Do we lie to ourselves?
Are we always honest with ourselves?
Being honest with others is easier than being honest with ourselves. Tell no lies, is the principle that we live with. Being truthful is a rule that we don’t break. To others.
But are we hundred percent truthful to ourselves too?
By lying to ourselves, I don’t mean that we tell ourselves that it is day when it is actually night. No, not outright lies. By this question, what I really am asking are we honest about our inner feelings, our insecurities, and our fears.
Do we hide the feelings of hurt or betrayal from even ourselves? Because admitting to them will give us more pain.
Do we think that something that has hurt us, if not accepted will not exist?
I think that we sometimes do it, especially if it concerns a loved one. Though it should not be so, but often there is a reluctance to express our hurt or feelings of betrayal. But by ignoring the issues, pretending that it doesn’t exist can play havoc with our state of mind and our relationship with that person in the long run. Because you see, we may forget it for a while, the hurt is buried deep and surfaces at an inopportune time. This can result in unexpected consequences.
It’s human tendency to gloss over the unpleasant aspects of life. We often ignore what is unacceptable to us and lie to ourselves by default.
Would it help if we are always 100 % honest to ourselves?
I think it would save us from getting hurt when at the end of the day, there is no other option but to face reality.
It will also help us to resolve the issues in relationships that crop up due to this self-denial.
Ideally, all relationships should be based on truth and if we don’t base our interactions with our loved ones on honesty, we will soon feel the stress of carrying the burden of false expectations and hidden feelings.
What are your views about this issue?
Have you ever felt what I have described in this post?
Please do share your thoughts in comments.
Thanks for reading.