What defines us? How we think and react? Or how our religion or belief system has shaped our personalities? What sort of books we read and what kind of movies we watch? How our families and friends have influenced our mental development?
It is not one factor that defines us as an individual. We are, what shapes us during our lives. The longer we have lived, the stronger is the impact of life on us!
When a child starts to become aware of its surroundings, it’s effects start to become noticeable on their behavior. As we grow, we learn a lot of lessons. Some good some unpleasant. But then that’s life.
We get up on the bike of life, we fall and then get on it again till such time that we are riding the tide. But none of us ever become the Expert, we remain the students, the Novices in this journey to the end. And we need help in learning to deal with this difficult challenge. All the help that we can get!
In my opinion and experience, how we prepare ourselves for this test, can improve our journey and ease some of our difficult times. We can get a sporting chance to live a good life if we:
A. surround ourselves with good friends:
Finding good people to befriend, is not always easy. But if you are in luck, and find a good friend, don’t let go. Hold on tight and be a better friend in return. Company of good people improves all aspects of our lives.
B. Develop strong family ties:
We can’t choose our family. We have to accept them as they are. We can’t even influence them to change ( usually) . So how do we have a close relationship with our families if we don’t get along? And that is the truth in more cases than not. Well, we can acknowledge their shortcomings and take them as they are, as they would, you. As they say that blood is thicker than water, developing stronger ties with our family provides us with a mental stability and a sense of belonging. It enhances our tolerance and acceptance levels. In short, makes us more human.
C. Read good books:
I don’t mean that we should only read The good book (that too or any other religious book that you prefer) but any good book. Read what appeals to your inner self. Books are a great source of ideas, knowledge and awareness. Making friends with books means you are never lonely or ignorant. You won’t become a know-it-all, ( hopefully ) but a person with broad vision. A better version of yourself.
D. Cultivate a belief system:
If you are religious, then learn about your religion and it’s basic tenets. If you do not believe in religion, even then you have a basic set of values you like to base your life upon. Beliefs are an essential part of human psyche. We are incomplete without some principles to guide us.
E. Study the human life:
And how should we do that! We can watch movies and TV shows where human relations are discussed. We can listen to people around us, we can interact with our Co-workers and colleagues. The idea would be to learn from the stories around us. Some may be fictional, but then fiction is usually based on reality. One never knows when and where we may encounter a life changing experience or advice.
Finding self is an exciting journey. Enjoy it.
Let me know how you have discovered yourself.
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