Fandango Provocative Question # 128 – Opposites or similar

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This past week I heard someone say, “opposites attract.” A few days later I heard someone else say, “birds of a feather flock together.” These two statements seem contradictory to me. I thought about my wife and me and realized that, while she can be high strung and emotional, I’m more laid back and easy going. But aside from that, we have much in common, almost like two peas in a pod.

So I wondered if people with opposite personalities, beliefs, and physical traits are actually drawn together like opposite poles of a magnet. Or are similarities in age, intelligence, religion, and education level the keys to lasting, healthy relationships?

So my provocative question this week is…

Do you feel that people are more attracted to one another by their differences or by their commonalities? And why do you feel that way?

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I think what brings people together are the common traits in their personalities. Be they, friends or romantic partners. If they have a similar approaches towards important issues of life, they are more likely to be attracted to each other.

However, a bit of contrast is what balances the relationship. Like one partner is practical and the other is a dreamer or if one is a planner and the other is impulsive, they are yin and yang and provide stability to their relationship.

This is especially important in how they react to situations. If both are hot heads, the relationship is likely to disintegrate soon. But if one is calmer and cool-headed, it is more likely to last.

In short, we come together because we find similar traits in each other and stay together because we also have opposing views which make the relationship work!

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18 thoughts on “Fandango Provocative Question # 128 – Opposites or similar

  1. I agree with you. Similar traits help to build the foundation of relationships while the contrasting traits of both personalities balance things. Well written Sadje👏🏾

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  2. Wow! Your post is opposite of mine and still makes perfect sense to me. Perhaps, what comes through is the essence we all call ‘balance’.
    One thing I didn’t add in my post was the frequent different investment energies in relationships. I don’t think a relationship is automatically ‘doomed’ even when one partner works a little harder at it than the other. The one working harder provides the balance sometimes too.

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    1. True that. In reality, there’s no set rule or formula for a successful partnership or marriage. It’s up to both the people in the relationship

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