very true. Thanks
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That old adage, a trouble shared is a trouble halved 😁
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That is quite true I think.
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Very insightful Sadje.
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Thanks Jim. It was for me. For others it might’ve been a known fact.
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Wise words, Sadje.
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Thanks a lot my friend
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That’s super wise advice, Sadje. I completely agree.
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Many thanks my friend
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Always welcome, my friend.
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🙏🏼
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Good one Sadje 😊
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Thanks a lot Happy
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Well said!
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Thanks Lolsy
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You are so right!
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Thanks Punam.
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You are welcome.
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🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Wise as usual, Sadie. 🙂
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Thanks Sue.
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You explained it very well, Sadje.
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Thank you Maria
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So very true
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Thanks!
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Great advise..thanks😊🙏
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My pleasure! Thanks for visiting and commenting.
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Very interesting thoughts and very helpful!
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Thanks a lot 🙏🏼
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Beautifully said. Today at the gym, a complete stranger told me there problems. I listened, shook my head in acknowledgment, and parted ways. Two minutes of time, he expressed something bothersome, but just maybe, he can go on with the rest of his day a little less burdened. Thank you for sharing!
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I think it’s important to listen when someone wants to share. It helps them to unburden. Thanks
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Nicely done Sadje, and I love the quote you chose at the end!
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Thanks a lot Leigha
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My pleasure.
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❤️
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