How often it is that we are affected by something someone has said or done?
In doing so, we give the power over our emotional wellbeing to others.
It is neither the responsibility nor the burden to be carried by someone else. We and solely we are responsible for our emotional well-being and happiness.
It is a tall order; To be unaffected by the stuff going around us. We are vulnerable emotionally and psychologically by the vibes we get from others, specially those whose opinions matter to us. We are sub-consciously seeking emotional support and validation from our friends and family. And instead of support if we are given a dose of indifference or criticism we react by feeling discouraged and unhappy.
What we don’t consider in this situation are the following factors:
1. The other person is not aware of saying or doing anything untoward.
2. They may have troubles of their own which make them oblivious to the problems you are facing.
3. They may be meaning the words in a different sense than what you took them for.
4. Maybe they did mean what they said but overreaction on your part are just making matters worse.
These are tricky issues which originate when we build our hope and expectations around others. We need to build a wall around our feeling, so that we are not hurt by any or all the remarks uttered by others.
At the end of the day, if we are unhappy, we suffer. So take the reigns of your emotional well-being into your hands and understand firmly that it’s your own job to keep yourself happy and not of anyone else.
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