Who are we?

What defines us? How we think and react? Or how our religion or belief system has shaped our personalities? What sort of books we read and what kind of movies we watch? How our families and friends have influenced our mental development?

It is not one factor that defines us as an individual. We are, what shapes us during our lives. The longer we have lived, the stronger is the impact of life on us!

When a child starts to become aware of its surroundings, it’s effects start to become noticeable on their behavior. As we grow, we learn a lot of lessons. Some good some unpleasant. But then that’s life.

We get up on the bike of life, we fall and then get on it again till such time that we are riding the tide. But none of us ever become the Expert, we remain the students, the Novices in this journey to the end. And we need help in learning to deal with this difficult challenge. All the help that we can get!

In my opinion and experience, how we prepare ourselves for this test, can improve our journey and ease some of our difficult times. We can get a sporting chance to live a good life if we:

A. surround ourselves with good friends:

Finding good people to befriend, is not always easy. But if you are in luck, and find a good friend, don’t let go. Hold on tight and be a better friend in return. Company of good people improves all aspects of our lives.

B. Develop strong family ties:

We can’t choose our family. We have to accept them as they are. We can’t even influence them to change ( usually) . So how do we have a close relationship with our families if we don’t get along? And that is the truth in more cases than not. Well, we can acknowledge their shortcomings and take them as they are, as they would, you. As they say that blood is thicker than water, developing stronger ties with our family provides us with a mental stability and a sense of belonging. It enhances our tolerance and acceptance levels. In short, makes us more human.

C. Read good books:

I don’t mean that we should only read The good book (that too or any other religious book that you prefer) but any good book. Read what appeals to your inner self. Books are a great source of ideas, knowledge and awareness. Making friends with books means you are never lonely or ignorant. You won’t become a know-it-all, ( hopefully ) but a person with broad vision. A better version of yourself.

D. Cultivate a belief system:

If you are religious, then learn about your religion and it’s basic tenets. If you do not believe in religion, even then you have a basic set of values you like to base your life upon. Beliefs are an essential part of human psyche. We are incomplete without some principles to guide us.

E. Study the human life:

And how should we do that! We can watch movies and TV shows where human relations are discussed. We can listen to people around us, we can interact with our Co-workers and colleagues. The idea would be to learn from the stories around us. Some may be fictional, but then fiction is usually based on reality. One never knows when and where we may encounter a life changing experience or advice.

Finding self is an exciting journey. Enjoy it.

Let me know how you have discovered yourself.

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31 thoughts on “Who are we?

  1. My family is pretty toxic. Blood might be thicker than water, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for me. ^_^ As for “good books” — good is fairly subjective, isn’t it? I was a Literature major in college and had many intense arguments with my colleagues and instructors over what constituted a good book — I dislike many books in the literary canon for example. But they are canon and therefore good I suppose. *shrug*. Not to me. I’ve read more books than I can shake a stick at, and not all of them were “good” but heck, I learned something from most of the. Hell, I learn things from reddit posts — doesn’t have to be books.

    Anyway, I don’t know why I’m rambling on your blog. I haven’t had my coffee yet I suppose. ^_^ Interesting list. I don’t necessarily agree with it, but that’s okay. Difference is what makes the world go ’round. If we were all the same, life would be boring.

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  2. I agree with all the points you made. Family can be a challenge sometimes because we don’t get to choose them and there can be vast differences in personality and approach to life between family members. I’m a big believer in getting to know yourself and what makes you tick and having some foundational values. Mostly I like books that inspire me and uplift my spirit, though occasionally I like to ground myself in realism such as “If this is a man” by Primo Levi.

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  3. Interesting and thought-provoking post. Yes, our family can be the difficult one for sure. Tough to pick your family. Who we are at any one point in time is a sum of all the things that have happened to us over the course of our life till then. Some good, some bad, some huge, some small. But, who we are I think kind of evolves and changes as we truck along.

    We can choose to change things along the way. The more we expose ourselves to the things around us, the more we grow. Reading a wide variety of books can open our world to a wide scope of ideas for example.

    I think the key you hit on, is that life and finding ourselves and who we are is an exciting journey. Sometimes it will a difficult road, other times not so much.

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  4. I wish family tired were possible to cultivate for everyone. This being so, sometimes family can be simply those who love us. I think discovering yourself stems first from living life from that perspective. As you said, when we are Young, everything around us begins to affect our behavior. The ways we choose to allow are what shapes us.

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