Friday Flashback-Was it a good year?

I am sharing this post from May, 2020 as a part of Fandango Friday Flashback!

And also because I think it was an interesting post.

The very inquisitive Rory has asked;

Who were you and where were you for those ages – ages – 17, 21 and 35 – do you remember? 

what were the years? Have you changed significantly from the person you were at 17 to the person you were at 35 and were they indeed ‘very good years?’

The bonus question should you wish to answer it is this …. answer the same questions for the ages of 25, 45 and 55. Alternatively looking at the six ages 17, 21, 25, 35, 45 and 55 – have you changed profoundly from the core of who you were at the beginning of the Life journey?’


This is a test of my memory;

Do I remember when I was;


I was just finishing school. Not very confident or sure of myself. I knew that my aim in life was to go to med school and was studying towards it. At this time of my life, I was an extra sensitive teenager, taking on too much stress and always a nervous wreck.


In Med school. With a few like-minded friends having a whale of a time. Studying hard and having lots of crazy fun. Lots of laughs and lots of pranks. In fact, we were known as giggling girls in our dorm. Though I still was very prone to stress, but being away from home, and with great friends, it helped me a lot to talk to them and share my feelings.


I was a mom to a one-year-old daughter and was enjoying both the stress and the joys of a new parent. Managing home, motherhood, and finances of my own home was a twofold task. The tension of making the wrong choice and happiness at being able to do it on my own. It helped a lot to have the support from my husband. And the guidance I got from my father. Happy days, all in all.


This is a phase of which I don’t remember much. Unknown to me, I was developing full-fledged hypothyroidism and it made me lose big chunks of my memory. I would gain weight rapidly and lose it quickly ( the condition I had is called Hashimoto’s thyroiditis). With this yo-yo in weight, I also had other health issues. But not an unhappy or bad time as such. It’s just not that clear in my mind.


I started to get more confident. More sure of myself and was getting less concerned about the opinions of others. After turning 40, I had realized that I need not conform to what others expect of me and do my own thing. This gradually improved my own self-worth and I became less prone to stress-related health issues.


After bi-lateral knee replacements, I have entered a new, and healthier phase of my life. I am looking after myself more, walking more, and eating better. An overall improved me, in fact.


This is now. I am grandma to three adorable grandkids. A ten-year-old and two 13 months old babies. Wow! A wonderful place to be in.

Thank God for all the blessings that I have received in my life. I thank the trials in my life too because they have taught me much. All that has lead to the present is a result of what has happened in the past.

What about you, do you recall how it was, good or not?




16 thoughts on “Friday Flashback-Was it a good year?

  1. Before I start answering this I must tell you I really enjoyed answering these questions

    At this age, I was a teenager graduating from a high school run by nuns. I had never had a boyfriend. I was very shy and lacked self-confidence. Over the years I have definitely changed. I am not the

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  2. 17- 1984
    At this age, I was a teenager graduating from a high school run by nuns. I had never had a boyfriend. I was very shy and lacked self-confidence. Over the years I have definitely changed. I am not the same person now.

    21- 1988
    At this age life was exciting. I had a boyfriend. I was just starting a career in the social service field.
    Life was one big party.

    25- 1992

    This was a very exciting time in my life. I was surrounded by the love of my family and friends. I had a drinking problem at the time though but didn’t know it. I was beyond happy life was a young couple just starting out. I got married in 1991

    35- 2002

    This is a time in my life that I don’t have much of a memory. Thankfully I have a lot of pictures to look back on.
    I had a young daughter. I was so deep in my addiction that I could not work. My husband and I were in great financial trouble. This financial trouble is something we have been digging ourselves out of ever since.

    45- 2012

    This is still a time that I don’t have a clear memory. It is very foggy. I was still an addict and I was in and out of the hospital for mental health and they were doing ECT treatments. My day had been for & years. He was a huge role model in my life he was my hero. My daughter was a young adult going to college. She lived on campus.

    54- 2021

    My update is here. Life is wonderful. I have been in recovery for 3 years. We are celebrating 30 years married. \I am also a grandmother of a 2 1/2-year-old. My daughter is married to a wonderful son-in-law. Yes, I have a lot of health issues, but together you can overcome anything.

    Wow sorry for the long blog. But I can’t believe how I have changed.

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  3. The day I turned 21, my girlfriend and I ordered drinks at a small town cafe in Alabama. The waitress looked at our IDs and shouted back to three grizzled regulars at the bar (who apparently had bet my youthful looking bride-to-be was underage): “Get a load of this, she’s older than he is!”

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  4. My 30s were pretty rough, and a couple years in my 20s were bad. I remember these questions… or the post about the ages.

    Its good to reflect on where we’ve been. I can’t wait to see what the future holds!🥳💃🏼💕

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  5. A lovely post, Sadje. Thank you for sharing. In my 20’s lots of work, new babies and family, 30’s back to school, 40’s back to the workforce, watching the boys become men, and entering a new chapter of my life now. Lots of hardships and loveliness. Both! ❤️

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