I recently made a self-discovery that made many things clear to me.
Why do we tell things, our personal experiences to others?
And sometimes we tell them to some people and not others?
I suddenly had an epiphany that what we are usually looking for are sympathy and understanding. When we tell a friend or family member about our troubles or aches and pains we want some sympathy from our confidant. Our aim in sharing is not that we expect the other person to lessen our troubles but that they will understand and will show us some sympathy.
But not everyone is going to be sympathetic, so learning from our previous experiences, we tell our troubles only to those who we feel will show us sympathy. It’s not that others aren’t interested in us, the most common issue is that people have enough troubles of their own and due to this they have less time and sympathy to spare.
So when you have the urge to un-burden yourself, choose someone who is;
Has no immediate problems of their own
Loves you and can give good advice
Please remember that if that person qualifies for the last two points but isn’t free, DON’T go to them for sympathy.
A prompt by Sue W and GC; Weekly prompts Weekend Challenge – Discovery
“Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.” ~ Erol Ozan