Quotes For life- Truth or tact

“Now be completely honest with me. Do you think………..”
Most of have faced these sort of quagmire questions where we have to choose between truth and tact.

A wrong word or a right word said in a wrong tone can cause relationships to crack. Be gentle and kind even in disagreements.


Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

Benjamin Franklin

I think this is my favorite quote on the subject. How often we are tempted to say, “I told you so” It does take a lot of conscious effort to be tactful and choose the words carefully.


Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you’re offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone’s feelings

David Sedaris
This ties up with the quote above. And just tells us that if we truly love someone we won’t be brutally honest with them. Loving means that we hide or water down the truth with a concern for their feelings.


And without a doubt, it is.


I may have selected the quotes which circle around the same theme but I feel that it is necessary to emphasize this point.

Another wonderful line I read today regarding this subject was to live in a way where we are not forced by circumstances to say something to hurt our loved ones and to not give them an opportunity to do so. I think this last condition is as important as the first one. If there is no occasion for others to hurt you than the relationships will always be cordial.

Do you think that tact is more important then truth? Or is it the other way around?

Waiting to hear your thoughts in your comments and feedback.



30 thoughts on “Quotes For life- Truth or tact

  1. I prefer people to be honest with me, but there are ways and means without being cruel or hurtful, and that’s where tact comes in. Once something is said, it cannot be unsaid and how many times have we thought we should have kept quiet or could have phrased it slightly better,
    I remember a kid screaming at his mother that she didn’t love him because he’d misbehaved. She told him she’d always love him, but at that particular moment she didn’t like him very much.

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  2. I think honesty is always the way to go. I also think when someone says they’re going to be “brutally honest” they’re just being brutal. There are ways of phrasing something that may be painful for someone to hear without smashing them over the head with it.
    Tact is good, but not if you’re using it to tell lies, even white lies. That’s my preference anyway. Other people prefer white lies and that’s okay too.

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      1. Yep. I can’t understand why anyone would be purposely hurtful.
        There’s “tough love” and sometimes that is needed, but even that doesnt have to be mean and rude.

        This is a great topic. Our society is a mess and could use a lot more basic kindness.

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  3. Today for example one of my granddaughters is very upset that her already paid for apartment on campus, which she’s moving into tomorrow, has changed. She was just notified today. Different roommates she doesn’t know, different location, etc. I understand how she feels but instead of saying something like suck it up, it may turn out fine, I chose, give it a try. (These girls who have been together for over a year already, in a sorority and look like models, are not my granddaughters choice. She’s already afraid they will be the stereotypical partiers). I offered she may really enjoy them, trying to be positive. It’s her senior year of college, a history major, so we’ll see.๐Ÿค”

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