Fandango’s Provocative Question #88 – Control?

FPQWelcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question.

This week’s provocative question is about control — or lack thereof.

To what degree have you been able to control the course that your life has taken? Or is being in control of your life just an illusion?


I think that there are two factors controlling our lives.

Our own actions and decisions;

Most of what happens to us is a result of what we do and how we do it.

• Like step off the pavement in oncoming traffic and you’ll likely be hit with a moving vehicle.

• Work hard in school and you get good grades.

• Eat too much junk food and you will end up overweight or with health problems.

• Make stupid choices about voting and end up with a president like Trump.

And so on and so forth……

External circumstances;

It’s the set of circumstances that bears a direct impact upon our lives.

• Where we are born.

• The set of genetic material we have inherited.

• The opportunities we are given in life.

• Those unique factors which are a result of the why, the when, and the how, all coming together to make our particular lives different from anyone else’s.

Both of these factors determine what happens and also what happens next.

So in short, some things are in our hands and others aren’t. There is no way we can control everything aspect of our lives. So we do what we can and hope for the best.




18 thoughts on “Fandango’s Provocative Question #88 – Control?

  1. I think trying to control things that are really out of our hands can make us a bit crazy. I like your answers and agree completely. We can only do our best in any given situation, and hopefully make wise and informed decisions.

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  2. Yes, there are both internal factors (those we have some control over) and external factors (those we have little control over) that set the trajectory of our lives. Sort of like the question of nature versus nurture. Good response, Sadje.

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  3. I’m much happier since I learned that the only thing I can control is my own actions.
    External things are completely beyond our control. We can improve our own situation to some degree by the choices we make, but it’s not guaranteed. Other people are making choices too, and that may have an effect on us.

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