Can you see through my eyes

Or walk in my shoes?

Can anyone feel what another person is feeling?

Since we all view life through our eyes, and these eyes give us a unique look. No two persons looking at the same thing, see it exactly the same. The reason is what our eyes see, our mind then interprets it so that we make sense of it. That is why in a given situation, a word or a picture evokes different responses from different people.

Sometimes when a person has gone through an extremely hard time in life, to them it feels that nobody can feel or understand their pain or the hardships they are going through. Hence the question:

Can you see through my eyes or walk in my shoes?

When we want others to know that we have a feeling of sympathy towards them, we use words like, I know or I feel it. Or we can say I can understand. By using these words we can tell others that even though we haven’t shared this experience with them, we can, using our previous experience in life or our empathy, understand how they might be feeling.

There is a term, shared grief. People going through a sorrowful experience together as in the loss of a loved one, share the same experience of grief. They all have gone through a similar loss. Their feelings may not be exactly the same but would be falling under the same criteria. These people would be able to understand each other’s feelings to a large extent. Then there are people who share an exhilarating experience. They also have a pretty good idea, what others are feeling.

We can say words of empathy and sympathy but we really cannot experience what someone else is going through. Words are easy to come by. They are easily said but do they have an impact on the listener? When we express our support, and sympathy for the person suffering it can, in a way make them realize that even if we don’t share their grief, we are trying to understand it.

We develop empathy by trying to understand the feelings of others. There is need to be empathetic or to develop a caring personality because it is essential part of being human and to fit in the society. An uncaring or callous person is not only considered a misfit but can also labeled as a sociopath by the people taking an extreme view.

We all have in our lives, hard times. How we handle these also depends on, how we perceive them. Developing an out look in life, where we can see and put things in their proper perspective is an essential tool. This helps us to combat the hard times ourselves and to be able to understand what others are going through in a similar situation.

Let me know what thoughts you have on this topic.


29 thoughts on “Can you see through my eyes

  1. I’m an empath, I have no doubt. It’s a curse and a blessing….and likely why I chose the career path I did. That said, there’s no way to truly know how someone feels during a crisis or trauma or loss of a loved one. Just as every person is different and individual, so too are their views and reactions.

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  2. It’s interesting to consider the question you pose through a writer’s eyes. I’ve just being trying to get inside the head of one of my characters, trying to imagine how he would feel about what’s happening to him. For many things you can draw on your own experience, but this is way outside mine.

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  3. Perception is such a key aspect oh how we view Hard Times. I remember a conversation with someone who got divorced at about the same time I lost my partner. I remember him saying that I was lucky as I had closure where he had no closure. It wasn’t wrong just a reflection of how he perceived life at that time.

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  4. We all go through rough times and then still smile. That does act like a very good camouflage.
    Very few people will understand the pain behind that smile, others will just be jealous of your happiness not knowing what you have in your heart.
    That’s a little sad.

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  5. We are indeed all different and who is to say that the One who stands back from the crowd and doesn’t cry isn’t grieving the loss of someone dear to them. How can onlookers possibly know how that One Person feels when no-one asks, or even cares about them in general, being so wrapped up in their own grief, they have no room for anyone else except themselves. That One Person may have compassion for every one else present and only when alone lets grief ravage their heart. It happens.

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  6. We all face hardships, difficult times, and we emphasize; we can’t truly see, or perceive it the same. Like you said, it’s about perspective; that’s what helps to see clearly, and gives us the faith to overcome! Nicely written!

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