Kids are naive, there is no filter on either their words or thoughts. But as they grow up, they are taught to put filters on their words. They may think things but they should not say what ever is on their minds.
We program our children like we were programmed. Think before you speak is one of the advice frequently given to us and then given by us to the young ones.
Is it right though?
Are we teaching hypocrisy to our kids? We may not like someone but we have to keep our feelings hidden to not offend them. If we blurt out the truth by mistake, we end up in hot water.
Growing up changes us. We lose the naivety and innocence of our childhood and learn tact. We learn to be diplomatic and filter our words before uttering them. We learn that being polite is more important than being truthful. And we also learn that someone who always says what they think is generally quite unpopular.
Do you put filters on your speech? Or words?
I do because this is what I’ve been taught!

Reena has given us a word Prompt this week;
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It’s a word prompt this week.
FILTER
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Most of the time-not when I’m alone😂
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One good thing about being alone.
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Yes, there aren’t many
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No there aren’t.
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I do, absolutely. I’d have no friends if I didn’t filter.
But surely we have to, to avoid upsetting people?
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Yes we do this too avoid upsetting people but if we all were always truthful, we would be used to hearing the truth and not get offended!
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I can’t speak for anyone else but certainly I’m aware that the truth can hurt people so there is always a filter, do I want to hurt them?
That goes right the way up to Mrs Bump. There are a zillion things I don’t tell her.
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We are programmed to not tell or hear the truth about a lot of things, specially to family and friends. As I said if we weren’t bright up like that, maybe truth wouldn’t hurt people.
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I think you lose the filter as you get older. My mum had no filter when she over seventy, and would just say what she wanted to say. Part of me thinks I wish I had some of her courage the other steers well clear. Mum would show her opinion in front of people. I would say, ‘you can’t say that,’ and she would look at me with no shame like a teenager when they say things.
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This is very true. The older we get , we become less concerned with the opinions of others.
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I’ve seen my father-in-law do this in a state of dementia in his last two years at age 87-89. The innermost opinions come out.
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Yes, when the intellect weakens, instincts take over.
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Yes, of course. It’s part of being an adult. Those who announce their “brutal honesty” are giving us a warning to avoid them, which I tend to do. They’re also the type to give opinions when not asked…
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Yes, it is a part of being an adult in today’s society. A sentence that starts with; “ Let me be honest here” invariably is brutal.
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I found that as my dad entered his 80s, he’s lost his filter. It’s not always pleasant to be around him.
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Older people, like children speak their mind.
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True!
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Oh yes! Lots of filters. I was as you state so well, raised to filter my words. I still do it. Great share, Sadje
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Thanks Suzette. It’s how we were raised.
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So true.
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Nice post. Sometimes we all need to filter our words lest they hurt someone’s feelings.
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Thanks Indira. Yes we are always doing that.
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Social media posts, memes all try to give us a filter on reality. Reality is just what I believe, and it is different for everyone.
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Yes, that’s true Reena. Thanks
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Reblogged this on Reena Saxena and commented:
Do you have a filter?..
By Sadje
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Thanks for sharing 🙏🏼
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Nope, I am completely tactless. I say what I think and damn the consequences. My daughter is just the same as me.
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At least you know what you’re and what what you say! There is no conflict in you.
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Yep, I managed to offend everybody 🙂
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I’m sure there will be some who appreciate your honesty!
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I don’t have a filter between mouth and brain, which has brought me in trouble all my life.
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I can imagine! 🤪 But aren’t people now used to it now?
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You would think 🙂
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A great distinction between truth and politeness, Sadje.
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Thanks Jeff.
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You’re most welcome, Sadje.
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afraid my filters are flawed, often told I need to learn to be ‘more diplomatic’ so most know what I say is what I mean … it’s the only way i know how to be!
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I think that though it is a difficult path, once you’ve got everyone used to your honesty, it’s the best way to be!
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there are many different reactions, few really appreciate it, some a quite embarrassed by it and most are totally uncomfortable with it … the world is just not used to it! But I don’t like ‘games’ and all these ‘white lies’ means the truth is seldom spoken … and how sad is that!
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It is very sad. Just goes to show how our values have deteriorated.
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I really think it’s something few sincerely think about … the pseudo farce is now the acceptable 😦
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You’re probably right Kate.
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I speak my mind most of the time! I’m not afraid to speak up! xo
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That’s great
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Yes, when I am with others I have a filter. I refer to it as being diplomatic. When I am alone I speak my mind but try to avoid negativity.
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Yes, diplomacy is the key
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Yes we should all be filtered. We were doing fine here in the US until a certain someone, unfiltered of course, i.e Trump, came along now half the country believes they can say what they want whenever they want regardless of how cruel and nasty it is. They do this claiming it’s their ‘right’ 😦
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Yes Christine, spreading hate and racism in the name of free speech is reprehensible.
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Yes it is 😡
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Yes. And we never realise, when our consciously applied filters have become irreversible and irrevocable part of our lives.
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You’re so right Shashi. It becomes a part of our persona.
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I do and I don’t. It all depends on the situation and people. I am quite forthright but if I think my words may hurt, I keep quiet.
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Even the most sincere words can hurt sometimes. As my daughter once said to me that telling her that I meant well carried no weight with her. She said that only God knows what is my intent and to others, only the action and results matter. So I have learned to think well before I open my mouth.
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I agree, Sadje. Somehow we end up hurting our dear ones by our forthrightness.
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Yes, quiet unintentionally
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That is the key word.
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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I’m not a parent, but I guess it would also be the intent behind the word as well, maybe?
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That’s what we presume. But many times there are issues when what we say is not what others hear.
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True!
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I definitely do not. I know when to act right obviously lol. I do believe we have become “sugar coated” to the max that people now almost get offended if you even yawn wrong. It literally has become that ridiculous you have to walk on eggshells. Not everything is sunshine and rainbows or having it their way. Sometimes I think we have became less filtered in needed situations that handling the reality instead of the fairytale they created is to much. We should not have to worry so much if saying a opinion something so simple might just upset someone. There is a way to be unfiltered and mindful all at the same time with practice. I don’t think someone should have to feel they have to apply a filter and vice verse. I really do think it’s a little over the top with some stuff. For example taking paw patrol off tv because police brutality. Not taking away from a super serious subject and event that happened but what does a kids show have to do with it? I just can’t follow that line of thought and how the heck it’s offensive.
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You’re absolutely spot on. Where we need sensitivity, we are often oblivious and where no filter is needed we are extra careful of giving offense. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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Honestly I wasn’t going to lol I was gonna keep it to myself 😅 for the reasons I have already stated above. It’s a very ah fine line with this kinda thing. Even with my own friends when they are saying things I said it’s probably not a good idea to do. Yes I get super annoyed as it’s repeated behaviors however what can I do?. I do not think someone should ever invalidate themselves their thoughts & feelings there is a cushion on how to fall with what someone can be said so all partie(s) feel they are heard. I think too that is another issue not hearing someone enough kinda jumping the gun. Even with children especially with children actually if a continued pattern of not allowing them to be heard will have some serious future consequences. It does change someone chemically in the brain to respond much more negatively then they should much later on. Communication is really key expression no matter what or who it’s gonna suit some things are just not for everyone we have to be ok with it.
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You’re so right. I wrote a post yesterday in this topic, questions and answers.
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Oh I’ll go over and check that one out too 😅. I kinda think me and you do blogs super similar. It might seem to others ok where is this going?. The one blog always leads into the other just a broken down version.
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Thanks Shelby.
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