Fandango Provocative Question # 138

Sadje Sadje's View, You Asked October 8, 2021October 8, 2021

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Welcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

I overheard two people having a disagreement this week. One person told the other that she was too willing to settle for something when she shouldn’t. The other person responded that she wasn’t settling, she was just accepting the reality of the situation. So that got me thinking about the difference between “settling” and “accepting.” Hence, my provocative question for this week…

Do you see a difference between settling for things and accepting the way things are? If so, in what way are they different? If not why do you feel settling and accepting are the same?

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After reading a lot of responses to this question, I have reached the conclusion that there is but a slight difference between the two. It lies in how we are viewing the situation. Practically, the result is the same.

We settle for things that we would like to be better but seeing no other alternative, we settle for the current situation. Relationships are often the ones we settle for. Marriage should NOT be one example but it often is. Siblings we end up with cannot be changed, so we settle to make the best of the situation.

Accepting things that cannot be changed is the other side of this question. Life circumstances fall in this category more often than not. Health issues have to be accepted so that we can make mental adjustments and move on. We also accept our own limitations regarding our progress in life. This could in some cases tantamount to giving up, but sometimes there is no choice. Suffering from an ailment and unable to do what we could, we accept with good grace and move on.

There are many examples of both situations, but at the end, we don’t resist the given circumstances and learn to live with them.

This was a real provocative question. I had to do some deep thinking. Thanks Fandango!

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I am writing to express my opinion, share my experiences and to maybe provide some insight. My blog is addressing women at 50 ( but men are welcome to read my posts) ,their issues and the questions that come up at this stage in life. I don’t aim to teach, but to learn together. View all posts by Sadje

Published October 8, 2021October 8, 2021