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I overheard two people having a disagreement this week. One person told the other that she was too willing to settle for something when she shouldn’t. The other person responded that she wasn’t settling, she was just accepting the reality of the situation. So that got me thinking about the difference between “settling” and “accepting.” Hence, my provocative question for this week…
Do you see a difference between settling for things and accepting the way things are? If so, in what way are they different? If not why do you feel settling and accepting are the same?
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After reading a lot of responses to this question, I have reached the conclusion that there is but a slight difference between the two. It lies in how we are viewing the situation. Practically, the result is the same.
We settle for things that we would like to be better but seeing no other alternative, we settle for the current situation. Relationships are often the ones we settle for. Marriage should NOT be one example but it often is. Siblings we end up with cannot be changed, so we settle to make the best of the situation.
Accepting things that cannot be changed is the other side of this question. Life circumstances fall in this category more often than not. Health issues have to be accepted so that we can make mental adjustments and move on. We also accept our own limitations regarding our progress in life. This could in some cases tantamount to giving up, but sometimes there is no choice. Suffering from an ailment and unable to do what we could, we accept with good grace and move on.
There are many examples of both situations, but at the end, we don’t resist the given circumstances and learn to live with them.
This was a real provocative question. I had to do some deep thinking. Thanks Fandango!
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Resistance is futile, so you must accept or settle.
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Yes, on most things but not all.
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I went with acceptance of physical limitations right away too.
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Yes, that’s sensible and wise.
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I enjoyed reading this your post 💯
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Thank you so much 🙏🏼
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Yes, I would say when you “settle”, you are more reluctant and when you “accept things as they are” you are more at peace with things as they are. 🙂
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I think you’ve put the matter into a nutshell. That’s perfectly right. Thanks
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It was a great question! Enjoyed your response 🙂
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It was! Thanks a lot
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You created an excellent distinction, Sadje. And, for me, the last line of your post is the most powerful. Don’t resist. That’s key. Well done.
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Thank you so much Jeff.
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well done, sounds like a solicitors answer!
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Thanks Kate. I hope it’s not too lawyer like!
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in a positive way 🙂
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💖🙏🏼
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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I have to say I agree completely with you Sadje! Great answer my friend! ❤
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Thanks Carol
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Perfectly answered!
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Many thanks
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