Fandango’s Provocative Question #98

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

Last week I asked for some suggestions for potential provocative questions and a few of you came through with some good ones. This one comes from Paula Light over at Light Motifs II.

Her question revolves around interpersonal relationships. She asks…

When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?


I think it depends solely upon your relationship with that person.

With my husband, I usually confront the issue right away. It is good for maintaining peace at home to talk out the issue and work at a solution.

If it’s a friend, the approach will depend on how old and strong is our friendship. With my old friends, I can point out things that bother me about their attitude and so can they. With a casual acquaintance, I just swallow it and don’t react at all.

The tricky part is when it is one of my children. With them, I am careful and broach the topic if I feel they are in a frame of mind to listen and respond positively. Otherwise, I will wait for an appropriate time.

Peace of mind is important and people can spoil it for us by doing or saying things without thinking them through. But sometimes holding the tongue can be more peaceful. One has to choose one’s battles!




28 thoughts on “Fandango’s Provocative Question #98

  1. With Older Daughter especially I have to be careful how I word things, and when I talk to her.
    Very sensitive to even a hint of criticism.
    Yep, like with Ben… picking my battles. So many things are just not worth the hurt feelings and blown out of proportion reactions.🤗🥰

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.