Welcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.
Last week I asked for some suggestions for potential provocative questions and a few of you came through with some good ones. This one comes from Paula Light over at Light Motifs II.
Her question revolves around interpersonal relationships. She asks…
When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?
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I think it depends solely upon your relationship with that person.
With my husband, I usually confront the issue right away. It is good for maintaining peace at home to talk out the issue and work at a solution.
If it’s a friend, the approach will depend on how old and strong is our friendship. With my old friends, I can point out things that bother me about their attitude and so can they. With a casual acquaintance, I just swallow it and don’t react at all.
The tricky part is when it is one of my children. With them, I am careful and broach the topic if I feel they are in a frame of mind to listen and respond positively. Otherwise, I will wait for an appropriate time.
Peace of mind is important and people can spoil it for us by doing or saying things without thinking them through. But sometimes holding the tongue can be more peaceful. One has to choose one’s battles!
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Knowing when to speak up is the art.
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Oh yes, absolutely. I am pretty lacking in it though. 😅😂
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same here
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As I said, birds of a feather.
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I’m probably about the same. No issues with children, however. With my daughter, I’ll keep my counsel… but I might say something to my wife afterwards.
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I am extra careful with my children, perhaps because they are very sensitive to criticism.
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Not that it’s relevant to your discussion with Sadje, Pete; but I LOVE the hat. How cheery!
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I wondered if anyone would notice! That is my one concession to christmas
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I just did after Melanie’s comment. It is cheery.
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thanks.
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You’re welcome
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😄
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Definitely! 💖
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Thanks 🙏
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You and I answered the “pick your battles’ idea in the same manner. It’s important to decide what is worth the possible fall-out of mentioning!
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Oh yes exactly! It is wise to react according to the importance of the relationship.
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With Older Daughter especially I have to be careful how I word things, and when I talk to her.
Very sensitive to even a hint of criticism.
Yep, like with Ben… picking my battles. So many things are just not worth the hurt feelings and blown out of proportion reactions.🤗🥰
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You’re absolutely right. I am the same with my daughters.
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Yes, choosing your battles is, indeed, critical.
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Exactly! Thanks
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Truth. 🙂
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👍
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Great answer sadje! I am going to participate in this question this week! xo
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Great!
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I don’t know if our kids are more sensitive or we are “programed” to be gentle with them. Good answer!
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Thanks Leigha
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You are welcome.
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🙏🙏🙏
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